My friend and I have been planning to do some travelling next year, to see Scotland, Ireland and Wales and then go and live out in New Zealand and Oz for a while.
However for the past six months I have really liked this guy and (at last!!) he asked for my phone number and admitted he likes me.
The reason I wanted to go away to visit these places is to a) see some more of the UK and the world and b) because there didn't seem to be much going on here. But now there is, I don't know what to do!
I wouldn't usually be bothered about a guy but I have a feeling this one could be extra special. But I do want to do some travelling! Help!
2006-11-05 21:32:08 · 18 answers · asked by hannahrarian 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This works for any tough decision........
You are going to flip a coin, but first you must get prepared.
Right down what either side of the coin will mean and have that in front of you.
Toss the coin, and read the answer..... then and this is the important bit.... immediately examine your feelings. If you are happy with the result then go with it. If you are unhappy.....
Worked for me several times in my life
2006-11-06 02:16:38 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a difficult one, Firstly you should never give up on plans you have already made with with your friend because of a man no matter how much you are desperate or a boyfriend. if things are meant to happen between you and this guy he should understand that you already made plans to go away travelling and stand by you.
But on the other hand if it really could be that good with the 2 of you then maybe your friend will understand your reasons for not wanting to go travelling with her. But if you are real young then you should just go travelling as you have the rest of your life ahead of you to find love.
Whatever you decide you have to follow your heart and do what is right for you and not what is right for anyone else as it is your life and your decision and you have to live with whatever you do.
An old friend of mine went to Oz and she said it was the most amazing experience in her whole entire life and is so desperate to go back again. The only reason she didn't go sooner was because of a previous boyfriend and she regrets letting him hold her back from doing the travelling she had always wanted to do.
I don't really know what else to say except for let your heart decide not the people around you.
2006-11-05 23:06:06 · answer #2 · answered by gingey10 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain that you want to do some travelling, and that once you have done the travelling the two of you fell the same, then maybe it could be extra special. There is no rush into making a life changing decision to move abroad somehwere to live, especially if after the travelling you both feel the same and want to develop what the two of you have. In which case the decision will have to have his contribution made and then you can move on together, weither it being you stay where you are or you move abroad together. Whatever you decide, have fun with the travelling, and if it is extra special, it will still be here when you get back.
2006-11-05 21:40:51 · answer #3 · answered by Need_to_know 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm from the Antipodes and lived in Britain for more than 20yrs. Before I left 'Gods zone', I travelled the length and breath of both New Zealand and Australia from a very young age, shearing from farm to farm paying my way through college and university. Now I work all over Europe.
Take the opportunity to travel now. Chance doesn't always strike twice in the same place. You'll enjoy the many places you wish to visit. The people are also very friendly and helpful. See as many countries as you can and live a life experience. The world is forever changing. Take the chance girl.
You are not being selfish if you take this opportunatey. The man in your life would be more so if he does not understand and through him denies you this experience.
2006-11-05 22:12:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely go travelling with my friend. The opportunity may not come around again for you and you will regret it. I think you should have a serious talk with your male friend and ask whether your relationship would survive a 'time out' for you and your friend. If he has feelings for you and understands that it was something you planned before any relationship with him, then I am sure he should give his blessing for you to go. If he is extra special, I am sure he would understand. Also, I would have to think about my friend and letting them down. Good luck on what you decide to do.
2006-11-05 21:42:20 · answer #5 · answered by Somer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How soon do you need to start making travel plans?
If you don't need to start buying tickets and stuff now, then you maybe don't have a problem.
Spend some time with this guy, and see if anything special happens.
If it doesn't, you can go off travelling.
If it does turn into a special relationship, you can talk to him about it.
I wouldn't start worrying until you know the guy better.
2006-11-05 21:38:49 · answer #6 · answered by mcfifi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how about getting close to him during the remaining months of your stay and tell him to wait for you if you can. if he really likes you, he will do so. and you can just do the traveling to reach your goal of seeing some more of the UK and the world. you don't have to stay there too long because there is already a reason for you to go back. I'm sure your friend would understand that. hope that helped.
2006-11-05 21:41:11 · answer #7 · answered by twenty_four 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good Luck and Von voyage!!. Go and enjoy every minute of your journey with a friend you feel something special. I know you will be more excited on your travels. Give and support him whatever his wishes. Otherwise, you' will regrets this in your life that this oppurtunity will not the same again...
2006-11-05 22:23:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're in a tight my friend! If you can, travel with this guy but discuss it with your friend first. If you cant travel with him then again sit down with your friend and explain that you cant go because you want to make things work with this guy. Hope your friend will understands. I think travelling at such a premature stage of your relationship with this guy might ruin everything. Cancelling your plans with your friend might make her feel betrayed and sad, but what can you do? It will be easier to make up with your friend than your prospective BF cause he might find someone else while you're gone. Think about it....
2006-11-05 21:49:41 · answer #9 · answered by Sammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you have two months to hang out with that guy if you will travel on January 2007. Just go out, have some fun with the guy, tell him about your plan, and see how he's gonna react.
2006-11-05 21:44:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋