2006 has brought some good things my way, and some bad things. Don't get me wrong here, things could be a lot worse where I live and I am grateful they aren't.
But next year, my friend and I planned to move away together, see a bit of the world and do something with our lives. She is a seasoned traveller, spent all last year in NZ, India, Thailand etc. and I haven't done anything like this before. I don't know if I am really cut out for it to be honest. I always thought I was happy here.
This year I have had a series of failed relationships with guys and I wanted to go away because nothing much was particularly happening here. Now, however, a guy who I have liked for months and who has gradually been showing more interest in me has admitted he likes me too! I don't know what to do. Another reason I am scared to go is that my mum has MS (multiple sclerosis) and I don't know if I could leave her.She is okay at the moment but I know she could get worse.Can anyone advise me on this?
2006-11-05 23:46:05 · 19 answers · asked by guylian_chocolate_seashell 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you don't go, you'll always regret it - life passes by so quickly, you should grab every opportunity you can get to live it to the full. As a Mum myself, I am in no doubt at all that your own Mum would want you to go too - despite her illness. Have you talked your concerns through with her? Maybe you could visit her GP together and he can talk you through how this illness progresses and what your Mum's long term diagnosis is, that might put your mind at rest - and as someone has already said, you're only a phone call away.
The bloke situation is trickier - you can't expect him to wait around until you return, but are you willing to put your plans on hold just in case he turns out to be 'the one'?
I wonder if you're just using these 2 problems almost as an excuse not to go? You seem a bit unsure of yourself - it is a scary decision to make, and you shouldn't be afraid to say so!
Just remember, you only get one shot at life, this isn't a rehearsal for the next one!! Whatever you decide - good luck...
2006-11-06 01:11:23 · answer #1 · answered by Pink girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for a short period away first, say no more than 3 months.
You'll be able to think more clearly about this if you've had some experience of travelling. If your Mum is ok now, she is unlikely to decline rapidly in 3 months. If the guy really likes you, he'll still be interested when you get back.
If you are really worried about your Mum then you wont really be able to relax away from home for a long period of time and heaven forbid anything happened to her you could end up with a lot of regret for not spending time with her.
Good luck with whatever decision you make.
2006-11-06 07:54:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
regardless of what's going on at home, I think if you are able to take the opportunity to go travelling, you should definitely do it. Life's short, so make the most of it.
Definitely dont put your plans on hold for some guy - it may turn out to be nothing, and you'll kick yourself for missing the opportunity to go travelling. You can always come home if your mum really needs you, but I'm sure she'd rather you got out and lived a bit while you're still young.
It'll really open your eyes going travelling, you'll come back able to deal with alot more crap than you could before.
GO! GO! GO!
2006-11-06 07:55:24 · answer #3 · answered by monkeynuts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Traveling, and seeing the world is fantastic, but you have to do whatever is right for you. If your mother got worse while you were gone, how would you feel? And the new guy in your life finds someone new, then what? You can travel later in life if you still want to, but you should consider staying home for now. Best of luck with whatever choice you make!
2006-11-06 07:52:10 · answer #4 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you're having doubts about it - perhaps travelling isnt for you.
In theory it can sound very exciting and glamourous - but its not for everone.
Put aside this guy and your mother for a minute and think of your life and what you would be gaining out of travelling - or possibly loosing by travelling.
Is it something you ever dreamed of or aspired to do - or did your friend just put the thought in your head?
Will your troubles or circumstances suddenly change or disappear just because you are no longer in the country to deal with them? I dont think so!
Id make a list - of pros and cons of going - take a night to yourself to consider it carefully and make your decision for that - best of luck whatever you decide though.
xx
2006-11-06 08:43:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to be too caught up in dating, you are fortunate enough to be able to see some of the world so i think you should go, enjoy your life. Plenty of time for dating, if your mum's ok at the moment then go, you may not get the chance later on.
2006-11-06 07:55:59 · answer #6 · answered by chickadee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about your mum.
What if you went for short periods? Rather than commit to a long trip what if you agreed with your freind to try a month first.
Such a difficult decision. Maybe talk to the guy and your mum, see what they say? But make the decision for YOURSELF. Are you going because you want to or because your friend wants you to go?
Goodluck sweets
2006-11-06 08:40:55 · answer #7 · answered by nycgrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This one is really down to you. Normally i would say go for the travelling, but if you have issues at home which would prevent you from enjoying the experience then maybe you had better think about it first.Way up the pros and cons and see how it turns out. Best of luck ! x
2006-11-06 07:58:28 · answer #8 · answered by Helen L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your mother how she feels about it. I know someone who's had ms for many years. If she feels okay, go for it.
And suggest to your new guy that he comes too! Set yourself a time limit of say, three months!
2006-11-06 09:06:06 · answer #9 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go, because you are only young once and you have to make the most of opportunity while you can. I'm sure your mum wouldnt want to you to not go because of her.
If you dont go you will regret it later in life.
2006-11-06 08:16:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋