As far as I know, they were not a couple, but my wife was "licking the floor" for him.
She knew him 6 years ago.
She says that the name of my son is nice and that's all, but also she admitted that the only guy with this name she ever knew was this "impossible love" of her.
The guy lives a few miles from us now.
As far as I know, there is no contact between my wife and him.
Anyway this bothers me a lot.
Thanks for any advise.
2006-11-05 20:27:08 · 13 answers · asked by danbraun06 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thanks for the advices so far.
I didn't know about the existence of this guy until two days ago.
My wife really insisted on this name for my son, a nice name, although not so common. And definitively she heard this name only from him.
Of course if I have known about this story I would have erased this name from the list of possible names for my son.
I really believe she and the other guy are not in contact anymore, they were only in contact about six years ago.
Any ideas will be welcomed.
2006-11-05 22:42:39 · update #1
I would say dont bother to worry .... maybe your wife has some feelings and the name is an outcome of it .. just love her as you were doing earlier and dont worry ..
Regards
Sameer
http://sameer-shaikh.blogspot.com
2006-11-05 20:39:24 · answer #1 · answered by Sameer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with some of the other posters who say that you need to try working things out, I say this because I was cheated on by my husband who I have Always been faithful to. We have been together for a while and have 3 kids he cheated and lied and covered it up and manipulated till I got sick and tired of feeling like a fool so I called his little tramp and confronted her. She is the one who finally told me the truth about what was really going on. You obviously love your wife very much and would do anything to be able to trust her again. Unfortunately you cheated on her early on in the relationship and KARMA has a way of coming back to slap you right in the face. The pain you feel is the same pain she felt when you cheated but at least you acknowledged it. Don't get it twisted she is completely wrong for cheating two wrongs never make a right. I suggest you get the both of you into some intense marriage counseling so you both can figure out why you did what you did then maybe some healing can come about and you can repair some of the emotional damage. You need to do this soon your son is very young and he does not deserve to be dragged through the mess of a marriage the two of you have made. Forget all the open marriage crap you are hurt by what she did, she is hurt by what you did so an open marriage I personally believe makes no sense anyway. If you want your marriage fight for it but be smart, if you know she really does not want to stay faithful then go to counseling for yourself because you will need the tools to cope with divorce. You can be a good loving father without all the pain of excepting a lying cheating spouse.
2016-05-22 03:14:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I assume you did not know about the name issue till after your son was named. It's a shame. Does your wife know that you know about this guy and the issue over the name? She should have had some common sense and been a little sensitive.
I suppose the best thing you can do at this stage is be adult about it. Pick a nick name for your son that you like and just to teach your wife a lesson make sure everyone uses your son's nick name.....that way you don't have to hear the real name all the time.
Good luck.
2006-11-05 20:43:08 · answer #3 · answered by Mirage 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do, make sure the baby doesn't get effected by all this.- afterall..he is innocent. Start communicating more with your wife. It doesn't sound like you are trusting her right now. If you start to become obsessed, you will need to get down to the bottom of all this and do a little investigating yourself..I hope you find peace of mind, because this would bother me too.
2006-11-05 20:50:13 · answer #4 · answered by ♫ Melody 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be pissed mate, I have been there by a non honest women.
But my advice would be to except it and try and forget. Because the only that is going to get hurt by it in the long run will be your son. He is the best thing that has ever happened to you so love and care for him. Beleive me mate, kids are great.
2006-11-05 20:52:43 · answer #5 · answered by I'm In Love With Delicious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I can see how that would get to ya. It wasn't really honest of your wife not to disclose that information before naming your child!
In any case, since you don't suspect her of actually cheating on you, the best thing you can do is assume she just really, really liked that name. Concentrate on your beautiful baby boy, regardless of his name. Congratulations!
2006-11-05 20:32:58 · answer #6 · answered by catwomanmeeeeow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds wrong to me. She shouldn't name your child after a guy she knew from the past.
2006-11-05 20:32:33 · answer #7 · answered by rach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do a DNA test dude! She may have named the boy after daddy.
2006-11-05 21:56:05 · answer #8 · answered by D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let it bother you. There is probably millions of people with that name and she probably just loves the name not the guy that has it! She's with you right so just let it be.
2006-11-05 21:01:39 · answer #9 · answered by Barbie73 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u may have a reason to be concerned but i wouldn't try to worry about it too much unless u start getting suspicious about your wife and that guy .
2006-11-05 20:44:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋