how can i tell if i am depressed?

Question

i am 24 married with 3 great childern, ages 4, 6, 7, my husband works graveyard, and well sometimes i just feel like crying or sleeping, i am also scared that about nine months ago my husband cheated on me, so i ve been obsessing over every lil thing that i find different on my body. does evey wife act or think like this if they suspect their husband of going outside their marriage...

Answer 1

Yes. I think you are depressed.

The thing is, I don't think you should take medication for it....

It sounds like situational depression, not chronic. A therapist might be able to help you and your hubby work out your issue but don't go to see any doctors that just want to send you home with a handful of pills. It sounds like you have WAY more to deal with than most 24 year-olds. Be proud of your tenacity!

Chronic is the depression that a person needs meds for (and it is actually rare).

The best thing you can do, is love yourself. Get out of the house, leave the kids with a sitter and have some relaxing time to yourself. Read a book in the park. Take a long relaxing bath in a nice hotel room.... do whatever it takes but don't sit at home and sulk.

Good luck. I'm rooting for you!

PS - your husbands cheating has nothing to do with your looks (even if he says so). It has to do with him not playing by the rules. He is the cheater.... plain and simple. It's not your fault. He might just like to get out and away from the family and got carried away... whatever.... his mistake. Don't punish yourself for it.

Answer 2

If you feel that you have a problem with being depressed then you need to get into a doctor they can tell you or get into a counselor they can also offer meds to help with depression. But only you know yourself nobody online can tell you if you are depressed so if you feel something is wrong get some help. As far as the cheating husband do you know for a fact that he is going outside the marriage? If not then sometimes depression can cause you to feel things like that. But if so then you need to confront your husband and deal with it toegther let him know how your feeling and see if you can work things out. However in my opinion from what your saying is that you suspect that your husband cheated but dont know for sure and with that feeling of being tired or just crying yes it does sound like you have depression. (just my opinion from someone who has and is experiencing depression) my doctor first diagnosed me with mild depression but it got into now severe depression so just get a jump start on it before it gets outta hand for you. Get into see a counselor and get some help. Most of it goes with being home with kids all the time lack of attention with husband so all you have is interaction with children most of the time you lack that adult conversation and things are changing in your world. Get a friend and set a day up once a week or every other week just for you and your friend go to lunch or shopping whatever makes you feel good about yourself without your husband and children. While your older kids r in school go to a gym who has child care and go work out for a hour and meet people there. But you need ot get out and do something not stay in house all day long with no adults all the time. That will help quite a bit. I could go on but that should get you started in the right direction. Good Luck and God Bless.

Answer 3

It is a good sign that you are aware that something may be wrong.

Depression is a chemical imbalance in the Brain, according to the experts.

Sleeping disorders, lack of concentration, uncontrolled crying are all possible signs of Clinical Depression. The Body and the Mind Slow down.

The affair that your Husband allegedly had or is having may be a major contributor to you lack of self worth and "depressive state of Mind."

You must maintain your physical and mental health to provide for your children...a Huge responsibility.

I would consult with your Physician and a Mental Health professional to assist you in dealing with these issues.

There are many medications that can be prescribed by your doctor that can balance your "Mood" and assist you in any recovery.

At the end of the day, you are a Mother who has 3 wonderful children that depend on you and Love you.

God Bless and Good Luck.

Answer 4

Everybody gets depressed sometimes. When the feelings continue for long periods of time continue, it is time to seek help.

I was diagnosed with depression a few years back, the change my behaviour was so slight that I never noticed, but my friends and family did. They never discussed it with me and it almost ruined my marriage.

I have been there, also like alot of men used to drink a lot to hide from everything and everyone. Feeling so lost, empty and lonely I did everything I could to forget.

Ignoring the issues and problems will only make them fester and drive you insane. If you obsess with the thought your hubby has cheated then you have a bigger issue. Trust!!!

Answer 5

If you are crying alot then that is a good sign of depression.

Signs & Symptoms
Persistent sad, anxious, or "empty" mood
Feelings of hopelessness, pessimism
Feelings of guilt, worthlessness, helplessness
Loss of interest or pleasure in hobbies and activities that were once enjoyed

If you are feeling any of these feelings or are suicidal then see your doctor. He can treat this and get you back on the road to being happier.

AS far as the hubby goes you quit worrying about him to the point that you are unhappy. I know it is easier said then done but you deserve to be happy and do not be criticle of yourself. If you make any changes you do them for yourself but mostly find where that smile went to and get it back on your face. Good luck and keep your chin up!

P.S. Take Rabble Rousers advice too. It is a good idea.

Answer 6

You need to find out for yourself if your depressed because you think your husband is cheating or because you know he is. There is a difference. I hate cheaters. I'm a guy so I can't really relate. Be there for your children.

Answer 7

you're find he's the asshole, and the b he had the sex with.