I was listening to a talk show as I drove in to work, it was about cheating, and reasons why....
many say the same thing, if needs weren't been met at home etc
do some of you feel its a cop out, oh sure some people aren't treated the same after the chase is over, .kind of like how great a brand new shiny car is until you have to make the payments , put gas in it and wash it, oh then its a little work...
and I am not aiming this at any gender..
do you thing there are just those who are selfish, or their needs aren't normal, the partner has no clue there's problems, they just have a problem with being faithful they may have an issue, with adult web sites yet they wouldnt dare end their relationship but want more than what they have
I think there are many reasons to re evaluate a relationship, and talk things over and maybe end it , but cheating is selfish ,
what do you all think
2006-11-06 00:27:29 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Cheating is selfish and cowardly. Cowardly because the person doing the cheating does not have the courage to face his/her partner to tell them how they feel.
2006-11-06 01:01:53 · answer #1 · answered by St.Anger 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Listen, what is cheating? Sex, in my opinion, with someone other than your spouse. (women do it too by the way) If that is the only need not being met and that's why cheaters cheat, then are you people trying to tell me if you talk about with each other and you can't come to a resolution you should divorce? You mean to tell me that if sex is the only issue in the marriage than it should be over? That's just plain silly. I have a great home life. We go on trips, talk all the time, think the same way about most things. Have no money issues, have fun together and a wonderful child. But because she doesn't have the same sex drive as me I should divorce her. Sorry folks, that is dumb. We both realized this and so we decided to have an open relationship.
2006-11-06 09:10:58 · answer #2 · answered by MrNiceGuy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well, if you think cheating is selfish, and marry to one man for life, that's good enough for you, then that's fine. but not everyone thinks the same, in many cases, one man/ woman can not meet all the need for their partner in many ways, people do grow together as well as they might grow apart from each other. For many reasons, devoice is not the answer for every couples. But end of the day, life has to be continued and people need some sparkly in their life. Then cheating became the thing to part of nowadays marriage.
2006-11-06 08:49:27 · answer #3 · answered by Tomorrowalwaysbetter! 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
To me, it is a cop-out. Communication should be first and foremost in any relationship, meaning that if your needs aren't being met by the one at home then you should be able to talk to them, come to a resolution and then fix the relationship. And if it isn't fixable, then people should be mature enough and respectful enough of their spouse to just leave the relationship. Cheating not only hurts you emotionally, but can have devastating effects that can and will last years, and sometimes a lifetime.
2006-11-06 08:30:45 · answer #4 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree! Cheating is very selfish! It not only hurts the spouse, but anyone close to the couple.
It's easy for people to wander, especially with a co-worker. Someone whom they think knows them better than their spouse, and whom they spend more time with than their spouse.
Communication is the key to successful relationships. If someone is feeling lonely, but they don't share the information with the spouse; how is the spouse supposed to know, or attempt to fix the problem?
2006-11-06 08:32:48 · answer #5 · answered by LucyLinnae M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I do not know y partners cheat...my hubby has cheated on me in the very worst way, yet I unable to leave him...the rational side of me agrees that cheating is totally selfish and if a man do love u, he will never do things that will without a doubt hurt u, but love is never rational....I admire women who can walk away from a bad relationship, but I guess I will never be able to....
2006-11-06 08:35:40 · answer #6 · answered by Fallen 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I cheated am I proud of that NO. I grew tired of my wife not putting out and treating me like a POS. The affair allowed me to maintain a relationship albeit a distant one with my spouse.. By cheating I didnt ask for sex as often which was great from her point of view because she didnt want it.
2006-11-06 08:42:42 · answer #7 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Any excuse will work for them. The bottom line is its a moral and chacture Issie, both of which a cheater lacks.
2006-11-06 09:10:17 · answer #8 · answered by Common Sense 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree. Cheating is selfishness. It is hurtful.If you care about that person ,why would you hurt them. Needs being met or not ,it's WRONG!
2006-11-06 08:31:34 · answer #9 · answered by blueberry_coconut_1 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think there are lots of reasons, but there is still no excuse. if you're not happy, either try to change things and work it out, or just leave. But it's never ok to cheat. I hate it. it angers me to no end.
2006-11-06 08:30:48 · answer #10 · answered by czekoskwigel 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋