I believe it's always best to be straight-forward (pardon the pun) and up-front with anyone when you decide to take the leap of faith!
Explain that you want to tell them something because you value their love and/or friendship, and that you want no secrets to stand in the way.
Coming Out is an individual choice for each and every person that comes out and depends on why you want to come out, what that person means to you, and lots of other factors. And it also depends on who you want to come out to.
Decide why you're telling tehm... for you or for them? Most of us decide to come out for ourselves... to be true to ourselves. But there are 100's of other reasons one might choose to come out.
If they are asking about your personal life... such as who you're dating or interested in, then that may be a reason to tell them. If someone is hitting on you, perhaps it's time to tell him/her.
But in the end, it's totally up to you. Some of us feel better not having any secrets in our lives, especially about who we love.
Check out some of the Coming Out resources listed below. And you may want to purchase "Now That You Know," a great resource for parents and friends of GLBT folks that they can read afterwards and find that many of their feelings are shared by many other folks after a loved one has come out to them.
Not to scare you, but some folks do not react well to being told their loved one is gay. Reassure them that you are the same person that they've always loved. Allow them time to adjust.
Coming out is never easy, but to me, it was well worth it!
The best of luck to you!
2006-11-05 17:10:00
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answered by yetanothergwm 2
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I came out to a good friend (female too) a few months ago and she is normal under it. I think you could go for a walk or something quite normal to meet and than you just tell her you are a lesbian. She is your best friend and in that way I think she will not break this friendship cause of different sexuality.
And don't forget to ask her after you told her how she thinks about it. That is important, otherwise you could have a few questions about this and you don't dare to ask it or you may interpret here wrongly.
2006-11-06 05:50:43
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answered by frenzie-ann 4
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Some of my friends have come out to me over the years, too. Sometimes it can be a suprising for the other person but if they're a real friend, they'll be understanding and your friendships will continue as normal.
I do think it's important to make it clear to your friend that you're not attracted to her, for the sole reason that you want to make sure she's aware nothing in your relationship has changed other than you've chosen to come out to her. Since she's your best friend, I'm sure she'll stand by you and be happy that you felt secure enough with her that you could come out to her.
As for tips, I'd say just tell her when you're ready and be prepared for possible questions. I don't think you'll have too much to worry about, though - it should go over just fine. :)
2006-11-06 01:05:20
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answered by Anonymous
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Tell her straight up...but I would definitely explain that you don't want your sexuality to change the your friendship with her...lines can be blurred and things can get confusing but if you tell her from the get go that you aren't hitting on her, that you never will hit on her....she'll get the point and if she's a good friend...a true friend...she'll stick by your side no matter what.
2006-11-06 01:12:07
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answered by Sarah H 1
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Just tell her straight up. If she's really your friend, she might already know this. Besides, the test of true friendship would always be there. Why not let the test involve your sexuality? Now that would be a matter deserving of such test. G'luck!
2006-11-06 01:00:22
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answered by - iceman - 4
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Be yourself and tell her, just as matter of fact statement. You are what you are and there is no need to pretend or worry about your personality. You are a lesbian because you enjoy being one....just like you eat a certain kind of pizza or prefer a certain drink over other. Don't think much about it and be yourself. if she is your 'BEST' friend, it wouldn't make any difference to your friendship. All the Best & God Bless!
2006-11-06 01:02:11
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answered by Dr. Knowitall 2
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Ewww, if any of my female friends told me that they are lesbian I'd ask them to stay the heck away from me. As far as possible. No pun intended but the way you want to break the egg is make sure that you do so fully clothed and in a public setting so that she doesnt feel threathened and can take off running like the devil is chasing her after you say whatever vipers you might.
2006-11-06 01:26:47
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answered by geniusflightnurse 4
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When i told my best friend last year, i just came out and said it. The best advice i can give to you is to wait until you're comfortable enough to tell her, don't rush it. You'll know when the time is right, she'll be open to hear what you have to say.If she's really your friend, it won't make a difference to her what you are. Good Luck!
2006-11-06 01:12:20
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answered by ~Twisted Sister~ 4
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People believe what they are told. Just tell her flat. Don't analize it or beat around the bush. It's not that hard. I had a friend tell me the same thing a few years ago. It's not a big deal.
2006-11-06 01:01:26
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answered by dww32720 3
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Just go out for coffee --on neutral ground --and tell her...women don't seem to get as upset over sexual issues as men do.
2006-11-06 01:31:05
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answered by Anonymous
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