Can i lead my life alone forever?

Question

Is marriage a must in a girls life? I may be left alone as per the rules of nature may be after a few years.I do not have any siblings too. I have a good job in hand. I am fairly healthy too to look after myself. But i have a fear and always i imagine myself being alone till my end most of the times.Most of the times i get horrible dreams of my own dead body being rotten for 3 days.I feel very depressed at times.. I want to become strong and prepare myself mentally to live alone at my best without any complains. I do not want to expect myself to be protected from anyone else...but i want to work for myslef and others if possible. Can anybody suggest me how to lead life this way without any expectations and fear and enjoy every moment. looking forward for some good motivating practical answers.

Answer 1

As a long term single female (before a Short Disaster of a Marriage), then a Long-Term Single Parent, I find it to be so much more PEACEFUL and wonderful to be SINGLE -- and I enjoy living as a single all the time.

Already you are preparing well for yourself and your future. You mention that you have a good job, you are fairly healthy, you look after yourself too.

What you need to now realize is that YOU are ALREADY STRONG -- and INDEPENDENT -- and that this is something that is WITHIN YOU and you ARE Able to meet the challenges of daily life with confidence.

You must have friends in your life -- and they are the ones that you can consider a part of your extended family. There are lots of devices too that are made specifically for Single Women -- For example, My Home's Security System has a Medical/Alert Pendant that is always on -- and when I am on my property -- I wear it -- so that if something happens to me, there is a notification that will be made to the local rescue units to go to my residence and check on me.

I live my life withOUT fear now -- knowing that (and I finally am empty-nesting Single) I will never have to worry about things (like an ex who would seek to harm me just because he can, or my children, who inherited the same mental illnesses as their father and his family).

Answer 2

It's kind of difficult to get exactly what you are asking. The way I am understanding you is that you, for some reason, think you have to live alone. Does that mean you can't find anyone to be in love with? Or have you recently broken up and feel you'll never find another love? Or do you simply want to be alone? If it is the latter, don't worry so much. Just because you're not married, doesn't mean you can't have friends and people to be with. Being a loner isn't so bad.If it is one of the other reasons, again - not to worry. someone will show up when you least expect it.

Answer 3

Being married isn't a cure for loneliness. Some of the loneliest moments of my life were when I was married. I understand your fear of being left alone, especially as one gets older. Try to cultivate friendships and pursue activities that interest you. Focusing on the outside world, on other people, often helps a person to gain a different perspective on their own life. Who's to say that you will even spend your life alone? One constant in life is change. If your loneliness is truly making you depressed don't be afraid to seek help from a doctor or therapist to help you out of a rut. You say that you want to learn to live without any expectations, but expectations are part of the human psyche. It's what causes us to pursue challenges and work to obtain goals. Good luck to you. I hope your loneliness is temporary. Don't let it become the defining factor in your life.

Answer 4

I've been thinking many of the same thoughts, and I'm a guy. They say men can have children whenever they want, but let's be reasonable, a 50 year old man having a child with an under 40 woman is ridiculous.

I don't know what the answer is. I'm very lonely most of the time too. It would be nice to have a woman I could cuddle with. Being single sucks. I'm 37.

Answer 5

I think so. I have been single for so long, it seems so natural and it is very peaceful. I have to say , when I got two pets my life changed. Their big eyes, cute expressions, antics and never ending affection have been a blessing in my life more than words could describe. I dont know if you would consider it, but there are many animals out there without a home. You may just want to drop by an animal shelter, and get a little buddie. Just a suggestion.

Answer 6

I agree that the JWs, as well as other cults, have done a lot of damage. Their major flaw is denying the deity of Jesus Christ. Jesus is what you really need, not religion. I suppose you are not really open to that idea, but if you ever want to know the real truth, get yourself a King James or New King James Bible and read the New Testament. NWT is bad news. I'm sorry for all you endured and continue to suffer. I will pray for you, dear one. John 3:16

Answer 7

I think friends are important. Are you into church or have any hobbies? Just going to work isn't enough. I hope you can find a way to surround yourself with people because we aren't meant to be alone. You don't have to be married to be happy. You could make friends with people by doing volunteer work at a nursing home. animal shelter, community kitchen ect..Good luck.

Answer 8

I have a sister who is enjoying her single blessedness emensely. First of all she took good care of our Mom when she was still alive and we all appreciate her doing it. She is very generous to all of us and most specially to all her nephews and nieces and our grandchildren. She treats them all equally and they all adore her. I think "Love begets love". When you are caring to others there is no problem you will be alone in your old age. When we go on trips abroad she is always included. and she does not only have one family but all our families to be with. Don't you have relatives who are family oriented ?

Answer 9

There are lots of people who would make fun of the possibility of changing their fates. This is because it believes that nobody gets more that what is written in his fate.

Answer 10

Have faith in yourself and know that having friends will mean you are never alone.

One does not need a partner to be happy.