Two years ago i worked with two woman and they were really nasty but i could tell that i was the third person and that they didn't really accept me and occasionly have a dig here and ther anyway two years later i have still lost that confidence that i had before i worked there and feel like i will never be that happy person i once was. I was lucky enough to be popular my whole life so i know that this sounds stupid but i find i get jealous when i find out they got married and i get real angry if their names are mentioned i just can't seem to get these bitches out of my head. how long will this take??
2006-11-05 14:15:33 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Gosh, I am sorry you went through this. Your reaction is very normal and in alignment with what is post traumatic stress caused by workplace bullying. There are some excellent resources out there about healing, which will also bring validation to your experience. There is a wonderful book called "bully in sight" by tim fields - you should read this book. And it should give you insite too, most bullies are really lacking in confidence and wear and tear down those who have inner strength in order to make themselves feel better. I think the book is available on amazon.
2006-11-05 14:23:46 · answer #1 · answered by EM-water2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey how you really doing. I've been bullied for the first 20 years of my life. and then when I got a new job 15 years ago. several years into that job. It started again. The first session when I was young. Made me not trust any body, and get the digs in first as a defense mechanism and self protection. Which also set me up for the bulling years later. After going to counseling for 3 years, and learning much about myself. I did realize that they are basically morons with too many problems themselves. Find someone you trust to talk to. I mean really trust. Unload with them. And consider that bullies are just slime and don't deserve the time of day. Start with respecting yourself. I find that if I am nice to one person when I feel bad it helps. So I pick someone out that looks to need it. And realize the other manure eaters don't matter. Then things look up a little bit. God bless you. I don't know how long this will take you. It depends on how you handle it inside.
2006-11-05 22:31:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nasty people are that way for a reason. Hire some neighborhood "hoodlums" to fling unmentionable items at them to make them smell nasty. That should make it all better in a second or two. Otherwise...just don't sweat it. If you don't wanna play their game...Then ignore them and find love of your own. Just kidding about the flinging..but I bet it made ya smile =-)
2006-11-05 22:42:54 · answer #3 · answered by 35 YEARS OF INTUITION 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you "get over it". I think you have to grow from it. I know that sounds like psychbabble, but it is going to effect you because it happened. At least now (hopefully) you will never treat anyone else like that. Some people are just mean!!
2006-11-05 22:32:16 · answer #4 · answered by joby1kanobe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋