I like this one guy and him and I are dating. I'm not aloud to do much so we really just hang at football games and school because of my parents wishes. I really like him and he's such a wonderful guy and I know he feels the same way. The thing is, is that he's somewhat of a player and right now doesn't want a relationship. Though, he refers to me as basically his girlfriend. I think if I stayed around he would want to be my boyfriend. He's 2 years older than me and I'm 15. It's a big difference and I know that but I can't help but like him so much.
However, I have started to like this one guy that's my age. He's sweet, funny, smart, and has complimented me many times. The only thing stopping "us" is his girlfriend. They started their relationship right before him and I knew each other. Even though they are going out, he still flirts with me constantly. One of my best friends who is one of his as well tells me that I should fight for him and I think he's cluing in that he likes me too
2006-11-05 16:24:44 · 9 answers · asked by o4hnd 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I would say kind of a player is a player and if you want to get hurt stay with him. He will be 18 and you 16 soon. That is just asking for problems since your parents already control how you see him. The younger guy is a better option and it sounds like you like him better anyways. Don't get between him and his girlfriend unless he initiates it but at the same time if he cheats on her what will he do if he is with you and finds someone else he likes? You're only 15, you have plenty of time to find the right guy. Try to stay with under guys that are under 18 until you are at least 17. Life is too short to fight over someone. Find your own guy and if you want someone faithful, don't pick a guy who is kind of a player. Keep your head up and your eyes open and you'll find your right guy.
2006-11-05 22:27:39 · answer #1 · answered by me_laub 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should wait like a couple of days or weeks before this situation I am going to tell you:
Compliment the other person that you like. If he compliments you, you should compliment him back. Just don't do it in front of his girlfriend because probably a catfight would start (sorry about the catfight thing; my opinion of it). You both could have a relationship with eachother in a few weeks or days. Your 17 year old boyfriend is the complicated one. If he is always a player, you should watch him in games and stuff. Tell him that you want to be friends instead of dating partners. Since he does not like a relationship right now, you can say that you both could be best friends because you both were dating and you do both like eachother, just not like like. Sometimes the advice could be turned backwards or incomplete. Like if the seventeen year old would probably hate you or just have another girl for a date, but if he is trying to make you jelous, don't be. Just ingnore that. Somtimes also the fifteen year old wouldn't actually like you because he can compliment anyone. So there could be some flaws.
The reason why I am telling you not do this until couple of days or weeks is because probably something good will happen to you and your dating boy. Like you both could have a relationship together. And you would probably forget liking the other person. Or the fifteen year old would confess that he likes you and he would dump his girlfriend for you. Which any of those means that my advice wouldn't mean a thing. But just try it out and see what happens.
2006-11-06 01:31:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well since the first guy is not interested in a realtionship (and there really is no reason why he or YOU should be at this point) you are free to date whomever you wish to date. However this 2nd guy has a girlfriend. Just because a guy "flirts" with you doesn't mean he is interested in a relationship with you. All it means is that he likes you...AS A FRIEND. This is why there is no reason YOU should be in a relationship at this time as you're not mature enough to recongize when a guy likes you as a friend rather than what you want it to be. At this point in time it would better for you if you just stuck with being friends with guys and having a lot of friends both guys and girls. This will make you more apt to make better judgements about relationships as you get older, and will better prepare you for adult relationships.
2006-11-06 01:04:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sweetie once a player always a player so you shouldnt be with him, guys like that dont ever change and if they do it doesnt happen over night. The second guy if you can convience him to leave his girlfriend then hes not stable. If you can get him to leave his girlfriend now then when another girl comes around thats prettier or smarter than you he will leave you, just like he left her.Its better not to be in any relationship until you learn who you are and what kind of guy you want to marry.
2006-11-06 04:56:42 · answer #4 · answered by princess513705 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you do have feeling's for this other guy you do need to let the so called "boyfriend" know that you don't want the boyfriend girlfriend relationship. The other guy there's nothing wrong with being friends but that's all until he or she breaks up don't be the reason they're not together if it's meant to be it will be don't hurt people to get what you want it causes nothing but pain. good luck sweetie...
2006-11-06 00:30:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgret about guy # 1 you don't want a cheating player! Tell boy # 2 you are interested but only if he has no G/F!
2006-11-06 04:11:43 · answer #6 · answered by MC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey girl, i think that you should flirt back with the guy you're starting to like. if the one ur dating right now finds out, who cares! give him a taste of his own medicine. your parents are doing the right thing, trust me - been there. As for the girlfriend, he will dump her for you if he really likes u.
2006-11-06 00:35:22 · answer #7 · answered by 1love 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Date the one you like more.
2006-11-06 02:16:53 · answer #8 · answered by baddrose268 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how would you feel if someone were trying to "fight for" your boyfriend? Stay with the guy you're dating and leave the other one alone unless he comes right out and says he wants to date you and he's split with the other girl!
2006-11-06 00:48:27 · answer #9 · answered by lucrx440.rm 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋