Like when im talkin to someone, i just run out of topics. I dont even know how to get a conversation going. I'm in class with some people, i just cant have a conversation with them. And when they start talkin, 80% they're talkin and im listening, 20% i'm talking and they listening. I usally get scared of starting a topic cuz they might say,"no one cares" something like that. anything i need to work on?
2006-11-05 17:25:13 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You're not alone in this, you know... There are plenty of others like you. Speech classes is one idea. But I think it's got to start with your personality. Be more confident. Always smile and be pleasant faced. Ask people how they're doing! They'll like it. Start with simple stuff...like "hey did you guys watch that movie?" or something. A conversation will start to build up when people start on their views. Be opinionated. Don't forget to tell people your views in a conversation. If they disagree, there'll be a kind of debate starting and you'll get to talk! Of course, you gotta make sure that it doesn't turn out to be an argument!
Most importantly, be well read. People will listen if you have news. So you can have something to talk about and have something to add in a conversation if you KNOW stuff.
Don't lose your habit of listening. I'm sure people will like you for that! Good luck!!
2006-11-05 18:53:28 · answer #1 · answered by Smarty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm allot like you. I've had the same problems over and over. We are listeners not talkers. I've become better over time with practice. I'm 29 and still have problems so it isn't something that will go away easily. I was horrible in high school with very little friends. I always sat by myself and felt completely out of character in any conversation and still feel that way allot today. Life experiences will make conversing easier. Get a job or take some speech classes. Force yourself to get out their and talk to people....also educate yourself on a few interesting subjects that you would feel confident talking about and bring one of them up next time you are in a conversation. Good Luck!!
2006-11-06 01:32:43 · answer #2 · answered by Tanya M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can have different levels of conversation.
light conversation, sometimes called small talk, is a skill that can be learned.
some basic rules
stick to topics that are interesting or relevant for the people around you.
include some emotional content, your feelings rather than personal details.
leave some openings for others to take up the thread.
if you still find that you are shut out, you may need to find new friends.
2006-11-06 03:03:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many people that are not comfortable communicating either in front of a crowd or one on one. If you feel insecure about your communication skills, take a public speaking class. It can give you the confidence that you are lacking and possibly give you some pointers for starting up a conversation. Good luck!
2006-11-06 01:31:44 · answer #4 · answered by Cynthia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's good that you can listen.. a good part of conversation is listening. don't monopolize the conversation if you don't have anything more to say. just listen.
2006-11-06 01:33:07 · answer #5 · answered by budi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, I've heard that the key to a great communicator is one factor: LISTENING.
2006-11-06 01:27:46 · answer #6 · answered by Miss Toneva 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need more self confidence. You are th sh***t. so believe it.
2006-11-06 01:27:40 · answer #7 · answered by Elliot C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋