Can anyone help me?

Question

I just need someone to talk to or someone to give me advice...

I'm 15 and homeschooled, I love it. I get my social activities and my friends from Church. I have a very loving boyfriend, I always want to be with him; I have faith I will be. Please, don't critisize me for believing that at "so young" up until now, it's the only love I know, so maybe I'm being naive. But I believe it.

Lately, I have been having a lot of problems with people at church. On a few occasions, a friend would be having some problems so I would use my cellphone to text with them or we would pass notes during service (usually only when it was something we'd heard before.) And some of my more -brainwashed- friends (They have a very strict way of how church should be) mentioned something and now all they do is make fun of me and won't talk to me.
There are also horribe rumors going around, saying I want to have sex and everything.
They won't even talk to some of my remaining, close friends.

I am feeling horrible right now, I feel like my mind is mush and my chest is tight. I'm not exactly sure why. Maybe because of all of that? Its been on my mind for a while now.

My ex and the other friends say I have "changed" and say everyone notices it.

My youth leader even took my phone without me knowing one night while I was talking on another phone, then I had to pry it out of his hands while he told me he didn't want to see it out during youth. It wasn't necessary.

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I tried talking to them, they won't listen to me. They refused to. I even wrote a note!

My 'friend' Tyler, one of the most active youth in the church; said I was going to hell for texting and things I've done.

Answer 1

Dear Friend i'm not sure if my words would help u but i'm gona tell u my opinion, it's fact that u r so young and don't get upset from people who r close to u when they say that, and I don't see where is the problem that make u feel that way is because they not talking to u any more and they were before, that mean they aren't real friend and don't think that someone is better than other everyone have good and let say little bad behavoir, don't let they efect on you and think that maybe there are some people who treat them like they do to u, life it's so big and u still in the begining , you will see alot of thing that u cann't imagine it, I lived it and now i'm 25 and I know for sure there are alot thing I will see in future the good and bad. try to be with those who accept who u are ,those who try to learn u the right thing to do without making fun of u, and try not to give ur secrets to ur friend special this age, coz u all growning and ideas r change,u said u have bf u love that's ok. but becarefull always put a step back so u don't get shock in future, u love him and have compelet faith on him,ok but u have to think that maybe that will change in future and maybe not, what i'm trying to say prepare ur self if anything get wrong it's not the end of world.

Answer 2

Funny how humans understand the martial arts. I have watched it difference significantly sine the mid 1960's. Beside the present taste of the month sort, the questions requested via humans have converted so much too. * In the 1960's humans might question me if I was once a black belt. * During the 1970's they might ask what measure black belt I was once. * Then I might be requested if I was once a Sensei * After that humans requested if I was once a Master. * By the 1990's a few might question me if I was once a Grand Master Now there are extra humans jogging round claiming to be the pinnacle of a brand new sort that the numbers have grow to be brain boggling. What makes it even worse is that within the 1960's there have been recognized to be best 3 Americans that had legitimately inherited a pre-current martial arts sort. So if there have been so few truly American Soke, How can those hundreds and hundreds of Shodai-Soke (Founder of a brand new martial artwork) be legit. Only a Soke that has inherited a legit martial artwork can respect a brand new martial artwork. Shodai, (Even legit ones), are not able to respect a brand new sort. That holds precise although there's a board of Shodai-Soke. Only a real Soke can respect a brand new artwork. And do not even get me began at the Oriental Soke, They do not respect non orientals typically. Good one Katana!

Answer 3

Peer pressure is a difficult thing to overcome. You want to be accepted, but that is not always the case.

Home school is nice, but public schools are different. You learn more in public school than what is taught in class. Behavior, social norms, communication skills, idioms.. etc. Since you are limited to home schooling and church as a social outlet, you are not up to Par with the friends at church. What you say may sound like English, but when it comes out, it may have a different context than what you meant. It is considered rude to text during church. Not only are you disrespecting the pastor, but you are also creating a distraction to the person receiving the text.

You are young, and if all your social experience is between church and home schooling, then you are naive in capitol letters, at least in most peoples eyes wither you have earned the label or not. Texting in church gives the impression you are obsessed with the guy and also text allows other people to read and make their own opinions without having the whole story. It is easy to jump to conclusions and you make yourself an easy target for gossip.

Stop texting. If you want to communicate, then talk. At least you will be present to clarify misunderstandings and you will know who is present in the conversation. It is times like these that lets you know who your real friends are.

Answer 4

Wel dear, i personally don't understand home school, because i think that people who have home school dont get the opertonaties to interact. They dont get the chance to expirience things in life for them selve. Have problems like other teen who goes to public school. About your boy friend i think its nice that you found love and hope its your true love. But you need to make sure it is. By meeting new people and having other friends you we see if he is wright for you or not. I think your church friends are not very good friends. They schould know better. When they see that you have a problem their supost to help you and talk to you and not ritisize you. You need to talk to them face to face over the rumors. Tell them how you feel and tell them that they are not saints and they wil make mistakes too. They go to church and act like saint and that they dont do anything wrong but as them didn't god say help all people and fergive your enemise. Be a good person don't lie, respect other and dont discriminate and life by my rules. Tell them to go read the bible again and they can see that their nor living like god wants. If that doesn't work i think you need to find new friends, and let the church know. let the preacher speak of this problem without giving any names you can even send an anonumis letter. Let the guilt work on them. Wel dear hope everything goes wel for you.... and hope i answered your question

Answer 5

if your friends are acting like that then they arent your true friends. I have found athat even though it is great to have a lot of friends, you dont need that many. I have a best friend who moved 23 hours away and a gf of two years who is three hours away. As long as you have your bf that is all you need. If you get more friends then great but you shouldnt have to change who you are to make friends. that isnt the point of friendship. Honest.y, i went through middle school with no true friends, actually it was from k - 8 grade but now i am in college and have 186 contacts from here alone!! Just be yourself and it will work out for the better

Answer 6

just don't be affected. if it the rumors isn't true you shouldn't be affected. ignore the people who makes fun of you. do your part in the church. and just enjoy your time with the friends that are really true to you. hope that helped. or if you think you could talk to those people who are making fun of you about what you are feeling about their actions towards you that would definitely better.

Answer 7

These friends are not following the teachings of the church. Thus they are not real friends. when you grow up you'll get out on your own and see real life.

Answer 8

u r 2 young.dont spoil your soul by going2 church