If we can live together. We each have our own flats, that we like, sometimes I stay at his and sometimes he stays at mine and sometimes we stay in our own places. We're both coming upto 50 and have been single for a while.Although we love being together we each like our own space as well at times. Can you be married and keep separate houses? Has anyone out there actualy done this? Our flats are only 5 mins walk apart.
2006-11-05 22:35:49 · 11 answers · asked by PATRICIA L 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
if ur flats are only round the corner i think its a great idea lol u dont have to do his housework too! i dont see why a married couple cant live apart if anything i think this will keep u happier as u wont have so many arguments about stupid things that u do when living together!!!
2006-11-05 22:38:46 · answer #1 · answered by jaqueline 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
Firstly, congratulations.
There is nothing wrong with keeping both of your flats when you first move in together as it will give you each your own space when you need it. You may be surprised what it is like to live with someone. I have been living with my other half for just over a year now and although you have the initial honeymoon period, there will be a period after around 3 months that teething problems occur. You just have to work through them and things will get better again.
You could always eventually sell both flats and buy a bigger house allowing you to have some space when you need it, without leaving the building, maybe a garden shed/summer house/spare room.
I used to love having my own space and we now have a one bedroom flat and we're still together doing well. Good luck.
2006-11-06 06:40:10 · answer #2 · answered by Vicky A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same situation.....my boyfriend and I both own our own properties and we have decided to keep both...and we live ten miles apart!!!! We are planning to get married soon, but have both been on our own for sometime and we value our own space.
I have a key to his place and he mine so we can come and go as we wish.
I have found that because we don't have to live together we spend all our time with each other ....through choice.
Most people seem to think it's a perfect arrangement he does he's own washing and ironing......I do my own garden...car maintenance......and if things should go wrong, which I sincerely hope they don't, neither of us will have to start from scratch again.
We both have children from previous relationships and his property is his children's inheritance as mine is for mine.
Things may change in the future....nothing is cast in stone, but for the moment this arrangement suits us both.
2006-11-06 07:42:09 · answer #3 · answered by Jane E 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im in the same situation, but we are going to sell up and buy a bigger house which will allow us to have our own space still as there will be lots of room! You are in your 50s now but as you get older it may not be so nice living alone. There is no point getting married if you are going to stay apart, so if happy carry on as you are.
2006-11-06 06:45:41 · answer #4 · answered by Annie M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
congratulations! i think it's perfectly feasible to be able to keep your own flats. my parents have been married 36 years, and although for the first 20yrs or so they lived together, my dad moved to russia for 4 years to work- at the time it was too dangerous for me and my mum to go with him so we stayed in england. now, my mum lives in the cotswolds as she works there and my dad lives in london- they see each other most weekends and during holidays, and it works perfectly for them. arguments have been a lot fewer and the only noticable difference is that the family home in london doesnt get as much cleaning as when my mum was there!!!! good luck with whatever decision you make
2006-11-06 07:06:23 · answer #5 · answered by hp25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes ! If you can afford it, go for it, as long as he is ok with it. Otherwise, pool your money and get a bigger place, with plenty of nooks for you two to hide in from each other.
Part of the joy of marriage, however, is spending time under the same roof. And, what if one of you gets sick (eg. food poisoning, stroke, heart attack) and the other person isn't there to respond quickly and get the person to the hospital. You'd regret it for the rest of your life.
Another thought though, if you are spending money on rent you aren't utilizing real estate for growth in the value of your net worth. Do you have enough for retirement ?
2006-11-06 06:42:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you can afford this it makes sense to keep both places. Perhaps you could rent one of them out and keep a room for yourself to go and have some space if you need to - just make sure that the lodger is OK with that! Good luck.
2006-11-06 07:04:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure I see the point in getting married, then. Sorry.
Surely you can come to a compromise and buy somewhere big together, with certain rooms as your own special areas?
2006-11-06 06:39:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're happy with the way things are, then why change it, & risk being miserable
2006-11-06 06:44:39 · answer #9 · answered by tildypops 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love him then ya. i mean im related to people who have done it.
2006-11-06 06:41:23 · answer #10 · answered by just ME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋