Should I trust my husband with our neighbor?

Question

My neighbor spent 3 nights the third night I found them under the covers together. He treats her alot better than me. When she wants something he usually tries to get it for her, even though I am left home with the kids. He is always looking at her in flirting ways, watching her walk, and checking out if you know what I mean. Should I trust them together/

Answer 1

I don't know what state your in. Some states, I think, cheating still means something in court. If there are assets, you want to make sure you get your fair share. I don't know how long you have been married. But make it easy on your attorney or yourself if you file yourself. Make sure you have all the information you need, pay check stubs. Pension plan, 401 k plan he might have. What ever. Deed to the house, pink slips if you own any cars, boats, motor cycles, etc. Any community property.

Don't forget copies of all bills, credit cards etc. And if you can get your hands on the cards get them and don't run up bills that will be an issue. Immediately file separation papers so you will not be liable for any bills he create after that point.

Sorry you have been hurt by your husband and neighbor. It happens a lot. It is too bad people have no respect for others or themselves. Remember that it is NOT your fault. Your husband made this bad choice. Not your fault at all. He would like to blame it on you but don't you listen. You are the good person here. You are not the dishonest cheat. He is. Be good to yourself.

If you can chose to live happy, chose happy.

Answer 2

NO NO NO NO a thousand times NOOOOOOOOOOOO

I would n't trust him with anyone ever again.

I would be gone so fast his head would be spinning. Take the kids and leave him. Let the two of them pay alimony and child support.

It is better for kids to be from a broken home than to live in one.

What part of you think that any of this is OK???? Were you raised to be abused? And your husband. He is thinking with the wrong head. What a creep. What....I can't type the words here.

And you....the fact that you ask this and just don't know how bad this is. Where is your brain? You might love him....but you can't subject yourself to that kind of open cheating.

Get some counseling with him or leav as ap. The man is a low life.

Answer 3

umm take it from someone who knows...NO, don't trust him, ESPECIALLY when you find them UNDER THE COVERS??? How did they explain that one, and how is this hobag still allowed on your property???

Follow your gut here. When a man is cheating, you'll KNOW. You won't want to believe it, but you KNOW. I know what that feels like. The big red warning lights are flashing.... I urge you to be a detective, track atm usage, take notes, save reciepts, and I may get some not in agreement here, but I say go through his wallet when he's sound asleep....this could make or break you. But at least you'll know.

I caught my H in a good one, Got the reciepts where he bought a 6pk of beer at our Giant Eagle, then drove 15mins to the Exchange to buy a movie, which is 4 mins from her place, then I called her up to ask if he left his new movie there last night.... BUSTED. She stumbled all over her words.... Pay attention to times, dates, and reciepts that go in time order. It pays to be smart about these things. Then store them at work or at a friends so that when you need them for the atty, you have them.

Good luck sweetie. Not to say that you'll automatically divorce, but if you don't, I would move. Can't be neighbors with that huzzy anymore.

Answer 4

I am that guy with the neighbor woman. My wife has given me too many chances and still won't take charge and do what needs to be done. There should be serious consequences if you care at all. If I were him, I'd expect to come home to a house with the lockes changed and my clothes and things outside on the lawn. Then maybe he'd take you seriously and realize that he has to make a clear choice in his life.

Answer 5

Oh my gosh no you shouldn't trust them what are they doing under the covers together. They should not be under the covers at all I dont care how cold it is. They are both snakes and I think you know the answer to this question.

Answer 6

what is there not to see, he is having an affair, and no i would not trust them together at all. confront him, give him an ultamatium, and if he abandons u than you lost nothing anyway, how disrespectful he has treated u, as if u have no feeling's, and like u don't matter. i would confront the neighbor too, and watch my husband closer. not that we really have any control over someone who wants to cheat.

Answer 7

Truthfully, deep down you know the answer. You have a serious problem on your hands. There is nothing innocent about being under covers together.

Answer 8

NO NO NO!! Your husband sounds like a cheating P R I C K and i would not stand for it!! Confront him and your neighbor and find out what exactly is going on...then tell the loser husband to hit the road and find a decent man who you won't have to worry is cheating on you!!

Answer 9

You caught them under the covers together, and you are asking if you should trust them together. Talk about love being blind. It was right there in your face!

Answer 10

YOU FOUND THEM UNDER THE COVERS...should tell you enough...HELL NO .you can't trust either one of them, why is she spending the night anyway, tell the ***** she's no longer welcomed in your home, it's very disrespectful of your husband to even entertain the idea of her anyway, and he treats her better than you? WOW..one word for her HOMEWRECKER.