she is eighteen and she is five months pregnant. i'm actually really worried about her because she seems to think it's no big deal from the outside looking in. we were best friends for 2 years, and she's been shutting me out.
i really don't know what to do.
2006-11-05 15:31:05 · 8 answers · asked by maria p 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
the best thing for you to do at this point in time is just be there for her. she has millions of hormones flaring up and dont relize it. usually motherhood comes naturally directly after the baby is born. then she will relize how much you've been there for her and how much you care. dont give up on the friendship because this is a HUGE time for a women...being pregnant that is. its great that you support her. only 4 more months to go and trust me, it will fly by! Best of luck. Have fun with her and take her out and stuff. let her know that you love her!
2006-11-05 15:36:49 · answer #1 · answered by It's Robyn! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is sweet that you want to show her that you support her. She is lucky to have a friend that cares at this time. She is going through a lot I am sure. Don't take her shutting you out personally. Deep down she might be scared and really stressed out and shutting down is how she is dealing with it. She needs all the support she can get once the baby is here. Maybe get her a nice friendship card telling her how much your friendship means and give it to her with a gift for the baby (like baby clothes or a toy or something). That will show her that you are there to support her and the baby. Getting her some books about taking care of a baby (if she doesn't have them already) might also be a good idea.
2006-11-05 15:38:21 · answer #2 · answered by Mavoth 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The only thing you can do is tell her. I mean if she truly values your friendship then she will listen to what you have to say. But just remember that what has happened has already happened and you cannot go back and rewrite history OK. Believe it or not she is going to need your support as much as possible during this time. So be there for her as moral support. But just because you do this does not mean you are condoning any bad behavior on her part. But if she ends the friendship because of how you feel then she does not really care about being your friend nor does she deserve your friendship.
2006-11-05 15:39:47 · answer #3 · answered by Miss Vira 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your friend does not think it is a big deal she is going to get a big slap in the face when that baby is born, for most people that is when the true reality of being a parent sets in.
My friend just turned 19 and she is 6 months along with twins and does not seem to think it is a big deal, she is broke and bouncing back and fourth from home to home because she lost her apartment a few months ago and the only baby stuff she has is the stuff my mom got her which is at my place.
2006-11-05 15:34:29 · answer #4 · answered by Diamonds_Glow 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
not much you can do.... she thinks she is grown at that age and being PREG. only make her feel older. The best you can do if you are really worried, is wait back incase she needs you. You didn't state to much as to what the problem is, but if she is shutting you out, then don't bother trying to be to helpful. You seem like a good and caring friend. but sometimes people don't see your good intentions,,,,
2006-11-05 15:36:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
She is young and I am sure that she is scared and she just don't want you to know how she really feels because she may not want you to think she is weak or not strong enough to take care of a baby if she was to tell you how she is really feeling. Being that young and pregnant is very scaring I know I did it. Just let her know you are there for her for any reason and she can talk to you about anything.
2006-11-05 15:38:18 · answer #6 · answered by Chandra H 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just keep being her friend. She might be pulling away because she knows deep down that you are right. Maybe if she has a lot of support already she is viewing it as no big deal.
2006-11-05 15:39:46 · answer #7 · answered by l'il mama 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's probably her hormones going on a rampage dear. Just be there the best that you can be and when she has the baby she will realize how big of a responsibility the baby is.
2006-11-05 18:21:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋