To err is human but to forgive is divine! How do you feel about someone who has?

Question

done you a wrong..are you a forgiving sort of person or what?

Answer 1

I have been completely devastated by someone who has done me a wrong, but over the years, I have been able to look at things from their side. That is not to say that I agree or condone the wrong they have done me; it has simply giving me a new perspective on it. I can understand why they did what they did. Usually people do you wrong if they are eaten up with jealousy and bitterness. That is their problem not yours. Therefore, I have come to forgive them for their utter completeness sadness and badness. We only make ourselves suffer if we keep on feeling awful about the wrong done to us. I have forgiven out of pity for them more than anything. And the fact that I have forgiven, has empowered me and enabled me to get on with my life. Trouble is, you dont forget, you just learn to deal with it.
Overall, I am a forgiving person. I think that the people who are not so forgiving tend to have a stubborn streak. This can turn into a vendetta that evokes a bitter emotion....not good! Is better to forgive and move on.
I must add that this is a generalised answer, as I cannot begin to imagine what it would be like, for instance, if someone murdered a loved one of mine. That is another quandry. Life can be so complex!!!***!

Answer 2

I believe that when people didn't really mean to do something wrong you should forgive them because life is short, and because we all occasionally do something out of ignorance or bad judgment.

When it comes to some big things, though, such as harming other people or animals intentionally; I think some things are unforgivable. I do believe that because "forgiving is divine" the forgiving of some wrongs should be left up to God, and humans should not attempt to "borrow" divine behavior. I actually believe that even God doesn't forgive some things.

When it comes to some things I actually believe that if there is God He would expect us to be angry and to not forgive things like hurting others intentionally.

But when it comes to the smaller stuff or the stuff that nobody really intended to do or else did because they didn't know any better - forgiving makes sense.

Answer 3

Erring is human and we all do it. It would be stupid not to forgive because then you have the hate and hard feelings stuck inside and it really makes life tough carrying it around. To forgive is divine and we should all do it if the person is truly asking to be forgiven or if we need to forgive so we can get on with our life. To forgive is divine but to forget is stupid! Forgive the person but learn and never forget the lesson learned and how you learned it!!

Answer 4

I try. Most times I forgive, specially if it was a genuine mistake. And I can forgive the first time. Repeated mistakes though, I never forget. So learn your lesson the first time.

I'm hardest on myself. There are things I've done which (when I think about it) I still have not forgiven myself no matter how innocent a mistake it was.

Answer 5

I'm a git for letting people off the hook.

Whatever someone does I'll eventual forgive and forget as it were.

Normally say pi55ed of for a few hours, maybe the odd day or two, but that's normally it. I was once pi55ed of with someone for nearly a year, sounds stupid now but yeah, kept up the hate for that long - right waist of my time that was.

But I'm normally happy in the fact that I can leave my troubles up to karma, everyone always gets whats coming to them.

Answer 6

Oh how I wish I could be as forgiving as my husband.
His first wife after 30 odd years took off to live with his mate.
He is still friends with the wife and the mate!
I have just found out he's cheating on me and man....I cannot forgive him.
He behaves as if nothing has happened.! What is that?
Is it a man thing?
I would love to be more forgiving, in fact working on it with counsellor. Not much happening yet.

Answer 7

The real world is attained simply by the complete forgiveness of the old, the world you see without forgiveness. For forgiveness literally transforms vision, and lets you see the real world reaching quietly and gently across chaos , removing all illusions that had twisted your perception and fixed it on the past.

I AM

Answer 8

Do you do any wrong at all? Do you hurt anyone at all? Now if you do, would you want them to forgive you? We all do wrong daily. Only perfect people don't wrong others, and they don't exist just yet. If you fail to forgive people who wrong you, you are bound to hold them in contempt. This attitude is destructive to your health. So you that was wronged will become sick because of your attitude and the one guilty of the wrong goes around freely, feeling well. If you want to be sick don't forgive. If you want good health and live long, cultivate the habit of forgiving - everyone is capable of doing it if only they commit themselves to it. It is your choice.

Answer 9

Depends what they have done. You can't always forgive but you should forget or the bad feelings will eat away at you and life is too short to hold a grudge

Answer 10

Depends on how serious is the wrongdoing. If it's something mild, I'd laugh it off. I can forgive almost everything, but I won't forgive or forget if my partner cheats on me. And, a fortune teller once said,"You're someone with good memory. If you hate someone, you could hate him/her for life". I didn't tell him anything before that, he just held my hands and looked at my date of birh ( and I didn't even give him my time of birth!) Freaky, but true!