2006-11-05 16:57:19 · 15 answers · asked by hello hello! 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You cant give an answer to that..Its tottally up to you..and how you feel..me and my girlfriend got engaged after 4 months..you KNOW when you want to be with somone for the rest of your life..You cant put a date on anything like that.
2006-11-05 17:04:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not so much a matter of a specific amount of time together as it is the quality of time you spend together. People can spend two months together before engagement and not really know much about each other. How well do you really know him? How much do you trust him? How well does he know "the real you"? Does he trust you? Is his trust or lack of it deserved? Are you"Spiritual" and he an atheist ? Do you agree on the number of children you want to have? This can be very important to a woman or man. Things that seem small and insignificant when you are in love can magnify and blow up after marriage, after the "honeymoon is over". I think you are smart enough to realize this. How many circumstances have you seen him so you get an idea of how he acts and reacts to different situations.If he is a violent person, run, don't walk away from this relationship. Are you friends? Can you laugh together and face life philosophically or is one of you moody and depressed? You don't have to be exact copies of each other but if you are like "water & oil", if you are at odds about many issues, put on the brakes, give it time or decide to walk away before the engagement process begins. Marriage is one of the most important steps you are ever going to take in your life. Do you or he have the attitude:"Well if it doesn't work out we can always get a divorce." Divorce is one of the most painful,frustrating experiences some people ever go through and it can last for years--especially if there are children involved. I think it is dangerous to think "there is only one and one only Soulmate for me on this earth and I've found him!" In reality I think we can get along with a lot of types of people, and there are lots of people we can "fall in love" with. Infatuation is pretty much just physical attraction. Will you still love your husband if he gets flabby in middle age? Is his love deep enough that you will still be his sweet heart to whom is loyal, even if you gain a few pounds? I know these are not pleasant things to wonder about--that is why it is important that you feel comfortable enough with each other to discuss intimate things (not just sex) and explore your feelings. You don't want to be a "football widow". Is he silent and uncommunicative? Do either of you have a drinking or drug problem?
Do the two have fun just chatting-- talking about little things? It can be terrible to wake up and say "ugh! Why did I marry this person? We don't have anything in common, and all we do is fight. If I knew he was like this I never would have married him." Don't let that happen to you!
I feel so good about people who have been married for ten or twenty years and still are in love. So to answer to your question, I don't think there is a set number of weeks, moths or years you should be with someone before getting engaged. I would reword your question a little to: "How well should you know someone before engagement?" Hope this is a help. I wish you well.
-Spec
2006-11-06 01:56:12 · answer #2 · answered by Spec 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 years
2006-11-06 00:58:35 · answer #3 · answered by bansri47 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. If the couple know each other for a long time before they start dating, maybe as short as 6 months. If not, I would say a min. of a year. I have been dating my gf for a year and a half, and it will be between 2-21/2 before i pop the question, if i decide to. Its a constant choice, so take your time.
2006-11-06 01:03:32 · answer #4 · answered by Jimmy R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a question only you can answer. Every man and woman and every relationship is different. I married my husband five months after meeting him. Would I recommend that? Depends. For me marrying him was the best thing I've ever done -- our 9th anniversary is in January. But it might not work for you.
When I met him I was 27 years old and was old enough to realize he was truly my soulmate. I think age and maturity should be an important factor in your decision.
2006-11-06 00:58:20 · answer #5 · answered by WonderWoman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know. i heard almost people been together about 1-2 years before engaged. my parents been together 3 months before they engaged.
2006-11-06 01:03:46 · answer #6 · answered by kclynn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at least 1 year
2006-11-06 01:03:27 · answer #7 · answered by paradigm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A Year at least!
2006-11-06 01:01:05 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Acceptable time to TRULY know someone prior to marital commitment: 2 years minimum.
2006-11-06 01:02:07 · answer #9 · answered by Miss Toneva 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 months and i would go a year +
2006-11-06 01:01:47 · answer #10 · answered by cryist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋