Is he being unfaithful?????

Question

Ok i'm 26 and my husband is 26 we've been married for 5 years now. He works out of town alot and this is the issue in the past few months our sex life as been non existant. I know this is personal but need to know if anyone else has been threw something similiar....we've been intimate maybe 3 times in 2 months i've talked with him and he just says he's tierd is it me or am i seeing the first sign of being unfaithful...i trust him with everything but this is something that's really bothered me so what does everyone think...am i crazy or do i have a reason to question this issue....thanks for any opinion's ......

we get along fine not perfect but good our sex life was great until recently. He's not on any medication and all he has is his cell phone he stays up at his job all week and lives in a camper. I would call him at night but he says he has no service where he's at. I've tried to talk to him and the only thing he tells me is he's tierd. He doesn't even hold me anymore and kissing is not even done it's just certain things that have been overlooked that make me think he doesn't want to be with me anymore. Thanks all for advice...And i know work can stress you out but i look at it like this i work 4 12 hour shifts every week take care of our 7 year old son go to nursing school and still have the desire for sex so i just believe he doesn't want me anymore...again thanks

Answer 1

If everything else is good--no... he is stressed. But if he has any of these signs.... I think it at least merits looking into:

1. not answering the motel phone at night-- do not call him on the cell... call him on the hotel phone.

2. New under shorts? Always a tell tale sign.

3. Different cologne? New haircut?

4. non affectionate-- not sex... just the hugs and kisses.

5. Less spending money....

Answer 2

It's hard to say. Depends on what kind of man you think he is. Not being intimate sometimes is the tell-tell sign. I've been married for 14 years. Even the best men cheat. (Not pointing fingers at who made be reading this, I didn't say all men cheat) Thing is, if you do find that he is cheating, what will you do? I stayed with my husband not matter what. You have to work through things like this. Talk with him and let him know to be honest and you will love him no less. It will hurt if it's true. But would you leave him to go through the same bull#$^% again. You can get past it and have a wonderful relationship. It takes time for both of you to grow. He may not be cheating at all. Maybe sexually there is something your lacking. Always remember, what you won't do, someone else will. I'm old enough to know. I could go on and on, but I won't. In the end make sure you keep each other happy and take care of your husband.

Answer 3

well it depends on the guy. you obviously have a trust issue or you wouldn't be concernd in the first place.
however to eliate some of your concern i have only been married a year and 1/2 and my husband works and attends collage full time i hardly ever see him and i also don't get a lot of sex because he is really tired and when he is home he sleeps and i have no doubt in my mind that he is not cheating on me.
so it really depends on how you view your husband so just sit down and ask him what is going on. communicate with him.
you've been married longer than i have you know that communication is the key. but whatever you do don't let this eat away at you until you explode that won't help anyone.

Answer 4

OK, if this is the only sign you're seeing then there are probably other reasons for the lack of sex. Is he depressed or stressed out about something at work or family members? These are things u need to look into before u jump to conclusions. On the other hand, if u suspect something, don't ignore your instincs. Keep your eyes open and look for other clues.

I know from experience that stress of any kind is the number one killer of libido.

Answer 5

Is your husband going out of town to the same location? If so, I would "maybe" than follow my gut instinct. If he isn't, I would probably think he is just tired. Does he have a cell phone? Check his bill. Call him during the middle of the night, saying you had a nightmare. Can you go with him once? See if he wants you too? I have been through it. BUT, everyone is different, so follow your heart and your gut feeling, they will let you know the truth....

Answer 6

Could be he's very depressed. Is he taking medication? Medications can drastically effect sex drive. Is your relationship healthy? Do you argue alot? Do you have tension in your home?
A young man just does not go without sex. There is some big problem some where. Make him talk or you should walk.

Answer 7

I don't know. My guy was able to have sex with me on a regular basics and have sex with two other women at the same time. So. I guess I'm a little bitter. I certainly hope not. For your sake.

Answer 8

i am a man of 51 and yes i can tell you that this is the sign of him not been faithful to you, i know as i use to be a long distant truck driver and if one is faithful then the first thing a man wants when he gets home is to be intimate with his wife and if he is not wanting this then i am sorry to tell you but he is been untrue to you, if you want to know more about relationship problems you can ask me from a mans view as i have been thru it 2 times myself and i can tell you from a mans side of things. write to me on [e-mail]

Answer 9

From my passed experience living with a cheater, sorry to say but I think he might be cheating on you. If you look hard, the signs of cheating will be there, I know. It took me awhile but I learned what to look for. It was all there in black and white once I learned what to look for.

Answer 10

Yes, but only if we have the desire. If he doesn't have the desire to change then he never will, because a good attitude is what makes someone change. Good Luck