What should singles be looking when deciding to settle down? What was the deal break besides being in love with that person?How do you handle arguments differently than you did when you were single?
2006-11-05 22:49:50 · 9 answers · asked by Moca 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
For me...obviously love is on the top of the list. Amongst the deciding factors were compatibility and the fact that I've known him for several yrs prior. He and I were best friends before getting married.
As far as arguments are concerned, we try to argue rationally (not always easy of course) and communication skills have improved. If we can't agree on one thing, we compromise so we are both satisfied with the outcome.
2006-11-05 22:58:04 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. I was pregnant!
2. Make sure you are same religion. Have same ideals in regard to children ie. do you want them? how many? smacking or time out? stay-at-home or day care? Money - share or separate?
3. Deal break - just couldnt bare the thought of being with anyone else!Sorry, know that sounds weak but it's true.
4. Now we are married, it's ridiculous threatening to leave (i used to do that all the time when i couldnt get my way when i was single) as leaving a marriage is a huge deal. Honestly (and im not proud of this) there is a lot more sulking going on. But then again there are a lot less arguments coz really they seem pretty pointless - we have to get along! BUT there is a security that comes from being married. It's kind of hard to explain, but it is so much calmer than when we werent married. I know that he really loves me to have made this huge commitment to me.
Good luck. Oh, and it really helps if you like your in-laws!!!!!!!
2006-11-06 07:03:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Others decide based on age, others based on financial ability. But me, when I finally realized that I want to spend my life with my partner and decided I want to raise kids with her, get a home etc. You'll just know when to tie the knot. Of course, you both have to be into it.
Regarding arguments, having arguments are normal to couples, in fact some say it is a sign of a healthy relationship. It is one way of communicating. You would not know what the other thinks if your partner does not talk to you and vice-versa. it will be handled the same way when you were not married. But I am pretty sure your arguments are more serious and would involve the family. You should not be afraid of having arguments, its normal.
2006-11-06 06:59:33 · answer #3 · answered by JustMe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love was obviously the major deciding factor. We knew we wanted to spend our lives together.
As for timing, we were ready sooner, but we waited until I had graduated from college because my degree is important to me and I didn't want to give that up.
2006-11-06 07:31:19 · answer #4 · answered by usmcwife722 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take things cool.. if ur in an serious argument better 2 shut up listen, thtl ease up it.
2006-11-06 06:54:07 · answer #5 · answered by sunflower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was confident I can adjust with anyone,my marriage is 18 yrs old
2006-11-06 06:57:12 · answer #6 · answered by sk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always asked myself, would I be better off with him or without him .
2006-11-06 07:06:24 · answer #7 · answered by txcatwoman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was my bad patch of life and I was taking wrong decissions...
2006-11-06 06:55:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
whether i will be happy while ******* her.sex ,family satisfacxtion ,both.
2006-11-06 06:52:37 · answer #9 · answered by niranjaninamdar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋