I have loved my best friend for 3 years (I'm a guy, my friend, a girl).
We have been best friends for about 3 years, and I have loved her for about the same time. I spend all of my time with her, and we have so much fun together. The problem is, I am madly in love with her, and she considers me more of a brother. We've talked about this and I have no idea what to do. I have tried to see other women but none of them can compare to this girl (personality or looks).
And when I really think about it, I doubt I will ever find anyone more amazing than her.
I wish we could just stop being with each other, but she is my best friend, and sadly, most of the fun I have is with her. She's the only one that makes me happy, but she's also the reason I have been cutting my wrists...
Any help, please?
2006-11-05 14:05:59 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Edit: She knows I like her, and she says she can only be my friend, nothing more.
Also, I go to school with her, and it's a very small school. It's nearly impossible to avoid her.
2006-11-05 15:01:24 · update #1
Oh no, please stop hurting yourself because of this. If she has seen you hurting yourself because of her, and she still didn't give you any sign at all, I'm sorry, she does not love you. A guy who really liked me once, almost fell from the 3rd floor building because of me. I was shaken for weeks, thinking, what if he died, and it's all because of me? I couldn't stop blaming myself during that time even though it wasn't my fault at all. As a result, this drama will always be a part of my life that I cannot erase. So please, don't hurt yourself, and don't hurt her. You may be thinking too much of her and because you're always with her, you don't have much chance to get out and meet someone else. It doesn't have to be a girl for a relationship, but make more friends and have fun. Since she doesn't feel the same for you, tell her it's difficult for you to see her every day and so, you have to see each other less. Stop comparing her with other girls, all human are designed to be different, so don't expect a clone out of her, it's not healthy! You've been so crazy over her, that your vision is blinded to see the beauty of others.
2006-11-05 14:19:29 · answer #1 · answered by Hanna 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't love somebody without 'em loving you back. You just look begging and pathetic. Like the world's biggest Poindexter. Total loser. You need to smack yourself upside the head and get a life of your own. Do something totally out of character. Think of a real wild thing to do and do it. At the very least, scrape up a couple hundred bucks and get with a professional chick for an hour. Make a new man outta ya. Nobody can help you. Only you can help you. And only if you really want to. Sounds pretty doubtful from here, though.
2006-11-05 14:21:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why not try to talk to her one day.. Make a compromise agreement once it will not work out promise you will still be best friends....There is no harm in trying... How could you be heard if you will not talk? Challenge yourself because its not the only phase of life you would encounter later... More than that. Hurting yourself as cutting your wrist do no good for you...Keep on trying ok? No guts no glory.. No pain , no gain... Good luck !
2006-11-05 14:41:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard one, but to be honest you just have to work at it! There is nothing else to do except stop being his friend. You need to get some LGBT friends so how about finding a local LGBT group and get some support?
2016-05-22 02:35:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aw, this is such a cute story, with the potential to have a happy ending. How old is she, is she young, she just might not be able to see what a geat guy you are. Are you smothering her, this may make her more uncomfortable and not want to be with you. Give this time, she just might come around, we can't have everything and everyone that we want but if you say that she is worth it then I would suggest that you go 4 yours!!!!!
2006-11-05 14:20:32 · answer #5 · answered by Breann 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girls could be best friends with guys without being attracted to them a bit. For guys it is much harder.
(I had a best friend for years. I trusted him with my life.
One day he had asked me to marry him. I felt horrible, mislead and angry. He pretended to be my friend for all the years...
But this is my story.)
Do not wait. tell her how you feel and get it over with. Sooner or later you 'll have to find out how she feels about you. Better sooner than later. It could be the beginning of a beautiful relationship or the end of one. Be prepared for both.
Good luck
2006-11-05 14:55:47 · answer #6 · answered by tanyasiv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just think about it sometimes relationships go sour if you are friends you will be friends for ever. If you are couple you might not last. then you could loose your best friend. Please don't hurt yourself I am sure if she knew she would be very upset in turn you be hurting her. I know it hurts me to see my friends in pain. At least she is in your life. Take care.
2006-11-05 14:35:40 · answer #7 · answered by bella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get some counselling champ, she's not god adn can't become your all in all, i think you need a little help to understand your self and situation
2006-11-05 14:12:04 · answer #8 · answered by much2big4school 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋