This is the problem my daughter's father wants her to come stay with him for a week but I really dont want her to go. The reason I dont want her to go is that he is with the a new girl and she is pregnant and very very moody and mean. When he called to tell me he would like her to come stay a week I was like a week she dont stay a week only two days when he is off . So if she stayed a week she would be watching my daughter or whoever that I dont know will be watching her. Well in the back ground when I was on the phone with him she was bitching and complaing about something to him and putting me down . Something is telling me not to let my daughter go down there and stay with them but I want my daughter still see her dad but not when that crazy woman is around lol. just to let you all know it has nothing to do with me still likeing my ex I am engaged and I have a new baby. But my question is would you let your 3 year old daughter go see her father with this kinda situation.
2006-11-05 14:56:51 · 13 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, if that woman is a part of his new family you have to deal with the fact that she will be there around your daughter. You don't have to let her stay over there for someone else to watch her. What is the point? She only needs to go over there when he is off. How can he spend time with her when he's working? It doesn't make sense.
2006-11-05 15:03:06 · answer #1 · answered by Angel2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think I would have a problem with his girlfriend taking care of your daughter for a week.
Why does he want her to come visit if he's going to be working.
Maybe you can comprise and ask him to take off for a long weekend and then he can spend some real time with her.
Maybe it's the Mom in me talking but she's only 3 and I would have a problem with this situation.
2006-11-05 15:06:25 · answer #2 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a mother myself, I can understand your concern. Have you talked to you daughter, I know she is too young to understand whats going on, just find out how the pregnant girlfriend treats her and if she likes her. Kids are remarkable judge of people. If she has no problem with the girlfriend then consider letting her go, but if she has bad things to say, then seriously consider not letting her go!
2006-11-05 15:05:54 · answer #3 · answered by meow699423 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hell no!
I have three sons and no daughters but my child would not be put in that situation mainly because of the age. That is tender and if he is not around the vast amount of the time and she would be in some one elses care anything could happen if she is in the state of mind you described. No don't do it! The child is not old enough to defend herself!
2006-11-05 15:03:39 · answer #4 · answered by Teenie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you think that this other woman would be unfair to your daughter..than don't let her go. I do think that you should share your concerns with your ex..so he knows what you are thinking about the situation. Tell him that you are not comfortable with your daughter being there with his gf alone while he is not there. When it comes to protecting your children....only you can speak up for them! No one else will....hopefully he will understand and it won't be an issue....
2006-11-05 15:01:53 · answer #5 · answered by Tru-Gem 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to put your daughters feelings before yours, just because you don't like this women, it doesn't mean you have the right to keep her from her father. If she doesn't want to go then that's fine but don't keep her from him because of your own personal feelings that's just wrong and she will eventually resent you for it. My mom did the same thing and now I haven't talked to my father in years. I have a 21 month old and a 3 month old whom he has never met. Please just put your daughter 1st, she needs a father.
2006-11-05 15:07:51 · answer #6 · answered by Lin_Z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I very very sorry you have to put up with it, I know how you feel believe me when I tell you. If you want my opinion I would say no don't let her go for that long. Two days is good enough, don't let her go stay somewhere she's not really wanted!
2006-11-05 15:05:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have any kind of legal agreement that you need to refer to? I mean do you have a separation agreement or custody agreement? What does that say about allowing your daughter to see her father. I say trust your instincts. You are your daughter's best advocate. If you're feeling not right, then it isn't. Tell her father that she can spend her usual 2 days with him, but if he wants more, tell him to take you to court. Make him prove that everything is okay.
2006-11-05 15:03:48 · answer #8 · answered by Karen C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask the courts or look at your paperwork.Does he have the right to keep her a week?If so you have to let her go,or face charges.
2006-11-05 15:04:16 · answer #9 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you smell smoke, there is a fire. As a mom-ALWAYS trust your gut nomatter who it hurts in the process.
2006-11-05 15:11:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋