2006-11-05 18:50:57 · 12 answers · asked by Andrew N 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
YOU R DEFINITLY NOT THE REASON FOR THE DIVORCE.
Sometimes married people fall out of love and then their lives become filled with trouble and it affects the children. I think if they fight a lot and cannot live together anymore it's better for them to break up. They will still love you and they will be better parents now and maybe they will become friends again.
Good Luck
2006-11-05 19:01:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
my parents got a divorce when i was a kid, they always yelled at each other and my dad would always leave, but know matter what they will love you i found that out when i got to see my dad for the first time in six years. i know you are not the reason for whats happening, they need to try to fix the problems be for it goes out of control and effects you more than it already has. it might be for the best if they do get a divorce, it was for my parents but I'm not saying they should.
2006-11-05 19:42:57 · answer #2 · answered by Paul G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, there are various reasons why people get divorced and i'm sure that you are NOT the reason for it. I guess it's time for you to have a talk with both your parents. Have them sit down in the living room and ask them. You do have the right to know since you are their child. Use this opportunity to voice out your concerns with them getting divorced and how it makes you feel. I'm sure your mum & dad both love you to pieces but sometimes life just isn't fair, so you'll have to manage the love you're receiving from them alternately. I'm sure you'll manage... but remember, you are NOT the reason for their divorce. It was their choice to get married and now it's their choice to get divorced and i'm sorry that you are caught in between.
2006-11-05 19:18:26 · answer #3 · answered by Rin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a hackneyed question. I'm not picking on you, but that is a pretty cliched thing for the child of a divorced couple to be asking. For a minute I thought you were joking.
No, you are not the reason. Either one of your parents is a slimeball (i.e., they had an affair), or both of your parents are slimeballs (i.e., they're too self-centered to care about you or their marriage). This doesn't mean your parents are all-around bad people; I obviously can't make that assessment without having met them. But they are without question being irresponsible, inconsiderate, and downright WRONG to be getting a divorce. Marriage is about hard work and commitment, even when things aren't going picture-perfect. There's no use in giving you a casual explanation for your parent's divorce. It's not a good thing, for you, them, or morally. The only exception for this is if you're in situation 1 - only one of them is a slimeball - in which case the other has no choice but to leave them.
At any rate, I wish you and your parents the best, and I hope things will work out after all. God bless.
2006-11-05 19:02:29 · answer #4 · answered by Leroy Johnson 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no sweetheart,you and any other kids are never the reason parents split-up,,this will have been a joint decision after long talks between them,,you have to understand that a parents relationship with their spouse is very different from what you and others just see.maybe they have had relationship problems for a while but you will have been considered in all of this and it may be best for you to ask your parents to explain what is going to happen with all of you ,,for them to talk to you and put your mind at rest about blame and fault because there will be resons they think you cant handle but any explaination is better than thinking it is something to do with you,share your worries,ask questions,is will be hard and there will be tears but they are not doing this to hurt or upset anyone,,they have just decided that they would be better,for each other and for you,to be apart and sometimes,,it really is the best thing.as long as you still cared for by them both,,you will be fine.
2006-11-05 19:22:32 · answer #5 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The children are never the reason. Don't U ever forget that. They love U and will never stop loving U even after the divorce. Just hang in there, babe.
2006-11-05 19:36:53 · answer #6 · answered by daisy770 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
" NO WAY KID" Never blame yourself for what your parents do.Can't give you a reason why it is happening,but it is. Just try to keep your head up and work through it the best you can. I know it is going to be hard on you.Give you mom and dad some time and they will surely explain it to you. It may be a little complicated right now. One will trying to blame the other for the problems. So give them some time.
2006-11-05 19:22:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a divorced mother I can honestly say, You are their Pride & Joy! You are the one good thing that your parents did together and the one thing neither will ever regret.
2006-11-06 17:44:12 · answer #8 · answered by CharKaye 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, dude keep ya head up, the divorce is for them to figure out. Don't blame ur self.
2006-11-05 18:55:31 · answer #9 · answered by Alkaz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO! NO! and NO again. That is between your mom and dad. And you might not ever no why. Just know this BOTH YOUR PARENTS LOVE YOU VERY MUCH!
2006-11-05 18:55:55 · answer #10 · answered by lilbit_883_hugger 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋