I have this friends we are good friends. We know each other since we were young. we used to talk allot. about difirent personal things. One day he told me he was gay. Now dont get me wrong its not that i dont like these people or hate them but its the first time i knew one. For the course of moths our comunication wasn't very good and i only talk to him online and not that often. now he has a boyfriend. And i fel very aquered thats why a tried everything to avoid him. iwe havet seen each other in months. I dont want to meet any of his new friends or boy friend. M i doing the right thing. Because i was raised to believe gay is not good (bible). But he was a good friend what should i do. I agreed to go to skating lessons with him, too try to make a conection back with . but i have allot of trouble dealing with the problem that he;s gay. and what people wil think of me when the see me walking next to him. what should i do.
2006-11-05 23:39:15 · 16 answers · asked by mr nice guy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
He's your friend, whether gay, straight, purple, yellow or blue. People must understand that being "gay" or whatever is a behavior, but it really doesn't matter. Accept him for who he is.Be joyous that he's not pretending to be someone else. And that hopefully, he's happy.
And in reality, people can give less than a damn of who your walking next too, unless it's robin Williams, or somebody famous. Depending on where you live. remember, friends forever
2006-11-05 23:54:47 · answer #1 · answered by Officialy Missing You... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have to decide if you want "society" to dictate to you who like and dislike and your being friends with him has nothing to do with the bibles analogy of being homosexual. YOU are not gay so it does not apply to you. Remember it is written by men and is the opinion of men and therefore biased from the writers point of view. If you are a true friend to this person then be a friend. He has not tried to push his beliefs off on you has he? I have known so very many gay people and they are no different than other human beings in every respect but one. If you can't except him tell him and don't keep going back and forth with it prolonging the problem. End the friendship.
2006-11-05 23:56:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have been brought up to believe something and now it is too close to home,,i bet you miss his company terribly dont you! meet your friend,,your very good friend and tell him what you have put here,,you have said how you feel very eloquently without really putting him down at all,,,as for what others think,,well,,if we all lived by what others think it would be a sad day for everyone concerned. what did it look like before when you and he walked down the street,like two lovers or like two men? these negative reactions of others you judge will happen are stemmed from your own fears,,at the end of the day he is a friend or he isnt and friends can tell each other very personal things,,which he did,,he trusted you with private information because he did not like keeping his true self hidden,,he trusts you and you have let him down,,you can do something about it tho,,,it is up to you of course but if it were me,,and i know many if not all will agree,,he is gay,,it does not change who he is or his feelings for you,,do you lose a friend because you are scared or do you regain a friend improve your life,,,you wont get jumped on and it is doubtful he even fancies you so,,go on,,,,,,,,,,,talk to him.
2006-11-05 23:48:45 · answer #3 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this person has been your "friend" since you were young, I don't think his "sexual" preference should matter.
Personally I don't agree with the "gay" life style either, so of course it's going to be "uncomfortable" for you. I think you need to sit down and talk to your friend and explain your feelings. If he's really your "friend", the two of you should be able to work something out.
If you'd rather not spend time with the two of them, then hang out with him "without" his partner. My friends and I go out and do things without our spouses so I don't see anything wrong with asking to see him when he's "alone".
Friends are hard to find. If you are lucky enough to have one, I'd think twice before I'd throw your friendship away. It doesn't matter what other people think, the people in your life who "matter" know you aren't "gay" and they are the only ones you should be concerned about.
I wish you the best and hope you are able to find a "solution". The choice is yours, good luck.
2006-11-06 00:53:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if you are so in to believing the bible, doesn't it say something about "do unto others," and "love thy neighbor," etc. Who cares about you walking with a gay guy. What he does in the bedroom is his choice. If you are walking with a straight, married female, does that mean you are doing her? Enjoy your friendship and ta heck with what others think. It's what you two have that matters. Stay friends with him and meet his new circle of friends. I'm sure they are use to having straight people as friends who question their way of life but in the end you all will be fine and it won't be as big of a deal as you are making it out to be. He entrusted you to tell you of his choice and how do you know that other friends of yours don't have a deep dark secret you don't know about. Why ruin a good thing? Good luck.
2006-11-06 00:06:15 · answer #5 · answered by onecharliecat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't turn your back on your friend because he is gay. The great majority of homosexuals are born that way and, if they had a choice, would not be that way. What other people think is of no concern. The people who know you know you are straight. I'm sure it was very difficult for him to tell you, but he trusted you as a friend - so far, you have let him down. If you are uncomfortable, don't hang out when he is with his other friends. I believe the Bible is referring to people who do it out of lust.
2006-11-05 23:45:30 · answer #6 · answered by Ms. G. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being gay does not rub off on you because you are friends or walk next to him.
I don't know how old you are (you sound young) but you probably do know some gay people, maybe you just don't realize it or they may be in the closet.
I hope you will be able to remain friends with him. And if your religion teaches intolerance, maybe it is time for you to do some soul-searching of your own.
I wish the best for both of you.
2006-11-06 00:35:54 · answer #7 · answered by Ara57 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all why should it matter? If he chooses to be gay, thats his buisness. Dont get me wrong i like all different kinds of people, and you know that one song "Jesus loves the little children, ALL the children of the world" well that should do it......And as far as the being seen with him in public, when you said that the first word that popped in my head was SHALLOW.........What do you have to worry about? Your not gay so who gives a f*ck what other people think!!!! If anyone judges you or him its only because they have insecuritys about themselves, they try to put other people on the spot to keep themselves from being judged......You should like your friend no matter what......You liked him before you knew he was gay, right?
2006-11-06 00:06:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sticking to your beliefs, which is the right thing for you to do. I do not have any problems with gay guys or girls and if my best friend said he was gay then i wouldnt have a problem. In fact I would tell him how brave he was to speak out. It wouldn't be an easy thing to do.
2006-11-05 23:45:56 · answer #9 · answered by Rossco 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to look past that and be his friend. Put what you believe to the side and remember that he's human and has needs just like you. If you can't accept him because he's gay then don't bother trying to be his friend.
2006-11-05 23:43:50 · answer #10 · answered by Iron What? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋