Okay, my husband has been talking to his ex-girlfriend from 14 years ago. He's has nothing to hide. I'm right there when he talks to her. They have no problems with each other and she seemed to be very nice. Until...........she is now bringing up the past about their relationship and how much she misses him. Should I be concerned. I know my husband will not leave. He has no feelings towards her whatsoever.
2006-11-05 15:32:14 · 19 answers · asked by Barb 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like you have nothing to worry about, just let your husband know how much you appreciate him not hiding anything from you and let him give this women the closure she needs. Then she should back off, if not your husband sounds like he would tell you.
2006-11-05 16:37:49 · answer #1 · answered by magicallybeautiful10plus 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, your husband may be the sweetest man in the world, with the best of intentions....but this other women is not. You need to put an end to this. Once she starts bringing up the past, especially about how she misses him, it's going to stir up "what if" questions in his mind and once that starts...it tends to snowball. EVEN IF HE SWEARS HE HAS NO FEELINGS! It's a common reaction for any of us. To flirt with temptation. In men, it's also an ego boost for them to know they are still wanted by others. Tell him how it's making you feel, from the way you make him sound, he'll understand and do the right thing.
If you are worried that he'll be upset, then have that conversation with her. Tell her that you respect the friendship she has with him, but that you'd prefer it to stay on that level and not re-hash the past. Tell her that who is was back then is not the same person he is today and neither is she. Things have changed, time has past and he now has a wife.
I wish you luck with this one....it's sort of a touchy thing to have to deal with. You are sort of damned if you do say something and damned if you don't. All I can say is that if you do nothing, something may happen, and if you say something, nothing is going to happen. It's sort of a Murphy's law...always plan for the worst, so you'll be pleasantly surprised when it never happens.
2006-11-05 15:42:32 · answer #2 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you are a better woman than I'm. See girlfriend that situation will never have started because that hash up old feeling whereas he get to wondering what if's. See his past should stay the past and he needs to focus on the future with you. I will end that old little situation, before you experience a hurt that you don't want. His Ex-Girlfriend should take a damn hike because her intentions are very disrespectful and for him to keep communicating with her after she made that statement. He is disrepecting you by allowing her to talk like that to him and he know's that you are his future.
2006-11-05 16:01:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The more they talk the more dangerous it is for you. They will get closer and closer and they will get emotionally attached again and then they will get physical. By that time it is very difficult for him to leave her. He might even choose her over you. So take steps to stop him talking to her. Tell him he has to stop all communications with her. No calls, no writing, no e-mails and no meeting. If he does it against your wishes, it means he doesn't treasure his relationship with you. Time to divorce him.
2006-11-06 03:20:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to trust your husband because he's the one you're having a relationship with.
You should talk to him about how inappropriate the ex is being when she talks about the past. That's being disrespectful of him, you and your marriage.
He needs to rethink this.
2006-11-05 15:36:16 · answer #5 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be mad as hell. your husband should be respectful towards your marriage and no that its not right to be interacting with another women with whom he was romantically involved with from his past. If the shoe was on the other foot how would he react? Im sure he wouldnt be ok with it.
2006-11-05 15:36:03 · answer #6 · answered by msamoohead 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should be very very concern... and how do you know your husband has no feelings for her?.. (your not the one feeling it) Your husband should be talking to you not his ex-girl...
2006-11-05 15:52:44 · answer #7 · answered by Morena 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem with my husband and his ex-girlfriend how i handled it was i told him if he really loved me and his son he would stop talking to her and he did.
2006-11-05 15:37:07 · answer #8 · answered by sher_sher_light 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He should have told her to get lost the first time she started bringing crap like that up! There is nothing wrong with being friends with anyone but there is a line that you should never cross and that is it!
2006-11-05 15:35:38 · answer #9 · answered by *~BETHY~* 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it is making you uncomfortable then I would discuss it with your husband and let him know it does. Maybe he should tell her that while he appreciates the memories he has moved on and she should do so as well.
2006-11-05 15:34:57 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋