2006-11-05 14:03:54 · 20 answers · asked by Maggie T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Whatever happened to honoring your marriage vows that states "to forsake all others"? If u insist on living your life as if u were single then it's better to just get a divorce and let your husband be with someone who knows how to stay commited.
2006-11-05 14:24:11 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is a way to tell a spouse that kind of thing without hurting them deeply. I believe that it is possible to love two men at the same time. That said, I also believe that once you make the marriage vow it is forever. Are you sure that you aren't just curious? Is there a problem in your relationship with your husband that this other person fills?
I dealt with this last year. My husband was very busy at work and I just wanted to have someone to talk with and share things with. It was a mutual friend that I've known for a long time. Things in that situation have a way of getting out of hand. I too thought about sleeping with him just for the fact that he was there and giving me what I needed...attention.
If you tell this to your husband you'll probably loose him. Are you willing to take that chance? Put forth an honest effort into your marriage and then if that doesn't cure the desire for someone else then it's time to call it quits with your husband. Remember the grass isn't always greener. Good luck!
2006-11-05 22:57:05 · answer #2 · answered by boper 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you belong to the school of thought that believes one person for the rest of your life is unnatural, then it should be pretty easy. I know others are saying you either love your husband or the other guy, and that's it, but matters of the heart don't work in black and white. It's possible to love more than one person, and it can be two different kinds of love. As far was whether or what to tell him, I can't say. I can tell you he probably won't be very open minded to that. Most men aren't. He will expect you to choose, and is the new guy even aware of what might happen if you choose him? Does he even want to be with you?
2006-11-05 22:12:10 · answer #3 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't!!! You tell this "other man" to hit the road. If something is missing in your marriage then you make it known. This other guy is the temptation you don't need. What has your husband done to lose you and be hurt so deeply? Please don't break the promise that you made to your husband. PLEASE! I don't judge you or think you are a bad person, I just think you need a good friend to steer you in the right direction. Bad choices are easy to make, and you can walk away from them now and never look back.
2006-11-05 22:12:38 · answer #4 · answered by jbsim75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know really.
Obviously really carefully. And if you think it will destroy the marrage, then think thrice about it.
You can read up on polymory. It can work for some people - and it doesn't for others.
I had an honest talk along these lines with someone and I tried to be careful and nice ..
Beth called me one day asking about our mutual friend Pam about some hints Pam had been dropping. I confirmed that yes, I thought Pam might have been hinting about a 3 way relationship although I had not spoken with Pam about it.
Although I felt better, and was kind and honest, I really did not have much to do with Beth again. It was too wierd for her.
later I moved away for a job because Pam was off again/on again about us.
2006-11-05 22:15:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do the new guy and your husband a favor and leave both of them alone. You'll just hurt everyone you come in contact with, your entire life. Just sleep around and don't try to fool everyone and yourself... the only reason you think you're in love is because you slept with him.
2006-11-05 22:10:26 · answer #6 · answered by Nep 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have some serious issues that needs immediate attention... stick to your husband!!! how could you let someone else ruin your marriage? much less tell your husband there's another guy? quit cheating and stop the affair--you know that is only fair and right...
2006-11-05 22:09:06 · answer #7 · answered by wat_more_can_i_say? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no easy way to do that because it will end up hurting your husband. You should just stick with your husband as he is the one you married.
2006-11-05 22:12:18 · answer #8 · answered by Leila G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way that you can love 2 men. If you truly love someone you will only want to be with that person. Figure out who that ONE is
2006-11-05 22:08:31 · answer #9 · answered by Angel2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
would you want your husband to tell you he wants to be with another woman?
2006-11-05 22:08:35 · answer #10 · answered by S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋