How can I stop pitying myself?

Question

I know there are people who have life harder than myself, but I have had a lot of bad things happen to me and I can't stop pitying myself. The fact that people in hospitals and third world countries have it harder than I do does not seem to stop me from pitying myself.

Answer 1

This might sound kinda harsh, but you need to get outside of yourself. Volunteer for a food pantry, senior center, childrens cancer ward, soup kitchen or a local Habitat for Humanity. When you do things for others who are less fortunate, you don't think about yourself so much. You begin trying to help others help themselves. Though there will always be moochers out there, there are thousands of people who reallly don't know how to get out of the place they've found themselves. They need a helping hand, a word of encouragment or just a friendly smile. When you spend your life helping others, you tend to not feel sorry for yourself. When you spend time throwing yourself a pity party, you'll find that no one wants to show up. It's a pretty lonesome existance. Just know that you are not alone in having bad stuff happen to you. Yeah, I know that you know that. But, when you personally get involved with people who have it worse than you do, you begin to look at your own stuff with different eyes. Then, you start thinking of things that might help these people. It might be a job tip, or some information about a program that can help them in some way. Once you've helped someone out of the hole they're in, you will never be the same. It makes you feel like you've been put here for a purpose. And that's what more people need to feel. That they have a purpose in this life. And you do. It's to make a difference, wherever you go. <*)))><

Answer 2

Dear, I have been there a few times myself. The last time I was pitying myself was in 2002 when my Special Education teaching contract wasn't renewed. This was a result of nasty school politics and also lack of funding for Special Education positions...3 of us didn't get our contracts renewed.

Even after 9 months I still wasn't employed. I had applied to hundreds of positions...mostly online. I grew bitter and very dissolutioned. Finally, I got up one day and decided to do something. I visited the Veteran's Administration and started taking Paxil, 20 mg. again for depression. I also volunteered at the Project Learn to Read here in San Antonio. At this place I met not only persons like myself who wanted something beneficial to do, I also met wonderful adults who couldn't read.

I spent 3 months here. I then decided to return to working with the disabled. I haven't looked back since and I haven't felt down since, either. In a few words, with the re-prescription of my medication for clinical depression...20 mg a day of Paxil, my continuing vegan lifestyle and my work with people who really NEED me, I have not pitied myself. Each day now I take several minutes throughout the day to say words of gratitude to the universe.

My life has never been happier. Do something good for those who will need you. You will never look back. You will be happy you are helping and you will count your blessings many times a day. Good luck, dear.

Answer 3

Break the habit.
It is a habit you have come to know well. To the point, you know how you will react to troubles that come to you.
And in some ways you, need to feel something deep and meaningful in your life.

The only way to stop self pity, is to find ways to feel just as deep with good things.
You need to feel love. Love of something. You need to find happiness that is deep.

It is good that you are tiring of it. That is a good sign, and this sounds like the time to start feeling deep about good things. But, be realistic...you may not feel the deep impact of feeling good. Just experience it as often as you can. Anything, and everything. Start to force a smile, even when you brush your teeth, make a great cup of coffee...say mmmmmmmmmm...this is good.
Seriously, that is how it all starts. You hear a song you love, dance to it, but say I love this song. Find meaning and joy in the smallest of things.

Answer 4

Even though you pity yourself (we all do) you still sound like you have heart.............so therefore why not give of yourself to someone in need? Seriously...! Why not go to your local hospital and ask if you can volunteer 1 day a week. Go to childrens hospital or volunteer in a nursing home 3 hours a day........to read to them, to help feed them. to just be there for them.......We all need somebody and some of these people do not have family........You will forget all about pitying yourself and love helping those who need you! good luck hon!.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

if this feeling keeps going for a long time, it could be depression. I had depression, and without treatment, a depression state can last almost a year. Mine last for 9 months (didn't seek treatment) and one day i just stopped feeling bad. I would talk to a doctor.

Answer 7

well pity yourself, and have a good cry, you will feel better, I'm sure you have alot to be pitied about, Me too!

Answer 8

Dye your hair, cook something for a neighbor, buy a book for your child, work harder at work, etc.

Answer 9

Appreciation is the key..................learn to have appreciation for what you DO have......what ever that is.....your not in jail for 10 years that some get probation for....your parents raised you, your still here...you have the Internet....many don't, I'm guessing your not living in one of the poorest and dangerous states in the union...many do.
Get over it (what ever it is) and move on...

Answer 10

you have to understand that it's a choice, and make the choice to knock it off.

My life is not even close to where i want it to be and if i let myself i will plumet to the depths you're talking about.

Will yourself not to.