Why am I Arrogant?

Question

People say im arrogant, i think I'm just confident in myself and things people say don't effect me. What is the line between arrogance and confidence, and how do I change people's view of me?

Answer 1

La Rochefoucauld had this figured out 340 years ago.

"Pride, as if weary of its own artifices and changes of face, after having played single-handed all the parts in the human comedy, puts on its natural expression and reveals itself as arrogance. Thus, strictly speaking, arrogance is the overt manifestation of pride."

-- La Rochefoucauld, Maxims (#568)
from the Penguin edition translated by Leonard Tancock

If la Rochefoucauld is right --and he is -- then there IS NO LINE between arrogance and confidence. Maxim #568 was so shocking and offensive that he withdrew it from later editions of the Maxims.

The ultimate answer to your question, how to change people's view of you, is to utterly develop some humility. Maxim #563 (also withdrawn) on self-love can help you if you study it well enough to fully understand it. You can also email me privately on this issue.

Or you an choose door number two: walk into a room for the rest of your life, and if there are ten or more people in that room who don't know you, several of them will instantly hate you and never change. It's a social death sentence, but you can survive it if you are deft enough.

Answer 2

Confidence is knowing you do something well (for example), arrogance is bragging about it...if you find yourself "tooting your own horn" often, then you'd likely be seen as arrogant...if you're good at something or a good person (or whatever it may be) people will figure that out from getting to know you...if they ask about your skill at something you do well, it's okay to say you are very skilled, but if you go on bragging about awards you've recieved or accolades or such, that might be seen as arrogant...

If your normal demeanor is one of "i don't care what you think" then you're probably going to be seen as arrogant...but the fact is, simply because you've posted this question here, that you DO care what other people think...and that's okay and 100% normal...

...it's human nature to want to be liked and/or respected...and very few people who say "I don't care what anyone thinks" are telling the truth...it's hard not to care because we're wired TO care...

Be less cocky...be more friendly and approachable if you want others to have a more warm/fuzzy feeling about you...you may even like yourself better that way...

Answer 3

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Why am I Arrogant?
People say im arrogant, i think I'm just confident in myself and things people say don't effect me. What is the line between arrogance and confidence, and how do I change people's view of me?

Answer 6

There are many ways to be arrogant and I dont know you but maybe if you focus on making others understand that you are listening to them when they have a difference of opinion and then let them have the last word, it will help. I know that it has helped me a lot. It also helps to understand that the most intelligent minds and the ones that are open and able to consider all sides of a thought.

Answer 7

For me there is a thin line between arrogance and confidence.. A little step beyond self confidence is arrogance... Confidence is acting so sure of yourself of what you are doing or answering, not to the extend that people would feel bad about you or people would envy you... Let your confidence build the bridge between you and people around you...Be humble....

Answer 8

Confidence is when you believe in yourself. Arrogance is when you think you are better than everybody. In order to clam your arrogance down, you need to show ways to humble yourself Take interest in other people. Show them that you actually care about them. People's view would not change overnight, it takes time. But just show interest them. And you will be okay.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

arrogance is often a mask for insecurity. you probably come off arrogant because you are overcompensating for your insecurities. Truly confident people have an understated belief in themselves, they don't need to brag or wave it in your face but arrogant people do.