why do men hide there feelings?do you men ever show how you feel. ive been with my man for 6 years and the only loving i get is before sex !!!! im trying to figure out is it just him or are there more out there like him?
2006-11-05 13:57:06 · 23 answers · asked by mima 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I can cite my own example. I never show how much I love someone because I'm afraid it is never good enough, I'm afraid of being hurt, that if I try to show her I love her, that she will somehow learn to pass what I do by and set it as routine, that it becomes stupid. Deep inside all men are more afraid of being hurt than many women, we just don't realize it until we take a look at our past. We are so afraid that we will be hurt that we will begin to hide and even destroy what we feel because we don't know how to deal with it. What we need is some reinforcement. Tell him that it is okay, that you won't push him away. Tell him that it is okay to show you that he loves you. That you love him.
Help him along.
2006-11-05 14:09:17 · answer #1 · answered by Montana R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He isn't hiding his feelings. He's just a simple man and thats it. If you wanted the depth of emotion that women have, you'd be with a woman. After six years you've had time to figure out a hundred men. Men only have a few emotions like mad, happy, or hor*y. Sorry if that's a little to straight forward but I think I'm just being honest.
2006-11-05 14:07:04 · answer #2 · answered by jbsim75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men just feel shy, but 6 years is way too long for him to not be loving and sweet until you're about to have sex, you know? Trade him in for a better model.
2006-11-05 14:06:37 · answer #3 · answered by Masta Batang Dollar Billz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men are hard to figure out. There are more out there like him, trust me I am married to one. I have been married for going 20 years , and we have 1 boy about to turn 18 and 2 beautiful girls. The things you should look at is are the things that attracted you to him. The way he looked at you , touched you and so forth. Try to bring that person back out in him and your relationship will become stronger, and more loving.
2006-11-05 14:03:48 · answer #4 · answered by confused 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try hard to understand this, you do not want to know what we really think. We have to protect your mind by not letting you know us. We can sleep out in the rain in the jungles of Vietnam with the snakes, bugs and all kind of creepy things and deal with it. Watch your pal get blown up in Iraq, and not lose our minds. And a lot more but you get my point. We can be as hard as we have to be, to protect the ones we love. That is the way we Roll.
2006-11-05 14:24:26 · answer #5 · answered by bigslick60 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very hard for guys.
We think about sex every 6 seconds.
That is an awful lot of noise to try and think through.
We don't get good at it until about 30.
We are just wired that way.
Competition for mates wiring I think.
Look if you knew the nasty little things that we think of and drive us you would be disgusted.
It's not our fault. We really logically don't want to be like this.
And to give in is frightening to the point of super embarrassment.
We are always living on the edge of disgusting.
2006-11-05 14:02:16 · answer #6 · answered by Kaustaub 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
this is actually fairly typical.
You can with some effort perhaps get him to be more emotional w/ you.
I think it is partially genetics, but mostly training. If a man is emotional then he might be very afraid of looking "like a wuss" espcially if there is lots of "machismo" and also those exposed emotions can be used by others (mainly men, some women) to attack him or to attack back.
2006-11-05 14:02:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We don't wanna waste time fixing or thinking about a situation, we just wan't it done, and done oftenly in the case of sex. So we do what ever it takes to get You in the mood, even if it's sappy lovie stuff that secretly we don't relaly like much at all.
2006-11-05 13:58:47 · answer #8 · answered by fantasticopinionsfree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think when males show their feelings they get in trouble with other men and boys. Sometimes they are called sissies or gay or something like that. I have a boy friend who is very open about his feelings. He gets emotional and crys and loves to cuddle (we dont have sex because we are too young). He loves his mother and loves when she gives him warm milk and cookies. He loves when his mom tucks him in and kisses him. He cuddles his special stuffed animals.
Let me tell you how I met him. We were in day camp over the summer and I noticed that a lot of boys would pick on him; call him gay sissy etc. He would tell them to stop and they would pick up the pace. Often only an adult could make them stop and usually after he started to cry. I started to defend them and told them to BUG OFF! Ok I fell in love with him and started to hang out with him. Ok once when I was not around him doing something else, he told the boys a secret that really got them going. He told them that his mom puts him to bed at 8:30 on school nights. That reallyt got them going! I went over there and yelled at them to LEAVE HIM ALONE! One boy started pushing me and he grabbed that boy and picked him up and THREW him into a fence. He got suspended and grounded by his mom but after that they never teased him again.
Jamie is very strong and brave but he's sweet, innocent, loves soft cuddly things and shows his feelings. My dad is training him into more boy things like sports (too my chagrin) but I'm glad my dad and mom like him.
2006-11-05 14:15:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men are like that. If he is great in every other way then learn to live with it. Sometimes the schmoozers are also cheaters. Better then that he doesn't show his feelings.
Or maybe he doesn't have them...LOL...
2006-11-05 14:01:03 · answer #10 · answered by onedot.darling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋