2006-11-06 00:28:54 · 19 answers · asked by ? 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Tell her but pick a good time and find a soft way. My cousin actually married a gay man and it took her years to recover, but they are still friends. She'll probably never be fully over you, so be respectful of her when dating men, if you remain friends. Rent a movie like "Clueless" or "Saved!" or "Brokeback Mountain" and watch it with her, you might be able to gage her reaction and put out a conversation opener. But most of all, remember, you can still love her and be gay.
2006-11-06 00:36:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No matter what happens, you need to break up with her. If circumstances are such that she might not be trustworthy, you don't necessarily have to tell her why, but it's VERY unfair to keep stringing her along even one day more than necessary.
She WILL probably be pissed. After a time, she might still want to be friends, or she won't. You kind of have to be prepared for that.
2006-11-06 18:50:12 · answer #2 · answered by Atropis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her, of course. It is neither fair to you nor to her to occupy more of her time if she believes that you are committed to her in a heterosexual relationship. Share your thoughts to her and let her decide how she wants to proceed. Perhaps you can tell her that up to now, you simply were not sure but that now you are convinced that you are gay and that you need to advise her. Good luck, but do the right thing.
2006-11-06 10:29:51 · answer #3 · answered by Jo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have sex with another man before you decide that's how you get turned on. Feeling gay and liking gay sex are probably two different things.
2006-11-06 08:34:46 · answer #4 · answered by St. Toad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her ASAP! You shouldn't be stringing someone along. I think the longer you wait to tell her, the more resentful toward you she'll be.
It'll be difficult, but you should just bite the bullet and do it!
2006-11-06 11:40:49 · answer #5 · answered by ByTheSea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to tell her right away. and make sure u relize that u telling her this is going to make her feel horrible. i would feel like a jack *** if my bf of 2 years was gay!
2006-11-06 09:54:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want to stay friends with her then explain how you feel and let her down gently if you just dont say anything you may loose a realy good friend, i meen i got on this girl i liked and ended up goin out with her mate i am glad i didnt go out with her coz we are really good friends and you have that with your g/f
2006-11-06 08:31:47 · answer #7 · answered by bam P 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What do you mean, you are convinced? You didn't know?
I would tactfully but honestly share with her, letting her know how you feel towards her. Take it from there.
2006-11-06 08:30:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you bi? If you're bi and still want her as a gf., then keep it to yourself and dabble when you can. Maybe ask to to do you from behind or play with toys together. Maybe one thing will lead to another and you can blame her then for making you curious about men. Good luck!
2006-11-06 08:33:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Do something,anything,but it's not fair to her for you to continue to keep a secret such as this. Are you sure you aren't bisexual?
2006-11-06 10:49:41 · answer #10 · answered by auntgnu62 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋