my boyfriend of 5 years Mom and boyfriend moved in 2 months ago. Her boyfriend is a bum from California- he was seriously homeless and gross. well, he's not homeless anymore but he's still gross. Anyway- he is living here and does not work and i've had enough. my boyfriends mom is 53 works 40+hours , he's 35 and he wouldnt even pick up the laundry bag to put it in the car for her-on her day off - (i flipped out on him and told him to "man up") i complain about it which makes my boyfriend upset- he says he cant put his mom out on the streets. i understand that- but how the heck are we going to get rid of them (well HIM). ?
we knew better before they came and now i feel like we are stuck until THEY are ready which could be NEVER! There car is about to be repoed and they left there state and came to ours. What do we do? AGHH!!!
Top it off he talks to my boyfriends mom like **** and I CANT keep my mouth shut- i can and do speak my mind- it doesnt work....whats next?? getting physical?
2006-11-05 16:00:13 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
he likes to drink beer and smoke pot and pissed on himself the first week they were here in my computer chair.
Barfed in his hands twice.
grabbed the daughters (my boyfriends sister) **** thinking she was the mom. leaves on foot for hours and we dont know where he is going- there is nothing here. we gave her the key to our house and NOW HE HAS IT!!! falls asllep with lit cigs in his hand- smells- teeth are raunchy as ever. big ole pregnant looking belly...ewwwwwwwww
he's like walking hepatitus. i think he has things to hide. he always walks with his but sticking out which leads me to think he's been with men. there is a creep living in my house sleeping on my floor and on our couch. in our shower ewwwww he touches everything and im skeeved out people and i cant do anything about it.
2006-11-05 16:07:17 · update #1
Tell your boyfriend he put the moves on you.
2006-11-05 16:04:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Move to another apartment and leave them behind. You are not kicking them out just leaving them their own place. If the Mom works 40 hours a week she can afford to pay the rent. This situation will wreck your relationship with your boyfriend if it continues much longer. If you value the relationship you need to have a very serious talk with your boyfriend and his Mom. If she loves her son she will understand. If you have been together for 5 years she must know you love each other. I would not want to harm a relationship my son was in and made him happy. A good relationship is a blessing these days.
2006-11-05 16:09:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should plant some heroine on him and the next time he goes for one of his little "walks" call the police (anonomously), give them his description, and then say that he was oudside your house and trying to break into your car. Call from a cell phone so the po po can't trace the call. The H will put him away for a little while. Drastic times call for drastic measures. I feel that this is the only way. It is a flawless plan if executed with caution.
2006-11-05 16:50:36 · answer #3 · answered by ME 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very tricky situation. I am not saying that my way is the best way but if it were me I would not hesitate to speak my mind to this gross guy and I would make it very clear to your BF and his mother that you love and care for them very much but that their are limits to what you can put up with in your home. That you dont approve of the way this guy treats the mom, that you think its unhealthy, and that the only reason you have put up with it this long is because you care about them both but that you cannot put up with it anymore. I would say all of this very kindly and with sincerity, however, I would only be as civil as I absolutely needed to be with mom's boyfriend. And whats wrong with your BF by the way that it is ok for a man to treat his mother like this? Scary.
2006-11-05 16:10:11 · answer #4 · answered by Angela 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The guy obviously has self esteem issues.
He feels worthless and useless, and from what you say about him he should.
Your gonna have to take the high road here. Insulting him is only going to add to his already low self esteem.
Be the voice of encouragement, and speak LIFE into this deadbeat!
Everybody is good at something, even lazy people.
Some people just need a nudge in the right direction.
You sound like you have yourself together, so who really needs help here?
He does.
Pray for patients, and kindness, compassion and wisdom. Sounds like your gonna need it with this guy!
keep shinin'
jerm :)
2006-11-05 16:11:09 · answer #5 · answered by grayz4sure 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! You have options, but one of them is not to get physical.
The only person that you have any control over is Y.O.U!
So your boyfriend chooses to keep mom in your home even though she is gainfully employed. His mom chooses to support a bum, & load all of her troubled life on to her son, & you.
The choice you have is whether or not you are going to put up with it any longer.
So choose! Stop complaining, & make a decision. Are you going to stay & live under these conditions voluntarily, or are you going to make your exit, & take back your life? It's up to you!
2006-11-05 16:09:43 · answer #6 · answered by No More 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-01 07:55:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my gosh! You should be a writer! That was such a good but disgusting description! Anyways, that's a crappy situation. Tell your boyfriends mom how you feel and say just say that it's not sanitary or safe for him to be there! I'm not for fighting, but I'm surprised your boyfriend hasn't kicked his ***!
2006-11-05 16:12:15 · answer #8 · answered by charlottesamanthamirandacarrie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Evict them. Give them 30 days to get out. Tell the mother in law it's him or the streets. It's up to her since she is taking advantage of u as well.
2006-11-05 16:04:21 · answer #9 · answered by latina44572002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a very sweet and responsible woman..
It is up to your b/f to solve this problem but he has not
married you in 5 yrs. so he isn't much of one for taking
firm committed mature action...
So he probably will just try to ignore it until he is forced
to make some kind of decision...
2006-11-05 16:06:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your boy-friend's mother need a wake up call and leave the bum. One of you all need to sit down with this woman and have a heart to heart talk to her.
2006-11-05 16:06:34 · answer #11 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋