Your Mate want to have a threesome what do you do ? Have it and may regret doing it or Dont do it?
2006-11-06 00:13:10 · 22 answers · asked by nicole52879 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Always in life there are risks. You say you may regret it, so that's the risk of this. The question to ask is whether the potential rewards outweigh the risks. What are the rewards for you? Do you think it would be fun and exciting? If you're "just" doing it for your husband, that still might be rewarding to you too ultimately, if he feels grateful to you for helping fulfill his fantasy, and/or thrilled that you're such an adventurous person. Also take into account the probability that the risks and rewards will come true. Once you've weighed the two sides, decide for yourself and follow through with your decision.
2006-11-06 00:44:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Threesomes and moresomes can be great if both of you are on board with it and are equally wanting to share each other and fulfill fantasies you have that require more than two people to do.
If this is not the case, than it's better-off left alone. Even in swinging no means no. If something doesn't work for either of you individually, than it doesn't work for both of you as a couple. So if a threesome doesn't work for either one of you than it doesn't work for both of you as a couple and it should be left alone. Swinging is not for everyone.
2006-11-07 08:39:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you feel about this whole situation? Is this what you want? Do you want your husband to sleep with another person while you become defiled also, because once you participate he will only justify why he need to act out in this way. Is this the type of marriage you signed up for? Is this the type of life style you want your kids to grow up in? To answer your question I would not have a husband who would want a threesome, I would give him his divorce papers and go on with my life, and find a nice guy who would love me and want to be with me and only me.
2006-11-06 08:29:26 · answer #3 · answered by pradavee 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree don’t do anything you are not comfortable with because it may come back to bite you. With that said my wife and I have been together 14 years and have had several 3-somes mostly with other guys and they have been great. Talk about spicing up your sex life!! We also talk about our adventures during sex with just the 2 of us and that really heats things up… I would have to say it has worked great for us, but make sure that you are both secure in your relationship.
2006-11-06 15:18:21 · answer #4 · answered by Parrothead 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be true to yourself. If this is something you are uncomfortable with, then do not do it. And if you want to keep your marriage do not do it. Do not compromise your morals, values and ideas of what your marriage is. And he should respect your decision, as your husband. If he will not leave it alone tell him fine we can have a three some me,you and another man of my choice. Some fantasies are better left in our minds, as just that a fantasy. Good luck and God bless
2006-11-06 08:18:33 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you took your vows, did it say anything in there about adding more people in your marriage? Any man who asks to bring another person into the marriage is asking you to give permission for him to have an affair. He can't love you if he needs to bring someone else into the marriage. By the way, this is strictly about sex. Men who truely love women would get sick at the idea of sharing her. Think about that and then if you still think it's okay to bring someone else into your life then go for it. Of course, you will see this is a sure way to end a marriage.
2006-11-06 09:46:56 · answer #6 · answered by cookie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if u dont want to dont do it its a 2 way thing u both need 2 be happy. If he dont understand then hes not worth it. personaly I wouldnt I wont him 2 myself n dont want him with another woman no way if he did that would be the end of us even after 9 years u need to have respect for each other.
2006-11-06 08:19:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you think you might regret it, don't do it. A regret for a threesome could destroy your relationship.
2006-11-09 09:26:50 · answer #8 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By the very nature of posting this question, doubts exist. So if you need advice about it you are unsure and if you are unsure then the experience is not going to be what YOU want. So you have answered it yourself.
Don't do it! Because You won't enjoy it- he will of course, but its YOU that counts in this.
2006-11-07 05:14:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't do it especially if you have these feelings. It can ruin your relationship. If he can't understand it. You need to ask yourself how important you are to him for him to want this sooo bad. If you are his world, he will drop the whole thing.
2006-11-06 08:46:28 · answer #10 · answered by Teesa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋