Help me get over not being happy regarding my high school situation?

Question

I'm a high school senior and I've really not happy regarding my high school situation.

Here's the isolations feelings that I have:
1. Since we moved, I'm a new student at a different school, and everyone has their cliques and such.
2. I haven't really made friends and due to the nature of the charter school, it's hard to get a girlfriend. Add the fact that the girls are already in cliques and I'm currently involved with no clique. I usually tend to start feeling a lot more integrated when I have a girlfriend since she would give me a good reason to go to school, do my work, and keep me motivated in general.
3. It's a different city and my family doesn't really have any friends/relatives here.

So overall, it's isolation in general that I'm feeling. I've pretty much resigned myself to learning day-trading/investing in stocks so that I'll be able to have a nice income and be happier during college. I've also resigned myself to the fact that I won't really feel socially integrated until I start college and get to know people in the same situation. It just feels like high school relies too much on your previously existing friends/clique/family/social network.

I feel that half of schooling is the social aspect. The academics aren't a big enough push more me, especially when I'm not happy with the current situation.

Does anyone have any advice that could make me more involved this year?

All the isolation or lack of being a part of any group of friends kind of bothers me to the point where I'm just not attending school as often as I should and instead following my own hobbies, like day-trading/investing instead. I've felt like this all the way throughout high school, ever since I was a freshman.

I have a ridiculously high IQ which helped a lot on the SAT/ACT tests, but my GPA is no where near where my IQ dictates that it should be, mostly because I've felt a lack of motivation to do schoolwork due to isolation feelings that I've felt ever since middle school.

I've turned to surfing the internet/video games as an escape, but recently, I've begun to realize that they're false escapes and thus I've begun to get rid of excessive web surfing/video games.

Now, without those, I just feel isolated and like I wanna delve more and more into becoming a better day-trader/investor of stocks so that I'll have a nice income during college.

@Jacee B:
Wow, you definitely read well if you felt any underlying issues in my wordings. I guess one thing that makes me feel a bit more isolated is that I'm Asian. But people haven't been racist to me at all or anything. I just feel different being the one Asian in nearly all of my classes.

Answer 1

Such things as moving to a completely new place, can deeply affect or even traumatize an individual's personality. From your description, I understand that you are seeking to get integrated, therefore are a person who wishes to socialize.

You are right, half if not more of the 'school' aspect implies the social characteristic. Humans are a social being, therefore the social insatisfaction will affect the majority of other areas of functioning.

As you may be seen as an outsider, and if people already have their 'cliques', they might feel reluctant or not feel the need to accept you or cooptate you in their groups. It is a good idea to scout around, and see which group you would adapt and like best. This is the hard part. Once you've done that, approach them, and not in a way that begs for acceptance, but in a manner that won't even be visible to them, for example:

- Can you take a picture of me and my friend? You know how to use the camera, right?

- It's my birthday and i brought some candies for everyone, here, take one!

As long as you use non-committing lines to socialize with them, you might even get THEM to want to hang out with you, and not the other way around.

Best of luck with your adaptation process, and remember to smile!

Answer 2

Like you said.. your a senior so you dont have long left at school at all.
Just keep striving on through, keep doing your hobbies but at the end of the day finishing school can go along way for future.
I know you have written alot here, but you sure there arent any other underlying issues that might have you feeling a bit down, I mean as if what you wrote isnt enough, it just seems like theres something missing.. maybe im just looking into it to deeply.
There are always others you can speak to.. a councellor or a family member etc.. sometimes people are only a phone call away.

Answer 3

Schools dominated by clicks have a lot of unhappy people. Look for them and try to make them feel better by being nice to them in small ways.
Find a girl that is not in a clique and ask her out , maybe someone who is also new.
Join some very time consuming activity away from school, where you will learn something new, involving physical activity if possible.
Study for the SAT's, improve you writing and math skills, read history, geography etc
Get a map and explore your new city. Look at different neighborhoods, plan your trips ahead of time.

Answer 4

It is so hard changing schools in any year but your senior year must be the hardest. I changed high schools 4 times so I know what you mean by cliques and feeling isolated.

My experience was that I did better when I joined a school club than when I did not. When in a club there were project that threw me into situations where I could interact with other students. Most of the time it was positive and I had something to do besides my studies. I had better luck with the non-sport clubs, like future teachers and chess.

Answer 5

Keep in mind that you will be out of high school in June! It's only 7 months away and after that, life really starts. I know it's hard to believe but once you're out of high school, you look back and realize how insignificant all those cliques really were! The best part about graduating is your life truly can go in any direction you want it to. You probably won't have any contact with kids from high school. I graduated with kids I went to school with from kindergarten on. I was one of the kids who had a many friends but by the time graduation came, I was ready to leave them behind. I haven't really kept in touch with anyone, I made new friends. I was married when I was 25, had kids at 30 and honestly, never really think about high school! Stick it out and you will see!! June isn't too far away, good luck!!

Answer 6

It doesn't matter where you are YOU are responsible for your own happiness. You may want to see a counselor. Try to get into a group that you like. Try the school newspaper, sports,computer club, languages,band, whatever you like. YOu will be around others with the same interests. Start a group about stocks and finance. You will probably make friends there. Go to church and learn about the real friend in Jesus! You will always have a friend with Him! Best wishes but remember you only get out of life what you put into it!

Answer 7

start a god is dead group and see who shows up might be fun. make friends on the internet and learn not is school the only place to make a friend . go and learn and do your best. play somewhere else if no one wants to play there. move on

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Answer 9

keep your chin up and keep going.you will make it and the true friends will come.