Okay, so, this isn't about me it's about a friend of mine. She believes she is bi & all because she likes girls & guys. She has feelings for this inpaticular girl but she don't know what to do because she don't know if she's bi or not. I KNOW that that sounds weird an all but she really don't. It's like she likes them but don't think she could like ever...have sex with them or not. I don't know what to say to her. Please help me? & please don't be mean about this situation, like most people usually are agaisnt gay people.
2006-11-05 14:20:55 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Generally, people who are romantically or sexually interested in guys and girls are bi. Some people who are usually gay (or usually straight) may find they're attracted to someone of the same (or opposite) sex; these people need to decide for themselves what labels they're most comfortable with.
If your friend thinks she's into this girl, but isn't sure she's comfortable with it, she should be as honest as she can be about that, and go slow. Nobody wants to find out after they're already in love that they were just someone's experiment.
2006-11-05 14:33:44 · answer #1 · answered by Ethel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it is NOT UNNATURAL for people to feel "love" or a sense of "hero worship" about a member of the same sex. Especially between the ages of 8-15 or so. This is natural and normal, but often leaves people scared and confused because of societies dislike for Gay people.
This is so sad, because these feelings are perfectly normal. It is like a boy or a girl looking up to their "big brother or sister," seeing what they want to be like when they grow up. They are symbols of "what is coming" and what they are not as younger people, at least not yet. So, when they see older athletes, singers or some friend they find particularly appealing for some reason, they "fall in love," so to speak.
Perhaps this is what your girlfriend feels. Especially since she has no sexual feelings for the other girl. If she HAD sexual feelings it would be different and I would be inclined to feel she were bisexual and as Seinfeld says "not that there's anything wrong with that." Screw society. People have to be happy and live their own lives and society can just deal with it or not, whichever. Its time to stop caring what others think and live to make your life complete. I'm not saying be disrespectful, but nor should you allow others to disrespect you!
2006-11-05 22:37:34 · answer #2 · answered by AdamKadmon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be hard to tell if someone is gay or bi etc when you like them so that's why she can't tell. She is better off just going up and talking to her for a bit and then asking her if she would like to do something sometime. If she gets the hint she'll either say oh I'm flattered but I'm not that way inclined or she'll say yes. Tell your friend she just needs to take a chance.
2006-11-05 22:28:25 · answer #3 · answered by angelic_devil30 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you just have to decide for yourself. In my personal opinion, being gay or bi is based SOLELY on sexual attraction. Otherwise, what separates men and women for us straights? Absolutely nothing.
As for your friend, I'm not sure whether she is bi or not because three weeks ago I couldn't for my life imagine having sex with my boyfriend. 3 days after we started dating, I did.
2006-11-05 23:19:14 · answer #4 · answered by between_the_sheets74 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds pretty bi to me.
2006-11-05 22:25:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's all very confusing but if she gets aroused by both genders the i am starting to believe she might be bi
2006-11-05 22:42:31 · answer #6 · answered by non-curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you have sex with your same gender and you don't get excited, that's a big tip off. Its pretty basic.
2006-11-05 22:24:22 · answer #7 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just support her. That's all you can really do. If she's interested in that girl, she should just ask her out. There's a lot of bisexual and lesbian women out there.
2006-11-05 22:29:47 · answer #8 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋