My mother in law is always telling us we can't afford this or we don't need to buy that.Now she's told my wife she thinks I should get a vasectomy.
2006-11-05 15:25:38 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell your mother in law she needs to get a tonguectomy. LOL
Your mother in law is always telling you what to do, but are doing what she tells you? It's very simple. The two of you together need to tell her to keep her nose out of your personal affairs, and if she can't manage to do that then she will be out of your lives for good. The choice will be hers to make.
2006-11-05 20:49:00 · answer #1 · answered by Das 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the only way I would suggest a divorce, is if your wife is agreeing with her mother. And if that's the case, run...run fast and don't look back. You definately don't want to go through life being told what you can and cannot do. Afterall, you aren't a child.
Now, if, your wife is just as fed up with dear old mom as you are, it's her job to take a stand and tell mom that although she appreciates her advice, it's coming across as intrusive and plain out rude (especially about the vasectomy comment). If your mother in law is one of those "hard headed" types, have your wife turn it around on her. All she needs to say is "Mom, you've raised me to make sound judgements and taught me right from wrong, if you did a good job, then you should trust me. If not, let me make my own mistakes and learn from them." It puts a mom in her place every time.
Wish you luck...and a huge inheritance that you can consider "Pain in the a@@ money" when she kicks the bucket!
2006-11-05 23:33:48 · answer #2 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother in law need to have her Balls cut off and then she can tell you all about it! As far as her telling your wife you cant afford something , how does she know what you can afford!Dont get a divorce because mother in law is a nosie witch!! You and your wife need to set down and have a long talk.
2006-11-05 23:55:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not base my choice on whether or not to divorce my wife simply on my mother in law. For starters, do you love your wife? Does she treat you well? Does she have the same opinions as her mother? If you love her, she treats you good and does not necessarily have her mother's point of view, then no, don't divorce. The two of you (or your wife alone if she chooses) need to sit down with m-i-l and explain to her that, while you value her opinion, some decisions are left to made between you and your wife and politely explain that she might keep her opinions quiet.
2006-11-05 23:30:07 · answer #4 · answered by esmeralda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you like your wife divorcing you
because of something your family said?
Your mother in law can be a Nazi,
worship the devil, and have over due books,
but she can't MAKE decisions for you and your wife.
She may or may not be right in her opinions,
but the decisions are her daughter's and yours.
The divorce needs to be from the mother in law,
letting her advice go in one ear and out the other.
Talk to your wife and ask her NOT to repeat her mother.
Now, if you are living with or on your mother in law,
then get the divorce so kids won't have to suffer.
2006-11-05 23:36:15 · answer #5 · answered by dj_of_raleigh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is wrong with you....you want a divorce because you're mother-in-law is interfering?
You're not being honest with yourself....if you loved your wife and wanted your marriage to work absolutely nothing could break you up.
As far as the vasectomy....nobody can make you do anything you don't want to do.
This may sound harsh....but for goodness sakes grow up.
2006-11-05 23:28:34 · answer #6 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, you're not married to your mother in law, so I don't see how you can divorce her. don't look for an easy out, you made a committment, keep it. if need be, gently remind your wife that she also made a committment to make you her first priority over anyone else, including her birth family. However, you didn't really specify if your wife goes along with her mother or if the poor woman is also a victim of her crazy mother.....
2006-11-05 23:29:39 · answer #7 · answered by Natalie M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you married your wife, not you mother in law. Any decisions that benefits the two you should be made by you both. Anything that has to do with your own health/body should be made by you and you only. You can hear suggestions, but that's all it is a suggestion.
2006-11-05 23:32:16 · answer #8 · answered by Kitty Cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh no a meddling mother in law. I would have your wife have a serious talk with her and tell her mother it is your lives to lead. If she continues then maybe you should step in. You did not marry her mother you married your wife. Just laugh it off and live your life happily with your wife.
2006-11-06 00:17:00 · answer #9 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's ok all mothers in law are like that...this shouldn't be a reason for divorce if u love your wife and she loves u.
you have to talk that out with your wife and tell her to ask her mom to get out of your private and personal lives
2006-11-05 23:33:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋