I want whatever she wants to do. I am not against abortion but i just want the best for her. What do i say to her when she has it done? Her appointment is monday (today) at 10am
2006-11-05 17:27:05 · 14 answers · asked by joey m 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
i had the same problem but my sister was 15..i had a baby at 19...u have no time for anything i had a hard time with a baby sitter....i was not married and we argued a lot...just do what u can and support her its her life and a baby is a huge responsibility..sometimes i wish i waited..i have no energy to play with her since i work and go to school and im tired 24/7
2006-11-05 17:33:17 · answer #1 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
She has her reasons for wanting to abort. I am sure she knows that you all want her to have the baby but then you will support her either way. Maybe she knows that she os too young to have a baby and not ready to be a mom yet. Just let her know that you will be there for her.
Talk with her and be there with her while she is at the doctor's office, I know family cannot go in with anyone having an abortion but be there when it is over and tell her you love her no matter what she chose and had done.
Goodluck to you all
2006-11-06 01:35:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Maybe trying to talk to her and tell her that if she doesn't want the baby then maybe she can go through the pregnancy and put the baby up for adoption. There are millions of couples who are desperately wanting a child and can't have them naturally. Also try to let her know that the abortion is a permanent thing. There is no taking it back. One the baby is gone, s/he's gone for good.
As far as what to say to her? I'm not sure. But it is going to be horribly and emotionally rough on her so be there the best that you can be. Give extra hugs and let her cry if she wants.
Man - I hope she doesn't abort the baby. :*(
2006-11-06 01:32:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I believe abortion is wrong. I have always thought of that my whole life. I felt that if you laid down, and took the risk, you have to now take the responsibility you chose to do.
I can tell you that I got pregnant and it wasn't a planned pregnancy. I freaked out, and I really didn't know what to do. I knew I was way to young to have a kid, but also knew that to me abortion was wrong. So what did I do? Well I knew that I was going to regret it the rest of my life, so I had to go through with it.
I never got the chance to actually get the abortion because I ended up miscarrying the baby. It hurt really bad, but alot of people supported me and stood by me.
My best advice is to make sure SHE really WANTS this. I know when she goes they will talk to you, to make sure its what YOU want. If she does end of going through with it, be there for her. Support her, comfort her, do whatever it is she needs. Because shes going to need all the love and support she can get.
I hope I helped, and best wishes to your sister.
2006-11-06 01:49:37 · answer #4 · answered by lovexcynical 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't preach to her and don't let anyone else preach to her. That is a very personal decision. Just hold her hand. She will be in a lot of pain afterwards and will need help around. The cramps are excrutiating and there will be a lot of spotting. She may have show some signs of depression or cry. Just console her and tell her that she did what was best for her and that you can't imagine being in this situation and tell her that she has your love and supprt if she needs it. She doesnt need a bunch of people telling her she is wrong. You are going to get a lot of answers calling her a murdered and ignore them. Your sister is making the best decision she knows how. I was date raped and I went through it. The best thing you can do for her is be a shoulder when she needs it. Dont mention the procedure just offer to help her with the physical pain. Trust me its not pleasant.
2006-11-06 01:34:07 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah J 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The best for her to do is give the baby for adoption, abortion is never right and it is a sentence to hell, god will never forgive her for doing such a terrible thing.
The fact is she is 19, an adult who chose to have sex knowing what could happen yet she still did it and because of it she got pregnant now it is time for her to stop being a child and take responsibility for her actions.
You never know what is going to happen in life, my cousins ex had a abortion and she was in a terrible accident about a year later and now can never have kids and getting an abortion can mess you up to where you can not get pregnant or it takes you years to do so.
Abortion is something you can never take back and it is something you regret all your life, you also lose a lot of friends and family over it. Trust me if gets out she had an abortion a lot of people are going to turn on her and call her a baby killer, it happen to a girl at my school and she ended up dropping out.
I find it pathetic anytime an adult gets an abortion because so many teens can have sex and get pregnant and take responsibility for their actions but a adult can not, I was 16 when I got pregnant and found out on Xmas eve and the father wanted nothing to do with me and the next day I woke up and everyone was opening gifts while I was up in my bed crying but never once did abortion cross my mind because I am smart and understand if I do it im going to hell and that things can happen in life like for all I know I could of died at 18 making the time I was pregnant my only time to have a baby.
More then 95% of woman who ave an abortion regret it immediately after and some even commit suicide, I suggest you and your family stop her before she makes the biggest mistake of her life and sells her soul to the devil. If one of my sisters were ever to have an abortion I would never speak to them again.
2006-11-06 01:40:04 · answer #6 · answered by Diamonds_Glow 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
at least it sounds like you are respecting her decision. One thing though, she may not want to have this baby, but she is still most likely going to go through a greiving period afterwards if she gets it done. It hasn't been long but this baby is already a big part of her emotionally and physically. It is going to be a big emotional drain on her and just being there to support her emotionally, be there if she needs to talk about anything she may be feeling, it helps.
2006-11-06 01:38:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Joey, you are a great brother. Being with her and listening to her when she needs you will be the best thing you can do to support her. Same for your family. If she isn't asking for advice, she doesnt want it. The world would be a better place if more people like you were in it.
2006-11-06 01:44:59 · answer #8 · answered by Roxanne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are doing the right thing by supporting her. You don't need to "say" anything to her, just be there with her and let her talk if she wishes. If not, silence is golden. She is doing what SHE thinks is best for HER. No one else can make the decision for her, and you are doing the right thing by being there to support the decision she made. Kudos to you for being an awesome sibling!!
2006-11-06 01:38:56 · answer #9 · answered by vamedic4 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't say anything, except to ask her if there is anything you can do. She will need lots of rest and emotional support and you can help make sure she takes the meds the doctor gives her afterward.
2006-11-06 01:36:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋