Is It Ok For My Son To Take A Solo Photo?

Question

Friday is my son's school homecoming dance and it is a special occasion for him. He is a Senior, capitan on the football team, etc. and this is the first homecoming dance that he will be attending. He doesn't really dress up, dress up......with the exception of wearing a shirt and tie to school on game days and when he goes to church on Sunday.

I have spent a lot of money on him for this dance, getting him fitted for a suit, buying a new shirt, tie, hankerchief to match. Stacy Adam shoes and belt to match, etc. Any way, he is going to look really handsome, plus he is a fine looking young man.

The so called girlfriend I do not particularlly care for, plus I don't think she is all that great looking. Considering my son's status in school, I think he could have done a lot better.

So of course there will be a photographer there (cost of pictures is coming out of my pocket too) and I do not want him to take a picture with her, I want him to take a picture by himself.

Am I wrong????

Additionally.......does any one have a suggestion on how I can break the news to the so called girlfriend that I want my son to take a solo photo, so that I do not come across as rude and insulting?

Answer 1

i think you are not wrong considering he's still young and that he will meet a lot of fine girls outhere if he goes to college and such, so what i would do is get a frame with something like " my son " or something like that, very personal , and talk to him alone saying that u do need to have a solo picture of him because u wanna have it in ur wallet and hung up on the wall or because u are in the process of making him a surprize and u need a solo pic.. whatever u think he will see as plausabile.. this way he gets the point to get a solo pic and u get the pic u want without hurting her.
i think u might be wrong a bit because it seems that ur judging the girl based on apperance though... good luck with him :)

Answer 2

Hello,

Usually at high school dances when you get your picture taken by a photographer they take a handful of pictures.

I would suggest having your son take a few pictures with his date, than a few pictures alone. This way you would not offend his date, but you would get a photograph of your son alone.

I think that if you were to request that his date not be photographed with him at the school dance, it may cause your son to rebel against you a little bit and stay with her even longer just to spite you. Speaking as a teenager (well I can make this claim for one more month anyways), when I was in high school if one of my parents had disliked a boyfriend or date of mine, I would probably have dated that guy longer - just to upset my parents.

You should also know that now, after I have spent two plus years away from home at college, I no longer feel this way. In fact I value my parent's opinion's very much - especially when it comes to dating. After all they have been married for over 25 years, they have lots more experience and success than I have.

Also consider that dance are expensive for both guys and girls. And at least a guy can wear his outfit more than once. Speaking as a girl who went to sixteen school dances over the course of four years in high school, my parents easily spent a few hundred dollars each dance on the dress, the shoes, the jewelry, the makeup, and the hair.

I think it is perfectly natural to want the best for your son, which includes his clothing and his date. But understand that there is a reason your son is with this girl, there is a reason that he choose her out of all of the other girls at his high school, to be his girlfriend and his date.

Ultimately I would suggest having him take a few pictures with his date, and then politely ask to get a picture or two of your son alone. I don't think that anyone would object to that.

Oh and for breaking the news, I would suggest making a joke of it. If your son rarely dresses up, say something like "Could I get a shot of him alone? It's such a rare occasion that I can convince him to dress up - I'll need some proof to send to the relatives."

Answer 3

If the girlfriend does not have a good attitude, then that would be a good reason to say that. Since that is not the case you are so wrong for being so rude about his girlfriend just because of her social status isn't the same level of his. Plus if he takes it with his girl, it could make memories for him in the future. I would expect this type of attitude from a high school girl. The thing you should worry about is if he has a good time at he dance. Sorry to sound harsh, but I'm just being real you know?

Answer 4

Maybe you could take some with him by himself b4 he leaves for the homecomming or maybe take some of him by himself at the homecomming and some with her. He will want a picture of her with him. So if you do some with her and without her that might not hurt your son and his girfriends feeling too bad.
GOOD LUCK.

Answer 5

Yes you're wrong...it's not your choice. If you don't like the girl (especially because you don't think she's good-looking enough), that's your problem. Get over yourself and just be happy for your son. It is his choice, not yours. Stop being so selfish. If you REALLY want a picture of him by himself, take it before he goes to the dance...don't be a b*tch and make the girl feel bad on a day she is supposed to enjoy.

Answer 6

You are as wrong as the day is long! The only reason that I don't use my real thoughts on this is because it would be in violation of community guidelines.

This is your son's homecoming. This is your son's date. This is your son's business.

The more I think about it the more I think that maybe this is a troll and I've been suckered in to answering.

Answer 7

I think you are wrong for wanting him to not have his picture taken with his girlfriend. This isn't your dance; it's his. Your son is probably going to date other girls and do other stuff that you're not going to agree with in the future. If you try to control him, it could blow up in your face. The easy solution would be to have his picture taken with his girlfriend and then to also have one taken of him solo. Another tip: try to get along with the girlfriend. Your son obviously sees something in her.

Answer 8

Just have him take 2 shots - one solo and one with his girl (who he obviously values regardless of your opinion) and let this wonderful son of yours have a good night without the spectre of your pettiness hanging over his head

Answer 9

It's an important day for him, and she's a part of it. She'll be a part of his memory too 20 years from now, and it'd be ruined if she's not in the picture.

Answer 10

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