One of my closest friends has just come to terms with the fact that he's gay. He came out to his parents, and his dad has not spoken with him since. Now my friend wants to kill himself (he almost attempted it). I don't want to lose him, but i don't know what to say or do...HELP!!!
2006-11-05 15:40:35 · 9 answers · asked by Rebekah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Tell him that things will get better, and life won't stay this way forever. You also need to TELL his dad, he is obviously not aware. He will definitely lighten up if he knows his son seriously attempted suicide because of something he caused. Call 1-800-SUICIDE. Yes, it's an actual number to call when teens are having suicidal thoughts. He needs help. Talk to him. Good luck, and Blessed Be.
2006-11-05 15:46:49 · answer #1 · answered by Rachel the Atheist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you need to, if he says something or you know he's trying it very soon, call the police. Otherwise, encourage him to get whatever help is available to him: if that means school guidance counselors (though I know mine were pretty inept), or the college health center, make an appointment with a psychologist, or walk into the emergency room if that's what it takes. If you know anyone else in your life who's gay who's maybe more comfortable with it, who's happier in life, maybe someone a little older, they might be good for him to be able to talk to. Failing that, the most you can do is listen and be there for him. I will say, having been somewhere similar: whatever happens is not your fault. There are some things you can do to try to help him, but it's his life and his decisions.
2016-05-22 02:50:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all be he's friend , be there for him .. Your friend's attempt is a cry for help , to be accepted , make him see that is a normal response of his father , possible from homophobia , explain to your friend that his personal feelings are all right and normal and his state of gay is by birth and not a sin whatsoever , he has no control over his out come . Watch over your friend have a close relation to give him support , meet with other gay friends for additional support ... and his father will come around in time and if he doesn't just have compassion for him , because doesnt know what he has lost.
2006-11-05 15:58:57 · answer #3 · answered by young old man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THere are two rules you should always remember in that kind of situation
1. If comeone is going to kill themselves, is really serious about it, you can't stop them.
2. Ignore rule number one. As long as you know it, you can ignore it.
Plan future stuff, start with just going to a movie next week, keep them looking ahead. Muck around with ideas for travel after school/ college whateva. (amsterdam is always a good one).
Try not to be awkward if he is talking about stuff, don't fidget etc. And don't verbally trash his dad (or defend his dads actions). Somewhere in his subconcious he really cares about what his dad thinks. It's not his fault his dad is a jerk. JUST BE THERE.
2006-11-05 15:55:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a suicide prevention hotline but I don't know the phone number. Do a search on your computer and see what you can pull up. Talk to your friend. Stress the fact that suicide is not the answer but it is permanent! Good luck and God bless.
2006-11-05 15:47:06 · answer #5 · answered by butterflylover 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell a responsible adult, like the school counselor,
your parent, and even his parent.
Don't YOU tell the reason, which might add to the problem.
It's enough to just tell someone your fear.
you have to tell.
You can tell your friend that as a teen,
he can't really know what he is sexually.
you just tell him he is normal for being sexual.
Sexual feelings are trouble makers,
and he can't count on his label as being forever.
2006-11-05 16:03:23 · answer #6 · answered by dj_of_raleigh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, well, havin sorta been down myself, u need to be there for him. if he calls in the night then do ur best to answer it. even if u cant offer advice, just be there and let him talk his feelings out. maybe try and get him to write his feelings down. i know that always helps me. assure him that things will be ok. but also be careful not to smother him. that can sorta make things worse.
2006-11-05 15:47:09 · answer #7 · answered by *lil miss* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to a phsycologist and tell him about it or tell his parents , I am sure that they will seek help for him,at first he will probably will seem mad but later on he will thank you for your help and concern and that is a true friend.
2006-11-05 15:52:53 · answer #8 · answered by elijahdelao 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
CALL NOW:
National suicide crisis hotline
1.800.SUICIDE (784-2433)
2006-11-05 16:05:44 · answer #9 · answered by musemessmer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋