I've been with my husband almost 4 years married for 1 1/2 this august he started colleage (he's going for his RN) but we can't afford for him to quit working to go so he is going to school full time and working full time. i also work a 40-48 hour week so we rarely get to see each other the one day that we have a chance of spending together is sundays but lately he has been spending his sundays sleeping to catch up from the week meanwhile i have my whole weekend off i try and clean the house and make things nice and then just sorta hang out by myself or with friends. i know that he is only doing so much work right now is to make a better lifefor us in the future. but i miss him he's here asleep right now but he may as well be a million miles away. and don't get me wrong this isn't about sex i can do with out that i just feel so emotionaly detached from him. and at the same time i feel guilty and selfish for wanting to spend time with him when he is trying to make our lives better
2006-11-05 14:56:06 · 12 answers · asked by insane illusions 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How long is the RN program at his school? If it is only two years in length, the strain is well worth it in the income and benefits. Going to school full time is not easy and to have a full time job along with it makes it a lot harder and less sleep. If he cut down to part time on school, it would draw out the program even longer than it is now. The extra time could draw out to another year or two. My brother just completed his MBA online and went online. He did about 6 credits per semester and he had a full time job and still struggled each week to get things done at times. Maybe it is an idea to schedule a date per week or just time for the two of you. Just remember, one day done is one less day until graduation from the program and less daily struggling from day to day financially and closer to graduation and financial security.
2006-11-05 15:42:25 · answer #1 · answered by dawncs 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately, you probably are just going to learn to cope with this. Cause if you bring it up, it may cause an argument because he's trying to make things better for the both of you and most likely he will take this approach from you as being ungrateful. If you do bring it up and he understands, I mean, what can he do if he's always working? You said you can't afford for him to quit working. And you work a lot too. I'm sure he misses you too, but you guys are stuck right now.
2006-11-05 15:00:50 · answer #2 · answered by Antonia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel. Lack of communication is what causes most problems. Just hang in there. It's only temporary. You have to understand how hard it is to do work and schooling full time. Especially nursing, it's very difficult and competitive. Plan a date with him, have a day where you both drop everything and just focus on each other. Write it in your calendar. This way you can get that special attention you need. Good Luck!
2006-11-05 15:04:13 · answer #3 · answered by Aidge 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him.
Tell him how you're feeling.
Ask him how he's feeling.
Sounds like you need to make some more special time together.
As you don't sound angry about anything, just missing the 'togetherness', I reckon you'll find the emptyness/loneliness will start going away when you two take the time to reconnect.
Communication is vital.
There's no guilt and selfishness attached to wanting your man.
The only thing that's missing is some togetherness.
Good luck.
2006-11-05 15:07:02 · answer #4 · answered by lulu 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what your going through! you need to at least let him know how you feel,and try to find a way to make time for eachother its really important,it might require some cutting back maybe only an hour or two on ur work time.
2006-11-05 15:18:40 · answer #5 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you miss his company, put off the housework for a few hours and just crawl into bed with him on the weekend for a nap, or read a book beside him. It shows you want to be with him without asking too much.
Things will get better. Good luck!
2006-11-05 15:02:45 · answer #6 · answered by jerzy03 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let him know ahead of time that you want to spend a Sunday with him doing something. That way he can prepare for it. I would be lonely too, but at least he is doing something for the benefit of both of you. It would be a different story if he were out hanging out with friends or something.
2006-11-05 14:59:51 · answer #7 · answered by Angel2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Believe me honey...I understand. I'm a military wife. Just hold him when you get the chance and support him. Things will get better.
2006-11-05 16:02:31 · answer #8 · answered by Julie W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No doubt, when you love someone, you want to be with them. just remember, he won't be in school forever, just go lay down beside him, and cuddle up to him, just be with him, cause he probably feels the same way.
2006-11-05 15:01:11 · answer #9 · answered by Sentinel 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I understand - just tell him how you feel.
2006-11-05 14:58:39 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋