My BF and I have been going out for almost a year and he makes excuses not to have sex with me. When I try to discuss the subject he just acts like it is no big deal. I know he has a sex drive, and he tells me it is not me. What should I do? I feel like we are just good friends, and that is not what I want! I don't want to continue bringing up the subject (begging)!
2006-11-05 16:11:18 · 19 answers · asked by spiderman 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
If he is making excuses to not have sex and has a sex drive, it means he is having sex with someone else. When you try to discuss it with him and he acts like it is no big deal, it is because he does not want to have a confrontation where he has to admit that he is having sex with someone else. If you feel like you are just good friends, that is what is left of the relationship. It is time to find someone who wants to be intimate with you without excuses or discussions. I know it is not easy to accept, but he has already left the relationship in regards to intimacy. Do not waste any more time with someone who treats you like this, find someone deserving of your love and affection.
2006-11-05 17:02:15 · answer #1 · answered by χριστοφορος ▽ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there and it usually indicates an inability or an unwillingness to be intimate. Sounds like you deserve better. In all honesty, those relationships ended and I won't tolerate having to beg for sex ever again. It's not a loving feeling at all.
2006-11-06 00:29:25 · answer #2 · answered by Cub6265 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can think of it as a respect, or maybe he isnt ready. maybe he believes in doing it only if you're married but it would still be better if you can find a way for him to talk about it. He has to. You can tell him how you feel about that whole situation so he'll explain himself.
Its not really begging, just tell him that you need to be able to understand it.
2006-11-06 00:21:05 · answer #3 · answered by gail 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There may be a reason that your bf is avoiding the issue of sex. He may not be ready to take that step with you and might need to know that you are committed to the relationship on every level before taking that step with you. If you love him, be patient and let him get there on his own terms.
2006-11-06 00:17:11 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmmm slippery question, a guy may have several reasons to delay sex ! a) he respect you and does not want sex before marriage - moral or religious reasons. b) low sex drive, then better buy a dildo or vibrator, or change for a new b/f because you are not gonna have a lot with him ! c) he is still a virgin and you are not, he is dead scared and try to delay it a max !
2006-11-06 00:18:22 · answer #5 · answered by bordasimus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know you won't wait around forever. It's important to you, and you want to get closer. But don't pressue him. Keep in mind, that if a guy asked this question about having sex with a girl everyone would say "DON'T PRESSUE HER!!!" So don't do that to him either, its hypocritical. Talk to him and find out EXACTLY WHY he doesn't want to do this with you.
2006-11-06 00:14:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
then dont bring the subject in, if you are just in that relationship for the sex, then as early as now get out, if you love him respect the decision, eventhough it really hurts you, if you really are not happy in that setting, its about time to part ways, its going to happen anyway why prolong the agony
2006-11-06 00:13:38 · answer #7 · answered by haringmarumo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He could be having impotency problems and he's embarrased about talking to you about it. A lot of guys would rather hide their problems rather than going to a doctor and seeing what the problem is so don't jump to the conclusion that he is cheating yet.
2006-11-06 00:20:57 · answer #8 · answered by 07jaggrad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know...it really doesn't sound as if he's interested sexually at all in you...I think maybe you'd better have a real talk with him and tell him that you've had enough of this.
2006-11-06 01:41:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join the Navy.
2006-11-06 00:14:41 · answer #10 · answered by AirForceNut 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋