I love my friends, I really do. They're loyal and they care (to a reasonable extent), but I'm the only one that seems to buy them presents for birthdays and Christmas.
My mother tells me I don't get anything in return and that I should stop giving, but that doesn't seem like the right attitude. What do you think?
2006-11-05 23:49:23 · 14 answers · asked by Link 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
To truly "give" is to do so without any expectations of a return. Does it make you happy to make and see your friends happy? If so, then continue.If it makes you resentful, then stop. As long as you aren't trying to "buy" their friendship...keep giving the gift of giving.....love.
2006-11-05 23:57:12 · answer #1 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're doing the right thing, so don't stop. The idea of giving a gift isn't to get one in return, it's your way of saying something special to someone else. Also, your friends may not be in a financial situation that allows for them to buy you a gift.
2006-11-06 00:06:07 · answer #2 · answered by grandm 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is so great that you give gifts for the pleasure of giving. That's the way it should be. It is wrong to give and expect something in return. Friends who have given to me have said that they consider it a blessing to be able to do so, and they do not want anything in return. Giving gifts does not mean you're buying friendship or love. It's a way for you to express your love.
2006-11-06 02:19:32 · answer #3 · answered by postcardtrader 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that your friends appriciate it and i think that if you feel you should give that is a good thing and that your mother should stay out of it . most of the time a mom just wants to help . but there are times that it is the wrong advice that a parent gives there isnt enough giving in the world i think everyone should show to thier friends that they care and to helpful things like donations . so keep giving never let the harshness of the world tell you to stop giving and showing u care
2006-11-05 23:53:35 · answer #4 · answered by jazieyez 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What do you get in return ? Even the slightest return'd do fine!
Do they give you satisfaction being by you, at times,or all times?
Do they create a happy and safe environ for you?
Do they give you right pieces of advice?
Do they make you happy?
Do they enhance your livingness?
Do they provide you with some knowledge?
Do they offer you anything?
If "yes" at anyone-even 1- that's OK, so long your gifts are not to
a degree that exceed normal "little" gifts; unless you're the 1000 naire of the band!
If you get nothing in return, man, you're about to enforce a rather criminal situation on their part--sorry to tell!!!
It doesn't matter what they give you in return, for your gifts; but they must give SOMETHING in exchange!!! Got it ???Otherwise you are BUYING them up!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Ciao........John-John.
2006-11-06 00:05:25 · answer #5 · answered by John-John 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would still get them things but don't spend to much money make sure they know you care, and by now they should. But don't let your mom make that choice for you, that's up to you but like I said I wouldn't spend as much money on them as normal. That's all up to you, but I would still get the gifts because if you stop your friends might think somethings wrong. Or you could always ask them like for Christmas when and where your going to exchange gifts give them hints but DON'T be like you have to get me something.
2006-11-05 23:58:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Real friends ask for your time, not for your $$$ money $$$
you're sort of like the bank account that could be relied upon. but depends if you've got more than the othes. no worries with little memories of an item to each person.
If you're happy with giving more than receiving, then fine - don't stop the love of giving...let them know what's up
2006-11-06 00:52:04 · answer #7 · answered by Introverted White Waves 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think it's very sweat what your doing. do they apreciate the gifts you give them and did you think why they dont give you gifts too? Maybe they dont have money or maybe they just dont want to that you need to find out. But what you do for your friends is good. I buy gifts for my friends on their b-dag, when i go on vacation i bring a souvernir for them and if we celebrate something together, x-mas, new house and so on
2006-11-06 00:43:06 · answer #8 · answered by mr nice guy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your attitude - why do you give them these presents - to get something in return?Or just for your own pleasure and to make them happy?
2006-11-05 23:56:03 · answer #9 · answered by Victory 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
been there. i finished while they began inquiring for the presents somewhat of only receiving them gratefully. it have been given to a element the place they actually began reminding me and hinting approximately what they had like to get as birthday promises. now i only supply them advantageous, little products like wine, mints & small bins of chocolate. i save them 'everyday' so no possible 'whinge' that somebody else have been given a nicer present.
2016-10-21 08:39:48 · answer #10 · answered by reatherford 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋