Too busy for friends and I feel guilty? Anyone else feel this way?

Question

I'm super super busy with life. I have a lot on plate with school and work, and I've been studying really hard to try and transfer into a top university, like Stanford or one of the Ivies. I feel like I just don't have time for friends right now. It's not going to be this way forever, though--it's just not the right time for me at this moment.

Here's exactly where the problem lies: My friends don't understand my goals. They tease me about what I'm doing and make me feel bad about it. I try to explain to them that I'm just busy at the moment and it's not the right time to hang out, but they don't seem to understand. Sometimes I feel really distracted from my schoolwork, because I find myself worrying about them. I've had friends who've left me because I couldn't hang out with them enough.

I feel like I'm alone on this situation. Is there anyone else out there who's in the same boat as me? Any advice?

Answer 1

You're not alone on this situation, sadly lots of people are too busy for their friends. I understand your situation. Lets say, you get what you want, you get transfer into top university, you won't stop being busy there, you'll get even busier to maintain in that university. If you think you being busy is just temporary, you're kidding yourself. When you graduate, you'll get a good job and be busy at your job. One day, you'll want to celebrate your life and realize you don't have any friends to celebrate with. Is that what you REALLY want in your life?
It's not that your friends don't understand you need to be busy right now, they are your friends, they want to hang out with you, they like you, cherish the time spend with you, tease you to make you come back to them, they want to hang on to your friendship. The ones that left are the ones that disappointed, or give up. You can't really blame them.
You're young, it's a good thing you know education is important, but don't let lessons of life and friendship pass you by. Just like knowledge, real friends are unmeasurable treasure.

Answer 2

All relationships must be cared for and nurtured. They all require work and maintenance. I understand that you are a busy lady right now, but that is no excuse for letting all your relationships slip through your fingers. You are old enough to know the difference between a good friendship and an acquaintance. The people that you are obviously just an acquaintance to have already left you, and the ones that have supported you and your decisions are the ones that you need to make time for. Don't get so caught up your studies or work that you can't share a laugh or two over lunch or dinner with a close deserving friend. Life is about being generous...be generous with your love and with your time. Those friends and loved ones that stick by you while you are concentrating so hard on school and work will be the same friends that help you celebrate the rewards when you graduate and move through the rest of your life. Take a moment and let them know you care.

Answer 3

Lady, you do what you want to do! If you chose not to see people, that is a choice that you make! Choices are usually made relative to our interest. No interest, then that does not get included with the chosen!

No person wants a spouse that does not have time for them!!
Otherwise, why should they be together?

And FRIENDS AWAYS look after friends.

There is an eternity of space between people that we know and the person that we call FRIEND!

And if you do not know and understand that, then you are nobodies friend! Too, you have no friend nor an honest relationship with any person!

Answer 4

don't feel that way they are obviously idiots thats you do not wish to spend your time with

Answer 5

yes