Im still young and i love to go dancing and have a good time like anyone else the problem... I feel like my friends dont invite me out because i dont drink or smoke or like to act all crazy. I dont dress all hoochie and curse like a sailor. So they always tell me oh lets go out but i think they are just saying it becuse when the weekend comes around.. i dont get a phone call. I think im really mature for my age (early 20's) im married, but still. I want to have fun. Is this why they dont invite me out becuase they think i will judge them or just cant relate on that level?
2006-11-05 16:09:52 · 9 answers · asked by no name 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Oh please... (sigh) First of all kiddo don't rely on those sniveling snot monsters to define who you are. You need to be you and only you and it looks like you're doing that. Don't do anything you're not comfortable with cause that's not you. If they invite you somewhere be clear about your boundaries. Just communicate what you're about. That's all you gotta do. It's simple, to the point, and honest. Next, you need to find your own thing, not someone elses thing. If it means make new friends, than do it! I remember the early 20's. Want to know why? Because I had boundaries! :)
2006-11-05 16:24:06 · answer #1 · answered by dww32720 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Doesn't sound as if you have a lot in common with your 'friends'. Why do you hang around with them? Sounds as if you could do yourself a favour by asking yourself if surrounding yourself with friends that drink, smoke, act all crazy and curse like a sailor is in your best interest. Are you limiting yourself to these people for some reason? What's in it for you?
2006-11-06 00:18:36 · answer #2 · answered by Ken J 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont smoke and never drink in public, and am also in my early twenties, I find that if you want to do things other than clubbing than you need to organize the outing yourself. People are more likely to go with you than plan something you would want to go to. Movie nights, art shows, galleries, ice skating, shopping, or go to a nice comedy club or jazz bar.
2006-11-06 00:16:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not a prude. However, you are married. Your time for going out dancing with your friends is over. You are on a different plane of life than your single pals, and they don't feel comfortable taking you out with them anymore. Also, why aren't you going out with your hubby?
2006-11-06 00:18:49 · answer #4 · answered by SLWrites 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your friends don't call you to go out because, you have what they are looking for, a husband,...so why don't you call them first and invite them out with you. let them go wild and enjoy them (sometimes making fools of themselfs) since you don't drink, offer to be the driver. Try taking you husband once, you and he may have a great time together.
2006-11-06 00:41:03 · answer #5 · answered by millen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your definition of fun is different from theirs. I would find some new friends that enjoy the same things you do.
2006-11-06 00:14:18 · answer #6 · answered by Your Best Fiend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what does this have to do with being a prude your married make your own fun
2006-11-06 00:14:11 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you're not a prude you just have your priorities straight.
Good for you
2006-11-06 00:14:29 · answer #8 · answered by gitsliveon24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you answered your own question
2006-11-06 00:12:31 · answer #9 · answered by Pauline 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋