She is jealous , that, she doesnt allow me and her mother even for a hug:)
So I can guess how she will react for her sister( or brother)..
Any methods to overcome the jealousy? :))
2006-11-05 23:43:34 · 11 answers · asked by ? 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
We have 2 that are 17 months a part. We thought that maybe the same issues would arise. We just made sure our daughter was involved in every aspect of the pregnancy. She came to all the prenantal appointments. She was involved in picking out her brothers crib etc. I would start showing each other a lot more affection iin front of her so she gets used to it. Take her to playgroups so she can interact with other kids and get socialized. She will realize that other kids can be fun. When the baby does come remember she needs you more than they do. The baby eats, sleeps and poops. Your toddler needs constant attention. You can put the baby down and let them cry for a little while so you cna tend to your daughter's needs. no baby died from crying. Do not say no to your daughter when it comes to the baby. Let her touch them let her help with diapers and clothes and toys. Don't make it out like these are your toys and theses are the babies toys. They are going to share everything down the road anyway why not start now. they obviously need to have certain thins that are just for them but right now it's not important. Don't make her world stop because the babies sleeping, let the baby learn to sleep with noise. Remeber it's her baby too. Makke sure she knows that and she will move right into the role of big sister with ease. Good luck and Congratulations
2006-11-06 00:41:37 · answer #1 · answered by ploobis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations!
My two boys are around the same age difference apart.
There's lots of books out there to read to your oldest about Mommy having a baby. Involve your child in preparing the nursery, take her to prenatal appointments, make her a part of the process once she understands she's getting sibling. My eldest loved going with me to doctor appointments and using the stethoscope to hear the baby's heart and measuring my stomach with a tape measure. He'd come home and measure my tummy twenty times a day. Have your husband start spending more one on one time with your daugther so that she's used to mommy being focused on a new baby and totally comfortable with Daddy only time. Get her a really special doll when you bring the baby home so you can both parent your new babies together. When the baby arrives, just involve her as much as possible either through having her help you with the new baby or having her mirror your behavior with her special new doll.
Good luck! It wasn't as hard as I thought it would be having two children this close together. Now they are 2 1/2 and 4 1/2 they are such good buddies. It'll all work out. My most important advice is to nap as much as possible right now!
2006-11-05 23:49:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im in the exact same position, my daughter attacs me when i come to hug her father, she wants us each for her, and now that i have the new baby, shes gotten so jeaouls, but see one of u have to be the nice guy and one the bad, for me she loves her father more so hes always nice too her, and im not mean to her just mean by letting it hard on her telling her this is her brother, u have to play together, u know explain these things to her, tell her that she is number 1 and shes the best, and that her brother or sister love her very much, they r just a baby and they dont understand but she is a big girl and she has too, so mainly just keep explaining and make her feel shes wanted, dont hold the baby in front of her so much, let her in have her take responsibility for the little things, trust me she will come over in time, about the hugging thing im still workin with my girl on that, but hey no kids perfect, good luck for u and ur wife.
2006-11-06 17:41:14 · answer #3 · answered by susu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her excited about having a sibling to look out for. Ask her what sort of things she would like to do with the baby. Also give her a present (from the baby) when you bring the baby home from hospital for the first time, so that she is nicer to it.
As for the hugging, don't leave her out. Have a few family hugs, so she doesn't feel left out.
2006-11-06 00:08:05 · answer #4 · answered by Netto 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i really did not know what to do when i had my second becouse my baby boy was15 months when i had my second he was and some times still is he asways took the new babys bottle and was hidding the babys food and clothes but i explanded to him that mommy loves him (there is no daddy both of there fathers took off after they found out i was pregnat) but i had my friend watch scarlet the new baby after like the first month once and a while so i coould take gaven to the park or out and spent some time with him and now we have mommy and baby time mommy and big gaven time and he will even play with the baby and ask if the baby can come with us to the park it took him about one and a half months but we do it
2006-11-06 03:14:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Involve her as much as you can with all aspects of the pregnancy. Then when the baby is born continue with this theme let her help to pick new clothes for the baby and bath her etc. Good Luck !
2006-11-06 00:50:12 · answer #6 · answered by Helen L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, congratulations! 2d, commence now once you're nonetheless pregnant. Do issues that make the two yo sense like she is making the selections and helping be a huge lady. as an occasion, if somebody supplies you a modern-day and that's outfits, enable her positioned it interior the toddler's textile dresser -- enable her %. which drawer it is going to bypass in. or according to risk at bedtime (or each time in the process the day) say, "how approximately you help me examine to the toddler. the toddler likes once you and that i examine to her/him." The greater in touch you have her sense, the greater desirable it is going to likely be. i'm guessing she is clingy b/c she knows something is going on and that her time with mommy is changing. infants sense those issues. attempt to no longer make too many vast transformations in her worldwide, she will have adequate transformations coming..... dangle in there!
2016-10-03 08:17:18 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
congrats on ur 2nd babe...
its common for the first one to get all the attention from the family. this makes them jealous of the sibling.
make ur daughter feel not seperated or lonely. i'm the first daughter of my family (my sis n i am 5 yrs apart though) and i remember my dad taking me see the babe (my mom was at her mom's house then). they used to keep the babe in my stretched legs while they sit near me. also i was the one who received the babe when mom n dad brought her home.
also let ur daughter choose a name for her sibling (need not be official name) and use the name to call the babe at home. make her feel one in a group n family. give her responsibilities; but take care that they dont go into her head too much n not let u near the babe. be near by or around ur daughter whenever she is near ur babe. let her play with the babe with out hurting; teach her how to..
as to u n her mom hugging include her also in the hugging and let it be a family hugging.. be happy ur daughter will be a good sis :)
2006-11-06 00:53:27 · answer #8 · answered by luv2liv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her a brand new baby doll with diapers,bottles, maybe a little stroller and let her take care of her "Baby" while Mom is with her baby. Then Mom and her can "talk about babies" and have lots of time together even when Mom is busy with the new baby.
2006-11-05 23:53:43 · answer #9 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her feel a part of it all - it is "her" baby. Give her a special gift when the baby is born and ask your friends and relatives who visit to make over her as much as they do over the baby, making her feel important that this child is partly hers.
2006-11-05 23:46:35 · answer #10 · answered by Serendipity 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋