things have gone a bit flat in my marriage any suggestions ???

Answer 1

Rekindle those special moments that made you fall in love in the first place. Re visit some of those things that the two of you use to do together that have fallen by the way side. Nourish your relationship and remember what it use to be like. Sometimes we become complacent with the ones we love and begin to take them for granted. It is always nice to remember they are the one we choose and the one who is in our corner. We are not alone, and it is nice to be appreciated.Go on a romantic dinner, or cook a romantic candle light dinner at home, if their are children get a sitter. Run a bubble bath and take it together, put on some music and dance yes at home. Go on a long quiet walk this is a good season for a walk through the park, get a weekend at a bed and breakfast. Cook and serve breakfast in bed. Just sit and think of times gone by, the good times, and laugh. Good luck and God bless

Answer 2

Which thing has gone flat?
Sex? Companionship? Conversation?
The best instant pick-up is a trip somewhere new, a nice hotel-room can be an aphrodisiac for many couples.
Also, a new hair-do, clothes, or a real talk to introduce some new things into your lives.
You may decide to make one evening per week "The Romantic Evening" with candles, wine and nice food, and who-knows-what at the end?
A little effort is called for - a little newness, freshness, and not allowing yourselves to get stale and never to take each other for granted. Do something new together, or apart, even if it is taking an evening class in speaking Spanish or cooking Chinese!
Good luck!

Answer 3

Hi,
I suggest you go on a holiday and get away from the same old same old, try to go somewhere the both of you will be pampered and be able to relax, then plan a romantic dinner with good food and a few drinks, hopefully then you can relax and enjoy each others company, also buy some sexy under wear or a outfit for the bedroom, some candles, or even some flavoured or scented oils to rub your man down with and vice versa, it worked for me and my partner, so give it a try! ( also my partner was really turned on with the toys i had looked into and brought a week before we went away) so if your up for it maybe you could also give it a go!

Answer 4

please firstly do not stray as it only leads to heatache. went through a very bad year in our marriage but thankfully we are now back on track and happier than ever. Firstly it is so important to keep talking, if ye have kids make sure that each evening you have some you time so you can chat about the others day, small thoughtful gifts, running baths, washing up after dinner are all lovely things to do for your other half. Nice to remember what the relationship was like in the early days and think back to how you felt then. good luck.

Answer 5

Depends why things have gone flat..................often times that is because you each take the other for granted so.......do something out of the ordinary. Why not, if you have children, arrange for them to be taken care of and get away for a night, or a weekend. Doesn't have to be a plush hotel, could be a simple B&B........but it would be a change from the usual. It could even me a night at home but with the usual roles changed.............if you are the male, why not arrange child care and cook for her? If you are the female............well try a little good food, wine and.......seduction without the distraction of children.

Answer 6

I suggest a few days in Amsterdam (obviously with your spouse). This city tends to break down your inhibitions and may produce the spark necessary to rekindle the old flame. Concentrate on your social life. Have regular social outings and meet other married couples. 'Let it loose' as often as possible. Indulge in the odd session of binge drinking culminating in gratuitous sex. Trust me, if you can balance a marriage with a regular social life, you are on the right road. If all else fails, try marriage counselling ..good luck!

Answer 7

start small or you may scare him with a new and seductive you,lol,,,,,,,,,do something nice,,something you may have stopped doing say,,,,,,,,,,,,,,make his favorite dish and 'write' i love you on his plate with whatever it is,,it may sound daft but all you need for a non embarrassing time is an icebreaker,,something so he knows what your intentions are without piling on the pressure,,talk,,make eye contact,,smile and laugh,,pay attention to what he says and ask him questions about what he may like talking about,,,,,it is so nice to see someone trying to mend what they have rather than trying to find a way to escape,,good on you for working at marriage.you and he know each other and sometimes that can get in the way when it goes flat as you said,,it can seem a tad silly but what is so wrong with being silly,,silly is good.

Answer 8

Yeh take your other half away for a surprise weekend. Book a lovely hotel in the middle of the country, thenicest room they have and take with you some champagne, chocolate, bath oils or bombs and spend the weekend with the tv turned off!!!!

Answer 9

Put in extra effort. Make a list of things u know your mate loves; make them happen. Plus add some zing into your sex life. It should improve. U should try and spend more time together. Take a vacation.

Answer 10

(assuming you are a woman) Buy some lingerie, and set up a naughty massage for him one night. Lingerie and high heels, and a massage, he'll love you forever. Get him a drink and he'll love it more...what follows after....you may as well treat him a little more. He may get it and try more to spice things up on his end for you...Good luck! Be creative...so many ways to have fun with the man of your dreams...maybe think of his personal favs and incorporate those into some fun...