it's just like 'The Bridges of Madison County'?

Question

I have been married for 7 years, my husband is 25 years old then me. And he loves me very much, I was very happy with him until last summer when he was away for one month on a business trip. Then I fell in love with my colleague who was then just joined the company for a couple of month. My colleague is also married, so we had a love affair! Both of us didn’t plan to do it, but it was just happened. My colleague his wife lives in North of country and our company is in South. Therefore, they only see each other during the weekends. Anyway, my husband came back from his trip, I thought I would stop seeing my colleague, but I couldn’t, I am so in love with him!!! Sadly!! However, 4 weeks ago, my colleague resigned after only has been in the company for 6 months!!! No one know the reason, he just said he had family problems etc…I think his wife might found out somehow that we were seeing each other, or ….then he moved back to North, since then, I only had a few e-mails from him. He said he has problems with his aging parents and his children who need more looking after etc…to me, these aren’t real reasons for him to resign, as he had a very well paid position, it is almost impossible to have another same position again in his life ( because his age etc.) the sad thing was he didn’t tell me he was going to leave the company and back to North, didn’t even say ‘good bye’ to me, maybe he didn’t have time, I don’t know… but I miss him badly during last 4 weeks…it became like torture to me, also I have to pretend nothing happened when my husband is around…this love affair just like ‘ The Bridges of Madison County’ what can I do……………….. please help.. thanks

Answer 1

He wanted to end it with you and did not want to have the big breakup discussion, which is pretty cowardly but it is what it is. He wants to make a go of it with his wife. While I can imagine you are hurting you will need to get over it and move on. I think counseling is a good idea.

Answer 2

Bridge Over The River Kwai,

Answer 3

I hope u are not living your life according to the book and the movie Bridges of Madison County. And while the story is good, the underlying plot is about cheating...and like the movie, nothing good will come of it.

I commend your lover for moving away. He probably grew a conscience and realized that what he's doing is wrong and probably thought that losing his family over u is not worth it at all. I suggest u forget about him and focus on your own marriage.

Answer 4

Bridges is a movie and a book, not real life. In real life, relationships that are based on one or both people being married are also based on lying, cheating, and deceiving. How can a relationship based on these things ever work out? It can't! If you don't love your husband, then leave him. But, don't expect to hook up with this guy you cheated with and expect to have a fairy tale ending - it ain't gonna happen!

Answer 5

Maybe he did something you should have done...Wake up and smell the roses...where are you with your husband. This is a smelly situation sweetie and I think you'd better get some counseling. Marriage is for mature people not for those that want to play house, with the neighbor guy yet!

Answer 6

Don't make this sound all romantic by comparing it to a fictional movie! You broke your marriage vows by cheating, and you are trying to justify it. Come clean to your husband, and see if he is willing to work things out. You could be the reason for two marriages being toast!

Answer 7

Sounds like he woke up and said..."Gee, maybe I shouldn't screw up my marriage with this other woman" And he did the right thing. Hopefully you haven't ruined what you had. And just like the Bridges of Madison County, the bottom line is still about cheating and the LIES that go with it.

Answer 8

Yes your story is like Bridges but the only difference is one is fictional.