I’m not a virgin and I’m afraid my fiancé will find out once we’re married...( if I tell him he wont understand that it was all a mistake) so is there anyway I could prevent him from knowing and would it be obvious ???
2006-11-06 00:40:01 · 10 answers · asked by cheirie 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
It would not be obvious if you're not pregnant.Your fiance will never know it up to the point of your honeymoon, except you make love to other man not once, because somehow your vagina will loosen up and your husband will somehow feel it. Having a broken hymen does not mean that you're not a virgin at all, others have no hymen at birth.If you really don't want to know this by your fiance, you could make a lie to him saying these facts, (only if he asks you, don't make him see that you're guilty). But if your conscience can't take it sooner or later, you can explain it to him in right way for him to understand you.You said that it was all a mistake then tell him that.He really love you if he understands you, but if he breaks up with you after you explain everything there's only one sure thing in here - he will not be a good husband for you because he cannot take your faults in the past. Don't be afraid to loose a guy like him, because he did not truly love you if he can't accept the true you.Think about it, after all you said its all a mistake, so on your side do not do it again because if you do it again then its not now a mistake, you want it now..So be faithful enough for your fiance and give your best to make your relationship last forever.
2006-11-06 01:02:43 · answer #1 · answered by missy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first if you in a relationship. Honesty is the best policy never lie, because a lie will follow a lie and then another lie. Communication between you and your are the most important thing because it might get a little hairy.
It's going to be very obvious on your wedding night or if you too decide to do it before your get married.
The other thing you can do is go to a plastic surgeon and they can do something with the hymen and make it complete.
If it doesn't understand that its a mistake then its not meant to be. We all make them. He has no right to judge you.
2006-11-06 08:48:07 · answer #2 · answered by dee luna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long has it been sense you had sex and how many times. If you only had sex once and it was a while ago will affect how it feels. If he is a virgin then he won't have anything to compair it to. The hymen everyone is yapping about can be broke by exercise and other things. It isn't good to lie to him but if you think a good relationship will be destroyed by it than I can't say I wouldn't do the same. Do some exercises to strengthen the muscles down there to make it tighter if you think you need to. I think you'll be fine though!
2006-11-06 09:18:27 · answer #3 · answered by Sandy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok...first of all, why does he "think" you're a virgin when you're not? And second of all....why does it matter! If he loves you enough to marry you then that shouldn't matter! If he only loves you because you're a virgin...then run girl, run!
It does not matter about your past. What matters is if you guys love each other for who you are together! And if you do, then you should tell him that you're not....because you should not lie to him. But it should not be an issue anyways.
If you're good to him and he is good to you, that is all that matters. And that the love you share is true.
Good luck...the past is the past. Mistake or not! Now is all that matters.
2006-11-06 08:46:26 · answer #4 · answered by mslatin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you already kept this huge lie all the way up to being engaged then it will never work out. You can't build a relationship on lies. Sorry but your marriage will eventually fall apart.
2006-11-06 08:57:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anyone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get on the bike ride with girls, and when you see him after that, say You have a accident, your sit fall of and you didn notice. When You later sit dovn on the sticking pipe you last virginity.. (he is not the las guy in your life, you will have meny more).. :-) Lie, but it may work..:-)
2006-11-06 08:52:02 · answer #6 · answered by Spacekid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i always make sure that whenever i have a new man in my life i always tell them my "history" before our relationship even gets to the bedroom and thats what you should have done.but anyways heres wat you can do start off by asking your fiance about his "history" ask him how many girls hes been with if any and ask him what his "history" was like.then tell him well i really need to get this off my chect i have had a partner in my past.be honest before you tie the knot you would want your marriage to have any lies in it
2006-11-06 11:42:23 · answer #7 · answered by cookiemonster5210 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell him. If he can't understand that his a jerk.
2006-11-06 08:48:50 · answer #8 · answered by Aquamarine 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if your hymen is broken, you can tell him that it happened when you were riding a bicycle
2006-11-06 08:45:49 · answer #9 · answered by el_kale2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you just tell him. he'll find out anyway. if he loves you, he won't mind.
2006-11-06 08:45:04 · answer #10 · answered by melissa 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋