ok so this is the story - a woman has sex with another woman, and acheives orgasm, but feels really yuky afterwards and regrets the enitre episode.After some time this woman gets married to a man, but finds it difficult to acheive orgasm. She is not attracted to the same sex, and doesnt want to ever be a lesbian, all she wants is to be with her husband. How come she was able to have sex with a woman but not with her husband?. What can she do to have a normal sexual relationship with her husband - they are both very happy otherwise. Is there a website to get this kind of info?...
2006-11-05 22:33:40 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Is it possible for her to have a heterosexual relationship as she badly wants,now that she has already had a homosexual one?....
2006-11-05 22:44:32 · update #1
What do u mean by "she can't have sex with her husband'? Do u mean she can't orgasm when having sex with him?
The only explanation for this is the fact that a woman would know exactly how to pleasure another woman because they have the same exact anatomy. The wife should educate her husband where and how to pleasure her.
2006-11-05 22:45:27 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason you. . . ahhh. . . she had an orgasm is probably due to the woman she was with knowing how to help a woman achieve it. This is not secret knowledge. Probably there was a lot of foreplay and so on.
Feeling yucky was most likely a mixture of "I am not a lesbian" and shame over the act.
She needs to sit down with her husband and talk about how she needs more time for foreplay. She can ask for what she needs. That is OK. Some men don't know how to please a woman. They don't realize that some women cannot always achieve orgasm through intercourse only. And, since each woman is somewhat different in what is pleasure able to her, then it is important for hubby to know what buttons to push, if you know what I mean.
Oh, by the way, having a homosexual experience does not "taint" one or make one homosexual or bi-sexual. Most likely, that is already there. You cannot become gay by one act. I supporse you can condition yourself by having gay sex a few dozen times, but I think if you have gay sex that many times- as a willing adult, that is, you are probably gay or bi. If everyone who had one or three or so gay experiences in their life became gay, then most people would be gay.
2006-11-06 07:19:55 · answer #2 · answered by Jack P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all don't feel yucky or regret any past experience you had. It's not like you commited murder and you learned two things about yourself. 1. You don't like sex with other women. 2. You can have an orgasm. Some people go through life with these questions never answered.
However, in order for you to feel fulfilled with your husband you would need to speak with him and investigate together how you can achieve another orgasm with him. I'm sure he'll he very much into it. What man doesn't want to please his woman.
Good luck to you.
2006-11-06 06:44:06 · answer #3 · answered by St.Anger 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't know of a website, but i think this woman should do two things.first, let go of the past and stop feeling bad about herself.maybe this is the main reason she can't have an orgasm with her husband, she's still hung up on the experience, feeling guilty about it.one experience like that doesn't make her a lesbian, specially if she doesn't want to repeat the whole experience.secondly, she should try to explore herself, what feels good to her, and discuss it with her husband.better yet, include him in the exploration. furthermore, i don't think she needs to confess her past deed to her husband.some things are just hard to understand by other people but easier to understand by one's self. she didn't cheat on him, so she can spare him and the relationship any unnecessary misunderstandings
2006-11-06 07:04:04 · answer #4 · answered by out of my wit's end 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Orgasms are good and fulfilling. If the lady wants not to be a lesbian then advise her that she should talk to her husband and when ever they want to have sex they must have a prolonged fore play. I am sure your friend will get her orgasm when she is properly aroused. i do not know of any web site. this is first hand experience. Also you can tell the couple to engage in oral sex. Like the lesbians do??
2006-11-06 06:42:41 · answer #5 · answered by R C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your husband and tell him exactly what you need him to do for you to achieve an orgasm. Don't just sit back and let the poor guy guess at it or it may never happen for you. If you want to be in a sexually satisfying relationship with your husband then you have to share your needs with him.....Good Luck
2006-11-06 06:38:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Apparently her husband needs to learn the other woman's technique. I would guess it involves her tongue more than his unit.
Try that.
2006-11-06 07:19:29 · answer #7 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
were just better sexually than they are. Nothing to be ashamed of-the mental part is more there with another woman, plus keep practicing with hubby-you'll get there
2006-11-06 07:47:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her talk 2 her hubby n sort thgs out
2006-11-06 06:45:14 · answer #9 · answered by sunflower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋