Today is his day off he works 4 days a week, 3 off . Its now 12:05am and he's been watching movies since 10:am (14hrs.)he does this everyday off. he's either watching movies all day, or on the internet all day and doesnt like any disturbance.He doesnt go anywhere with me and the baby. He doesnt do anything around the house on his days off, just sit there and ask me to cook for him twice a day. He gets so mad if me and the baby goes in the living room playing or making any noice. I get ignored all day everyday and i do everything alone. The only way he interacts with me is sometimes he'll come where im at and grab my boobs, or my butt......but no conversation, no nothing.All sexual...What could this be? Its been like this everysince we've had the baby. Shes almost a year old. I've asked him many times to go to counseling with me but he says we can't afford it. He keeps saying he's leaving when he gets enough money, never happens. I have to beg him to take out the trash.
2006-11-05 17:06:46 · 11 answers · asked by Kristi A 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
this is my first marriage, im 29.
2006-11-05 17:11:01 · update #1
where do you go, how much, without a lawyer?
2006-11-05 17:11:51 · update #2
To answer your question, you can file for a divorce no matter where the spouse is residing.
Go to your local court house and ask the clerk for a dissolution package. Fill out the paper work as best as you can and take it back to the clerk's department to have the petition filed. If you are low income, you can file for a fee waiver. If not, you'll have to pay a filing fee, usually about $400. After you file the petition, you'll need to have him served by a party that does not have any interest in the case. You can have your friend do if you want, or you can contact the Sheriff's office and they will do it for a small fee. Make sure you serve him as soon as you can.
If all of this seems like too much, go see a paralegal. They can help you for 1/3rd of what an attorney would charge you.
2006-11-05 17:10:05 · answer #1 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this, but it sounds like it is all sexual, he was with you for the sex, and once you had the baby it is in the way of his happenings. He enjoyed the single life so to speak just you two and nothing else. He does his things and ignores what he knows he has to focus on. You can file for divorce anytime you want. He can be made to move out should you seek that in the divorce but unless you have a good lawyer and quick court system don't plan for the system to rush anything through.
2006-11-06 01:11:06 · answer #2 · answered by cubsfreak2001 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a lot of good answers on here for this question yes you can go to the courts and get a do it yourself packet and fill it out depending on the state your in the prices will vary. However I have a question for you. You said he has told you when he gets the money he is leaving so if you know this and he treats you that way and does nothing around the house to help you Why in the world are you still cleaning up after him and making his meals??? You have a child already that cannot fend for itself why take care of him? Make his A S S get up and cook his own meals and set the trash bag by the front door so he cannot open it without having to move the bag and when he picks up the bag tell him well you have it in your hands so just take it out on your way out. Make him take care of himself tell him you have one child to take care of and you are not gonna take care of him too without him giving you respect that you deserve. Good Luck and God Bless
2006-11-06 06:25:31 · answer #3 · answered by hubbys2ndbest2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are serious about a divorce...why are you still in the same house with him? you cant be divorced and live with him so why not separate now? tell him he's talking about leaving when he gets enough money...if he cant interact with you like a husband should...he gets no free feels of boobs or butt, he gets no sex or cooked meals...seems to me like he has cut you off from him so why don't you do the same,if you are truly serious....if you don't have enough $$ for a divorce,you can get help from a legal aid but you have to live separate for at least 6mths...you can also file for divorce in the newspaper...if he doesn't respond in a certain amount of days then your divorce is granted...you can also tell him that there are ways to get counseling without much $$,if you are on medicaid its covered through them and if he has insurance on his job for you all, check to see if its covered under that...if you really want your marriage to work begin to pray about it...God hears prayers
2006-11-06 02:24:36 · answer #4 · answered by huneygrl1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my country Australia you can stay in the same house but in seperate bedrooms and still file for divorce not knowing in which country you live make this more difficult to answer .But he is bone lazy and you deserve better .If he doesnt belt you around stop cooking for him until he starts to help dont wash his clothes dont give him sex .If he wants to receive he has to learn to give .If he does harm you then try to find somewhere else to live maybe back with your parents for a short time .Good luck you are in a sad situation he is no man he is a boy !!!!
2006-11-06 01:21:53 · answer #5 · answered by john h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to nor should tolerate that kind of marriage and life. This guy's a bona fide jerk. If you have a good support system of family or friends , turn to them. You need them right now more then ever. In addition consult a lawyer, TOMORROW ! Look for the ones that give free consultations. And good luck !
2006-11-06 01:17:29 · answer #6 · answered by Miss Toneva 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pack up the baby and leave before he comes home, stay with a family member or friend for awhile, and don't go back the first time he asks.
He'll be begging you to come back before you know it, and if he doesn't...he wasn't worth it anyway. Then file.
You deserve to be treated better and your child deserves to have someone that will show her affection, if he resents her now she'll grow up feeling it if you stay.
2006-11-06 01:12:14 · answer #7 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
don't beg him to take out the trash- don't ask him to do anything.
one day when he is at work call a good lawyer, tell them the situation, they can set up appts. for you at convenient time. file for divorce- the lawyer can give you advice on what you need to do that day..like if you need to have the police there or what, especially if things start to get physical. good luck
2006-11-06 01:11:03 · answer #8 · answered by dances with cats 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just file for the divorce. And get a good lawyer. It happens more than you know!
2006-11-06 01:10:37 · answer #9 · answered by BadBill 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try looking in your local phone book under family and children law center.
2006-11-06 02:32:49 · answer #10 · answered by mergirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋