How many of you are ridiculed by your family?

Question

I have never been able to do right by my family. When I accomplish something that is great I never hear a job well done. I hear well you should have done more than that by now! When I am down on my luck they remind me that I am down on my luck and how worthless I am because I became down on my luck. Anyone else have to deal with this as well? How many others are the black sheep of their family?

Answer 1

My husbands dad does this too his son who is my husband.his father done that his whole entire life. Now bc of it my husband asks everyone what he should do HE connot make a dission for himself all the time and when he does one his dad always has something negative to say about it. Also when my husband does make a dision he asks MY mom what she thinks and what i think and he said to me that when he does make a dicsion he always thinks on what his dad may say. So you are not alone on this. By the way HIS dad ask us to move in his house bc he moved out and did not want to rent it to strangers so we said ok and then Every time when my husband and him argued it was GET OUT he was throwing us out of the house that he ASKS us to be in and we had a 2 year old at the time we now have two now but we are out and FINALLY nothing to do with him MONEY WISE or house WISE. we do still have contact with him but he does nick pick at his son still. we are so so with him his dad still does the same thing so now my husband just does not mention ANY thing to his dad about the dicsions he makes bc all his dad will do is be negative. His dad even told him that getting married was a bad thing. That he should of not even do it. So yeah like i said you are not alone.

Answer 2

I'm the black sheep of my family but luckily I have a supportive mom (my brothers aren't though). I know my mom has high hopes and dreams for me but understands that I am very different from my brothers. I'm pretty much the only one in my family (including most of my cousins) that hasn't gone to university and doesn't have a "real job." But I figure I have more life experience and have had a lot of fun adventures along the way. I know it can be tough when family gets together and they start talking about all their achievements and you should be proud of yours too. When you are talking about your life, praise yourself and be proud of everything you have done even if it may seem small to them. And if you want, maybe exaggerate a little bit but don't lie about an adventure. The only person you need to impress is YOU! Maybe there's someone in your family you can connect with. Look up your cousins and start chatting. You'll gain some support there. Stop worrying about what other people think and live your life the way you want to!

Answer 3

Black sheep here and I just take it as they truly realized I was brighter than them.

I didn't realize this fact till about 6 yrs ago due to an IQ test I was forced to take after an illness. That test came back as "genius" and the family just shrugged it off.

Humans in general are jealous creatures.......they put down those that they see as better than themselves.

Just shrug it off, realize your family is just human beings, not anyone special wearing a cape or anything and you'll be fine. Also stop trying to impress them as it just backlashes upon yourself....impress those that want to be impressed.

I myself have accomplished more than most my age so far, I have owned 4 companies yet not one family member has ever came to see one of the companies. Jealousy is a cruel emotion.

Answer 4

Don't be so tough on yourself. Every person has hard times. sometimes our families do what they do to make us realize what the outside world would be like.

Cheer up, you'll find someone who will always be there for you some day. just learn not to treat your children the same way when you are a parent.

Good luck.

Answer 5

My father doesnt think of me as good as his sons because in his traditional thinking that girls are not so important in the family. He is 'generous' in giving money yes but never spend time with me, criticise me and so forth. My mum on the other hand is closer to me but we both have very different point of views. She couldnt very well take the fact if I disagree with anything she says (politely) because i have my own opinions so we will fight and she would accuse me that i must be influence by my friends. My twin brother is more loved and pampered by my parents (including my older brother but he is much more independent and serious) and gives him everything he wants. If my twin does anything wrong or could get me into trouble, my mum would immediately lecture/scold me without fail. *sighs*

Answer 6

I have always been the black sheep. I have always been the one to say my opinion, start an argument, I was the one who openly did drugs, came close to droppping out of school, went to jail when I was 15 years old.
What I say is, "To hell with what they think."
I am honestly happier and doing better for myself than my brother "The God".
I might not have a lot of riches, but I am rich in what I do have.

Answer 7

i'm the black sheep because i have different views than my parents, and my sister just goes along with whatever my parents say most of the time...so needless to say i get called a smart aleck all the time, and that hurts because i don't mean to be one. i really love my parents, but sometimes it's really frustrating living with them.

Answer 8

nicely i'm Catholic and make no bones approximately it. i replaced into raised with the theology that those human beings use. I did my own checking although and that i switched over to Catholicism . My grandmother who called me each and every night for 2 years to "help me" suggested until eventually now she died that certainly we (my spouse and that i've got been Christians and she or he might see us in heaven.

Answer 9

Try to look at your situation and yourself objectfully.

Know that the opinions of your family are only that...opinions.

Know yourself and the true potential that you possess. Don't be disillusioned by the feelings of others.

The fact that you wrote this letter speaks volumes of your character and your ability to know yourself.

The list goes on...

Answer 10

i am. i have a brother who is the angel, or rather the god, of our family and unfortunately we are twins so i was always seen as the bad twin. of course he's a christian and i drink alcohol but despite those things(and my parents don't even know i drink) i still end up ridiculed out of all four kids.......and i'm in college!!