is heterosexual anal sex evil?how do i disprove this to my honey?

Question

i am sort of a maverick, and i think my boyfriend is not all that comfy with anal sex although i dont have a problem with it. it seems that he was raised very conservatively, and he mentioned that before. is there a way to make him more open to that?

Answer 1

Just STICK IT IN!!!

Answer 2

It's not evil at all! There is this really great website called www.puckerup.com. It is run by a sex educator called Tristan Taormino. She actually goes all over the county and promotes safe anal sex practices. On the website she has a Q & A section where she answers any and all questions you might have about anal sex. She also has a book called "The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women" and while I know you're trying to convince your boyfriend, it might be helpful for him to read too. The first chapter talks about myths. . . and myth #1 is why people THINK it is unnatural and immoral, when in fact it can be a completely safe and enjoyable experience. There is also a DVD of the same title where she has people in the sex industry (who truly love anal sex) demonstrate safe practices. . . she tried to make it fun and educational, so it is kinda like a porn you can learn from.

Good luck!! I hope this helps!!

Answer 3

You said you "think" your boyfriend is not comfortable with anal sex but it sounds like you have never really asked him. Just because he is conservative doesn't mean he would be against anal sex. Ask him and see how he feels about it. Maybe he is just nervous about something like that but you won't know if you don't ask.

Answer 4

*n*L S*X INTRO:
Introducing Anal Sex
(http://www.allsexguide.com/anal_sex_intro.htm)
There is a very large misconception that anal sex is only enjoyed by gay men. As a result of this misconception, any heterosexual man who is curious or knows he desires anal play, may be depriving oneself out of fear that others will think that he must really be gay or have homosexual tendencies. That could not be farther from the truth!

Millions of heterosexual women and men love to partake in anal play. By anal play, I mean rimming, having a finger up the *** while you’re getting a *******, inserting butt plugs, dildos, holding a vibrator around the opening, or rubbing the opening with your finger. And this area of the body should not be ignored when one is indulging. This is a very sensitive area, that when given the proper attention, can bring one to a new world of ecstasy.

Now, you must be careful when partaking in such an activity, because the membranes that line the anal cavity are so very delicate. Make sure that the area is well lubricated. A special product designed for anal use (and is one of my absolute favorites) is Doc Johnson's Anal Lube.

Now, for you anal virgins, you don’t need to penetrate on the first go round. Use your fingers to massage, rub and tickle the area. The key is to start slow, be patient and try to relax. Remember this is supposed to be an enjoyable activity. Communication is absolutely essential with your partner. Let him or her know what feels good and when he or she can go further.

Once you reach a comfortable point, you may try a little penetration. If you use your fingers, please make sure that you take all safe sex precautions: finger cots, latex gloves, etc.) If you know your partner well and don’t feel there’s a need, then make sure your fingernails are well groomed and free from any rough edges that may scrape or cut this delicate lining.

The best things to use, and the safest for the inexperienced, are the many rubber insertion devices that are made for this purpose. There are many kits for beginners. Oh, just another safety note. If you decide to use a device not specifically meant for anal penetration, make sure it has a wide end on it so that the object can’t slip into the entire cavity. (Unfortunately, it has been known to happen.) Be smart, use common sense and you’ll be okay.

I can’t stress the importance of communicating this desire with your partner. You never know, maybe your partner is just as interested as you and you’ll both be on your way to a new world of sexual encounters. And for all those who have been approached with the situation and have been turned away by it, I can guarantee it’s been out of ignorance. So many people out there believe it is taboo to partake in such an act. Those seeking more info should watch Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex For Women or Nina Hartley's Guide to Anal Sex. Share this knowledge with your partner. Understanding may lead to giving it a shot. I hope this article has helped you in understanding what a wonderful addition anal play can be to your sex life. Remember sex is even more fun when it’s really dirty!

MISCONCEPTIONS:

Does anal sex hurt? There is absolutely no reason why anal sex should be a painful or traumatic experience. It has been said that many of us carry a lot of tension in our lower bodies, making the anus an even more sensitive an area. Anal play can relieve some of this tension. If you stay in tune with your body, during this type of play, you can actually develop muscle leading to more intense orgasms. A warm bath may help to relax not only the area, but your whole being as well. If for any reason, you do begin to feel pain, restrain from inserting any further, wait a moment and slowly pull out. But if you take it slow, you should have no problem.

Is there any special cleansing I should do before having anal sex?
If you or your partner is very concerned about hygiene, a small enema can be used. It is important to only use lukewarm water because if the water is too hot or too cold it could damage the lining or cause painful cramps. Remember, if you give yourself an enema, give yourself some time to release the liquid. Some people need half an hour, others need much longer. But if you do want to give yourself an enema, make sure you know what your doing.

Does anal sex cause hemorrhoids or incontinence?
No, this is just an folk tale. Hemorrhoids are usually the result of a poor diet, constipation or diarrhea. After any kind of anal penetration, your anus will feel very wet and not as tight as normal, but it will feel normal by morning. In the morning, you shouldn’t feel any different.

Are there any techniques to make anal penetration go smoothly?
As I said before, constant communication with your partner and patience is very important. Some people find it easier to masturbate or have their partner also stimulate their genitals at the same time. There are no rules, do what feels good. Anal penetration isn’t something you do first. If you’re just beginning, engage in the foreplay you like and are comfortable with and slowly move into anal play. You’ll find it’s much easier to get into if you’re already well excited.

Answer 5

never have heard of a religion based on sex and it is illegal on some old books even for married couples in California
but It's statistically prevalent from sex studies that have been published like Masters and Johnson and other more recent ones I can't name of the top of my head.most bible constructed religions call it sinful but what does superstition have to do with it
Sodom and Gomorrah weren't built in a day but sodomy is god awful popular these days

Answer 6

I would suppose that anal sex would be physical uncomfortable

Answer 7

everyone knows where the girls G spot is, well....the guys G spot is in the anal region. just tell him if he wants the best orgasm ever he should have u try it on him

Answer 8

Hi Evil, am with your B.F. I don't like anything up my BUTT. To me that is not part of sex and there alot of people who thinks this.Besides that, i wouldn't let my parnter put is penis where it belongs after having his fun poking me it the BUTT. It just gives me the creeps.

Clowmy

Answer 9

wow i wish i had his place theres probably no convincing him cuz most men jump at the chance my girlfriend only gives it to me once a month

Answer 10

yeah stick a flute up his and see if he likes it :)