Here's the thing me and my ex got divorced after the divorce we were like best friends we also have a child he's 7 now and i have remarried 5 years now anyways he got involved with this girl and we didn't see eye to eye on that but it was his life...she's the type that cheats alot ...but hey some people change....Anyways 3 years ago she started working at my workplace and we actually became friends and she told me that the child her and my ex had was not his, well i felt i needed to tell hime the truth he was so mad at me saying i was trying to cause him pain and so on and has not seen our child in 3 years any advice would be good on what to do in this situation...i've tried talking to him he refuses to have anything to do with me or his son...I'm to the point where i want him to give up his rights but i'm trying to do what's best for my son...it's hard not to go up to him and smack the s*** out of him sorry a little frustrated...any advice anyone have a similar situation..thanks
2006-11-05 21:24:12 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Its very immature of your ex to take it out on the child.
Kids need to see their Dads.
Try and sort it out, otherwise if he doesnt make contact then just let it be
2006-11-05 21:27:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be honest you have crossed the line,,you interfered with something that was nothing to do with you and for your husband to hear that kind of thing from you must have been a shocker,,,,you seem to think that to get along with an ex you have the right to make decisions that really dont effect you,,you are too close and need to pull back,,you have your life and he has his,,if you want to make any headway you have to apologize,,likely the best bet would be letter so it can be re-read after he has thrown it,,you have to admit you were completely in the wrong and that you understand where you went wrong and that you have no intentions of ever repeating it again,,that all you want is your son to have his father back ,,say what you need to but you have to let him live his own life,,you are not friends,,you are ex,s and there is a role to be played for all concerned.
2006-11-05 22:58:51 · answer #2 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're actually not over reacting.. even nonetheless he has financial accountability for his infants, it would stay in basic terms that. of path the ex spouse would in all probability desire to have him lower back yet confer with him frankly and tell him which you do no longer like it. Honesty is the main suitable coverage. If he rather cares for you, he does no longer desire to wreck you via conversing together with his ex spouse different than financial concerns. Do you have an ex husband too? in case you do, ask him how he would sense in case you're doing the comparable subject?
2016-10-03 08:13:35 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep out of his family problem, don't interfer about the affair of his family which you are no longer belong and affected. Give him his own space and the benefits of his own doubt. Let him discover what his new wife have been doing including their son. Concentrate to your own family as both of you and ex has their own separated families to live. You have respective home to focus your attention. In relation to the new wife, okey, be friend to her but only a limited kind of friendship as a co-workers, not as a family friend. If you can talk to this ex husband about his plans and support to your kid, its better, but if I were you and you can sustain raising this kid with a new husband without the support of that ex husband, never mind talking with your own ex husband about your kid. This is to avoid future conflicts with him..
2006-11-05 22:12:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what goes on in his marriage is his business, so long as it doesn't negatively impact your child. you should have kept your mouth shut about the paternity of his other child.
As for him not seeing his son, there isn't much you can do about it. you can't force someone to see a person. i do agree that he's taking it out on the boy, rather than just being an adult and dealing with you....
Is it possible that the woman lied to you, knowing that anything she said to you would go right back to her husband, and that she is urging him to sever ties to you and your son?
2006-11-06 00:31:13 · answer #5 · answered by Heath 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its time to let this ex be history. Apparently he doesnt want anything to dowith his son either , probably cuz he has to go thru u. Not worth it. Are u happy in your new relationship? why dont u concentrate more on the guy that your with who probably is a better father figure than his real one!
2006-11-05 21:42:09 · answer #6 · answered by ruthie flowers 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
send him a certified letter stating that you would like him to give up his parental rights so your husband can adopt him and be a dad to him. Be right to the point. Mention nothing else about. See what he does. Unforthunately you can not make him be a dad to your child. good luck
2006-11-05 22:01:29 · answer #7 · answered by kelsey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its sad tht he doesnt com 2 c his own son. i pity. but if he doesnt care abt his life wth the second , y u care , jus leave it alone until he gets 2 knw the truth.
u carry on wth ur life, all the best
2006-11-05 21:49:08 · answer #8 · answered by sunflower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-11-05 21:32:37 · answer #9 · answered by Double J - Jonni Jigolo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋